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    • annetheman
    • By annetheman 5th Oct 18, 3:52 PM
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    Making new friends in the gym
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    • 5th Oct 18, 3:52 PM
    Making new friends in the gym 5th Oct 18 at 3:52 PM
    Hi there,

    I'm joining my local gym purely to make new friends.

    I would like to meet people in my area as I moved here purely to be closer to work and don't have any friends other than my colleagues who I don't see at weekends. Weekends and evenings can be extremely lonely for me.

    What do you suggest I do to make new gym buddies? Eventually, I would like them to be shopping buddies, dinner-on-a-Tuesday buddies, weekend-brunch buddies etc. but I don't want to seem unbelievably creepy.

    Any suggestions on where to start - perhaps joining a class and then offering some away-from-class joint excercise on another day? After-class water? I don't know? How do people make friends at the gym
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    • katiekittykat
    • By katiekittykat 5th Oct 18, 3:54 PM
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    • 5th Oct 18, 3:54 PM
    Hi,

    Doing the classes are always a good place to start as you will soon get chatting to people, and the rest will follow naturally

    x
    Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.
    • NeilCr
    • By NeilCr 5th Oct 18, 4:44 PM
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    • 5th Oct 18, 4:44 PM
    Hi,

    Doing the classes are always a good place to start as you will soon get chatting to people, and the rest will follow naturally

    x
    Originally posted by katiekittykat
    Agreed.

    I have a number of friends that I first met at gym classes. But, you do have to go regularly to the same ones and gradually get to know people. It doesn't happen straightaway.

    And walking into classes can be daunting for the first time. They can appear cliquey as the regulars know each other and the teacher and there is quite a lot of "in talk"
    • parking_question_chap
    • By parking_question_chap 7th Oct 18, 4:10 PM
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    • 7th Oct 18, 4:10 PM
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    • 7th Oct 18, 4:10 PM
    Classes are much better for meeting people than the gym floor.
    • DUTR
    • By DUTR 7th Oct 18, 4:38 PM
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    • 7th Oct 18, 4:38 PM
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    • 7th Oct 18, 4:38 PM
    Hi there,

    I'm joining my local gym purely to make new friends.

    I would like to meet people in my area as I moved here purely to be closer to work and don't have any friends other than my colleagues who I don't see at weekends. Weekends and evenings can be extremely lonely for me.

    What do you suggest I do to make new gym buddies? Eventually, I would like them to be shopping buddies, dinner-on-a-Tuesday buddies, weekend-brunch buddies etc. but I don't want to seem unbelievably creepy.

    Any suggestions on where to start - perhaps joining a class and then offering some away-from-class joint excercise on another day? After-class water? I don't know? How do people make friends at the gym
    Originally posted by annetheman
    Not creepy but to me a bit controlling if you have a must execute agenda, the people you meet there will have their own lives too.
    At the moment I am going to salsa classes, the one class they like to go for bevvies after, for me dance and home (other than the social events). But as others have suggested being out and in places where folk share a similar agenda increases your chances of meeting a good acquaintance.
    • Sibz
    • By Sibz 12th Oct 18, 11:00 PM
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    • 12th Oct 18, 11:00 PM
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    • 12th Oct 18, 11:00 PM
    Agreed.

    I have a number of friends that I first met at gym classes. But, you do have to go regularly to the same ones and gradually get to know people. It doesn't happen straightaway.

    And walking into classes can be daunting for the first time. They can appear cliquey as the regulars know each other and the teacher and there is quite a lot of "in talk"
    Originally posted by NeilCr

    So true lol....
    • Sibz
    • By Sibz 12th Oct 18, 11:05 PM
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    • 12th Oct 18, 11:05 PM
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    • 12th Oct 18, 11:05 PM
    Hi there,

    I'm joining my local gym purely to make new friends.

    I would like to meet people in my area as I moved here purely to be closer to work and don't have any friends other than my colleagues who I don't see at weekends. Weekends and evenings can be extremely lonely for me.

    What do you suggest I do to make new gym buddies? Eventually, I would like them to be shopping buddies, dinner-on-a-Tuesday buddies, weekend-brunch buddies etc. but I don't want to seem unbelievably creepy.

    Any suggestions on where to start - perhaps joining a class and then offering some away-from-class joint excercise on another day? After-class water? I don't know? How do people make friends at the gym
    Originally posted by annetheman
    Katie is right about classes.

    Local gyms (usually the council gyms mostly) have good friendly atmospheres and a large social element. Even the gyms (despite the age old reputation) are good for socialising...

    Just take it easy and slowly, talk to the staff, if you tell them your main goal is socialising they will be able to help you more than anyone on here (no offence - just that they'll literally know the other customers and be able to point you to the right people/class, or away from a wrong one )

    Hope it all goes great for you
    • Gloomendoom
    • By Gloomendoom 15th Oct 18, 11:53 AM
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    • 15th Oct 18, 11:53 AM
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    • 15th Oct 18, 11:53 AM
    I think you would need to pick the gym carefully.

    My wife is a gym regular so I showed her this thread. Most of the people she works out with are straight men. None of whom, in her opinion, would make particularly willing shopping buddies, dinner-on-a-Tuesday buddies or weekend-brunch buddies etc.
    Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience. - Mark Twain
    • jenniewb
    • By jenniewb 18th Oct 18, 5:59 AM
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    • 18th Oct 18, 5:59 AM
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    • 18th Oct 18, 5:59 AM
    Try circuit classes. When I used to do circuit classes of all the group exercise classes I did, they seemed the less cliquey and the most talkative of everything and also had the greatest range of people, from the bloke who was ex army to the girl who would always be running late because she had her lipstick to apply (we all have our quirks!)


    I think you have to try a range of classes though to see where you best feel at home- with all the friends in the world if you hate circuits to the point of despair, don't do them! It could be other classes in your gym are just as friendly. Don't be suprized if it takes a long time to make friends close enough to consider dinner with though; people normally take a while to value friendship more than the odd nod before the class and drink after a class.
    • Zana2018
    • By Zana2018 29th Oct 18, 8:44 PM
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    Hi there,

    I'm joining my local gym purely to make new friends.

    I would like to meet people in my area as I moved here purely to be closer to work and don't have any friends other than my colleagues who I don't see at weekends. Weekends and evenings can be extremely lonely for me.

    What do you suggest I do to make new gym buddies? Eventually, I would like them to be shopping buddies, dinner-on-a-Tuesday buddies, weekend-brunch buddies etc. but I don't want to seem unbelievably creepy.

    Any suggestions on where to start - perhaps joining a class and then offering some away-from-class joint excercise on another day? After-class water? I don't know? How do people make friends at the gym
    Originally posted by annetheman
    I know you said gym specifically, but are you interested in team sports at all? Or even racquet sports like squash, tennis, or badminton? These sports (in larger gyms/clubs) usually have beginners/improvers classes, club nights etc. And these allow you to socialise a lot more as they are effectively team sports. Personally, I met my fiancee at our local tennis club.

    Alternatively, as people suggest, classes are a great way to make friends, usually some of the regulars also go to the gym, and if you start to recognise them, an occasional (non-creepy) smile or nod of the head over a few weeks will get you recognised as well. I would definitely not expect to start socialising with them outside of the gym for a good few weeks or perhaps even a month or 2 later. It'll be slow going, but stick to it.
    • jameshouston135
    • By jameshouston135 30th Oct 18, 11:25 AM
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    wow what interesting it is.
    • k.green
    • By k.green 15th Nov 18, 2:20 PM
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    Classes are probably the best way to get to know people. I've joined a few gyms in the past and have made a few friends through them but it often takes a long time, plus most of the gyms I've been to have been clique with many members already being friends outside of the gym. My advice would be to go to regular classes that you enjoy, be friendly with everyone but don't expect to become friends straight away and even if you don't make friends at least you have somewhere to go in the evenings and at the weekend.
    • loskie
    • By loskie 15th Nov 18, 2:25 PM
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    team sports would be a far better way
    • ska lover
    • By ska lover 15th Nov 18, 2:34 PM
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    Local net ball team?
    The opposite of what you know...is also true
    • bouicca21
    • By bouicca21 16th Nov 18, 7:47 AM
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    I've found it very difficult to make new friends at the gym. Even in classes there seem to be well established groups. So I'd suggest joining something like meet up.
    • NeilCr
    • By NeilCr 16th Nov 18, 11:56 AM
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    One of the things I found with classes is to try and stand in the same place/sit on the same bike. People like routine and I had the same folks around me quite often. Then you get chatting over the weeks especially if you've got there early to bag your place.

    I moved down here from London a number of years back and, apart my best friend and her family, didn't know anyone. So I joined a few places (including the gym) and started volunteering. Apart from my meeting my OH at the volunteering (!) I've made more good friends through the gym classes then anywhere else,
    Last edited by NeilCr; 16-11-2018 at 12:11 PM.
    • bella_m
    • By bella_m 18th Nov 18, 2:40 PM
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    Going regularly is key and try to hit the same time of the day each time. You are more likely to see the same people that way whether it is a class, a sport at the gym, weights etc. Just do whatever you are into and like minded people will surround you. Good luck.
    • parking_question_chap
    • By parking_question_chap 19th Nov 18, 2:40 PM
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    I agree with the above post in terms of like minded people will surround you. But that doesnt mean they want to chat, I generally train at the same time of the day and so see the same faces. Though I dont think any of them would be best pleased if I engaged them in idle chit chat. In fact one of the reasons I wear headphones is so people will not speak to me.

    I would say its fine to chat in classes either before or after, not so much in the gym unless you know the person.
    • Tallaght
    • By Tallaght 19th Nov 18, 3:30 PM
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    I have found taking the various mixed fitness classes helps to meet new people.
    • Baozhai
    • By Baozhai 23rd Nov 18, 6:40 AM
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    Yea that's good as you get to know more about different people and learn from their experiences. Adds new flavor to one's personality.
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