Ways to incorporate loved ones no longer alive.

Sweetheart · 3 November 2011 at 6:04PM

sorry - this post is old and I didnt realise - deleted it - sorry xxx

abi-em-mum83 wrote: »

Hi my dad passed away almost 6 years ago and we were extremely close, more like best friends than father daughter. Anyhoo we are getting married May2013 and Id love a way of having something on the day as a nod to my dad. He was such a big personality and so well loved by everyone it feels like something very big is missing, and I'd like a way of incorporating him there, so hes not forgotten, without being morbid!
I am planning on having his wedding ring tied on ribbon and attached to my bouquet, and I know my h2b will raise a toast to him during the meal, along with a couple of funny anecdotes. Does anyone else have any nice ideas? When I ask my h2b he comes up with funny/daft ideas like setting a place and putting his ashes there!!
Im struggling because we were so close, and so much of the wedding usually involves moments with your dad (e.g walking down the aisle, speech etc) it feels like something massive is missing on my day, and I know Im going to be a blubbering mess, missing him!

abi-em-mum83 · 3 November 2011 at 6:55PM

Wow those tables are beautiful! I think if I had to carry on without acknowledging my dad I would be more emotional! He was such a big influence in my life, and a friend to my h2b as well as a fil I need him to still be part of the day but not in a maudling way! I love the ideas of taking a button hole to the grave, unfortunately we havent scattered my dads ashes anywhere yet :-(
Thanks for all your replies and suggestions, its been really helpful, and also comforting hearing from people who've been in similar situations!x

kiss_me_now9 · 3 November 2011 at 8:41PM

My cousin was my Grandads little princess and she adored him too... unfortunately he passed a few years before she got married but he inspired in her a love of Millwall football club and she had a Millwall blue colour theme. My other cousin wore his coveted Millwall tie when he married his wife. Maybe something like your h2b wearing his cufflinks?