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    • Returntosender
    • By Returntosender 11th May 18, 5:41 PM
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    Hate Weddings...
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    • 11th May 18, 5:41 PM
    Hate Weddings... 11th May 18 at 5:41 PM
    I couldn't be happier to be engaged to the man I adore. The problem is, I hate weddings. The pomp and circumstance makes me cringe and the money people throw away on them makes me want to throw up.

    So, I'm trying to plan a very low budget, low faff wedding. I'd rather not get hitched in a Register Office so I'm trying to think outside the box when it comes to the venue - I absolutely don't want to spend more than a few hundred quid on the venue.

    Am I mad thinking this is doable?
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    • Gloomendoom
    • By Gloomendoom 11th May 18, 6:42 PM
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    I think you will struggle. Have you considered one of the smaller register offices?

    The register office I used for my first marriage was essentially just a front room in a house in Scotland.

    Fees were around 90, if I remember correctly.
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    • Tigsteroonie
    • By Tigsteroonie 11th May 18, 6:45 PM
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    The expense of getting married other than in a Register Office isn't the marriage fees or the venue hire - it's the cost of getting the Registrar to attend. You could be looking at 300+ simply for an official to leave their building and walk down the road into the building you choose. If you're thinking low budget, that's not low budget.

    Instead, have a look around your local towns and select a Register Office that you like. We chose to marry in the neighbouring Town Hall because their Register Office was in the main building, which was quite ornate and had lots of lovely stained glass windows. It also had its own car park, which can be useful in town centres!

    We pulled our wedding in for under 500 but then we only had four guests.
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    • Returntosender
    • By Returntosender 11th May 18, 7:30 PM
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    • 11th May 18, 7:30 PM
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    • 11th May 18, 7:30 PM
    The expense of getting married other than in a Register Office isn't the marriage fees or the venue hire - it's the cost of getting the Registrar to attend. You could be looking at 300+ simply for an official to leave their building and walk down the road into the building you choose. If you're thinking low budget, that's not low budget.

    Instead, have a look around your local towns and select a Register Office that you like. We chose to marry in the neighbouring Town Hall because their Register Office was in the main building, which was quite ornate and had lots of lovely stained glass windows. It also had its own car park, which can be useful in town centres!

    We pulled our wedding in for under 500 but then we only had four guests.
    Originally posted by Tigsteroonie
    Can you marry in a Register Office that isn't local to you? I thought it had to be in the county you lived.. our local RO is hideous....
    • Gloomendoom
    • By Gloomendoom 11th May 18, 7:34 PM
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    • 11th May 18, 7:34 PM
    Can you marry in a Register Office that isn't local to you? I thought it had to be in the county you lived.. our local RO is hideous....
    Originally posted by Returntosender
    Mine was 300 miles away from where I lived.
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    • skimper
    • By skimper 14th May 18, 2:32 PM
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    • 14th May 18, 2:32 PM
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    • 14th May 18, 2:32 PM
    Our registrar cost us 650! Nearly choked when she told me the price. that was in East Cheshire.
    • TonyMMM
    • By TonyMMM 14th May 18, 4:17 PM
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    • 14th May 18, 4:17 PM
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    • 14th May 18, 4:17 PM
    Can you marry in a Register Office that isn't local to you? I thought it had to be in the county you lived.. our local RO is hideous....
    Originally posted by Returntosender
    You have to give notice in the area you live in (just some form filling and ID checking), the ceremony can be in another register office, or licenced venue, wherever you like.
    Last edited by TonyMMM; 14-05-2018 at 4:19 PM.
    • pigpen
    • By pigpen 15th May 18, 12:23 PM
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    • 15th May 18, 12:23 PM
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    Our local registry office is an ugly a$$ new-ish building.. the rooms are sparse and it is right in th emiddle of the town centre with nowhere even for photographs to be taken.. We would have to give notice there.. I looked into exactly this a while back.

    You book the place you want.. give notice at the place you live.. the paperwork is all online so it is sent straight over without any actual paperwork exchanging hands, when this is done you ring the chosen venue back, tell them you have given notice and they will formalise the booking. Within 2 weeks you should get formal notification that your chosen place has been booked.

    It is that simple.. 2-3 phonecalls and an hour at your local office and you're all set.

    You need an idea of guest numbers as registry offices have a number of rooms available depending on the size of the group.

    IF I were to get married I wouldn't tell anyone.. I would book it, have 2 witnesses and just do it.. the sheer logistics of getting the 2 families together is too stressful.
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