i can't be bothered

ceridwen

Buxtonrabbitgreen

squeaky wrote: »

If your OH is out of work - I'd be inclined to hand him a cookbook and a pinny.

couldnt have put it better myself. Only in my case I'd also be handing him a rota of hours worked (both my paid work and the housework for the house) and saying "We're doing half each - think I've covered my half already with the paid job I'm doing - over to you for all the other half - heres the rubber gloves"

donny-gal

ceridwen wrote: »

couldnt have put it better myself. Only in my case I'd also be handing him a rota of hours worked (both my paid work and the housework for the house) and saying "We're doing half each - think I've covered my half already with the paid job I'm doing - over to you for all the other half - heres the rubber gloves"

Too right, only I would hand the whole house/cooking/cleaning/ironing/shopping over to my DH, and I did at one stage when he had to go on strike and I was the only earner. Stood me well for the future as he couldn't not claim not to know how to do anything. If yours claims he doesn't know how, write instructions, don't fall for showing by doing.

clairewp

Morning all, thank you all for your replies, hubby does work full time so not home till 6 every night.buy which time i like to have (if i am in good mum mood)the dinner ready to be dished up.
I am going to start meal planning with my kids this week and see if that helps and will get some stuff out for slow cooker .
Thank you all once again it,s nice to know i'm nit the only like this.

thriftmonster

You mentioned that they like corned beef. How about my friend's recipe for "Barker Pie"

Layer in a dish: sliced par boiled potato slices (l/o are fine), a tin of corned beef, chopped onion and a tin of baked beans. Add a bit of stock if you want - cover with pastry (frozen if you hate to cook) and bake for 45 - 60 mins.

I love to cook and I do it all the time - I even make money from it - and even I keep a couple of TTD tomato pasta sauces (they are the best IMO) in the cupboard for desperation nights - pasta, tomato sauce and grated cheese

Good luck.

buxtonrabbitgreen

donny-gal wrote: »

Too right, only I would hand the whole house/cooking/cleaning/ironing/shopping over to my DH, and I did at one stage when he had to go on strike and I was the only earner. Stood me well for the future as he couldn't not claim not to know how to do anything. If yours claims he doesn't know how, write instructions, don't fall for showing by doing.

you are all right. But it only causes arguments because any request is construed as nagging. And i can't be bothered with the ensuing arguements. But, after a bit af a freak the other day, when the only thing I asked him to do was put the chip pan in to soak, things improved a bit. He got the dry washing in and unloaded the dish washer. I heaped praise on him, so lets see if it continues to work.
Today I have made 3 apple and blackberry crumbles with stuff out of the freezer and 12 cookies with dough out of the freezer, hoovered the car and got most of the washing dry outside and put some dough in the breadmaker for rolls.
I also found some labled cooked mince and veg mince (unusually organized of me) and got them out so shepherds pie tonight or starve. When I was in Australia for 3 weeks they all ate and the house was tidy when I got back. So they all do know how to do stuff. but they think it's my job.

maypole

You can make "takeaway" type meals at home such as Pizza or stir fry and you know what is going into it and it doesn't have to be unhealthy. I would not bow to childrens requests for lots of take aways, that would be expensive and unhealthy.

ceridwen

..looks like we need input from someone who has managed to "educate" their O.H. into realising the housework is everyones responsibility;) I couldnt be doing with a man who would rather argue with me than do his share of the housework:D Of course there is a possibility there for how to "educate" recalcitrant OH's - they refuse to provide household "services" - you refuse to provide other "services";) if you get my drift:D

kittynortheast

My DS is quite fussy but he does eat a selected batch of home brewed meals chilli, spag bol, dinners and such. I refuse to eat only what he does so when I cook one of his liked meals I save an extra portion or two, put it in a little tub and put it in the freezer, so when we (me, OH & DD) have something he doesn't like I'll either get out his and cook from scratch or get us all something out of the freezer. I do know what you mean tho I did a batch of soup one day this week and bol sauce another and did get the feeling my life is all just cooking (I work almost full time at the mo). Although I now:-
a. don't like most ready meals
b. Am now so tight I can't part with the cash for them.
c. Can't bear the thought of what lurks in them that we can't see!! Esp the cheaper ones.

kazmeister

Hi clairewp

I have PM'd you as it was a long message

meanmarie

Afternoon all,

Children and food...my youngest is 26 so those days are a bit of a fog, but there are the grandchildren! I only remember that DD2 was a fussy eater as a toddler...didn't like dinners and ate bits of cheese, bread, raw carrots, more or less anything she could eat out of her hand. I didn't have the time money or inclinations to offer choices, as Stefejb said, dinner was dinner and the alternative was bread and cheese or jam, get it yourself!

I am now a grumpy old woman with 4 grandchildren...and notice that the ones who are given a choice do not eat as healthily as the other 2 so find then infinitely easier to feed

Good luck Claire, but baby steps is the easiest and best way to go

Marie