Watty's Awakening

beanielou

That must have been scary. So pleased that you managed to deal with it so well. 🤗

teapot2

Hooray too for kind neighbours, hope you feel able to take her up on the offer

debtfreewannabe321

Morning Watty, hope you're okay, have you had a chance to flick through that book I messaged about? There are some really good helpful tips in there. And the best one I found was just take each day as it comes, be kind to yourself and take breaks when you are feeling overwhelmed with life 

Cherryfudge

I'm sorry to hear you had a tough patch. You found a way through it though and you have the support of your neighbour which is great.

I wonder if the speed of change is somehow triggering this? You have pressures of work as well as changing your physical environment and dealing with memories, and that's a lot, so perhaps the pressures are finding an outlet? That's just a thought.

I hope today is better.

Watty1

debtfreewannabe321 said:

Morning Watty, hope you're okay, have you had a chance to flick through that book I messaged about? There are some really good helpful tips in there. And the best one I found was just take each day as it comes, be kind to yourself and take breaks when you are feeling overwhelmed with life 

I have but my goodness it is a really hard read.  I probably should have read some of it yesterday.  

Watty1

Cherryfudge said:

I'm sorry to hear you had a tough patch. You found a way through it though and you have the support of your neighbour which is great.

I wonder if the speed of change is somehow triggering this? You have pressures of work as well as changing your physical environment and dealing with memories, and that's a lot, so perhaps the pressures are finding an outlet? That's just a thought.

I hope today is better.

I think this is partly true.   Something else that has come up is that baby Fell still has problem with his feet and is going through his teenage stroppiness.  It has just felt like one more thing to deal with and I am now wondering if he is the right addition to my little herd.  I've tested the water with a few people to see if they know of a home that would work for him.   I'm open to solutions for him but I think a youngster is too much for me on top of everything else.

Cherryfudge

That's interesting as he is the one you rarely seem to talk about. Even a temporary home might help you through this time. Did you set out to buy him ('I need a Fell pony') or did he (or someone else) talk you into having him?

daisy_1571

Cherryfudge that was what I was sort of wondering too.  Lots of changes, the brain likes familiar even if familiar was carp.  Thinking of introducing a third person into your business is perhaps scarier to your interior thoughts than you realise?  Its handing over a bit of control to unknown 

Watty1

Cherryfudge said:

That's interesting as he is the one you rarely seem to talk about. Even a temporary home might help you through this time. Did you set out to buy him ('I need a Fell pony') or did he (or someone else) talk you into having him?

he is a lovely cute chap but he has a lot of teenage attitude and he needs me to stand up to that, not harshly just in a very firm way and the best way to put it is i feel I lack stuffing at this time.

i actually cannot pick out his feet and I had a behaviourist out on Friday as I had decided to sort this out. I tried to do what she said on Sunday and just could not manage.  I feel there is shades of "wont"  that I am not comfortable with at this time.   Too much more than I can cope with.

I bought him because it is a lovely breed and I needed a companion so that i could ride my Charming Cob and Most Handsome would stop having nervous breakdowns.   However I (a) didn't really think it through and (b) the seller who was a 'friend' was less than truthful about him.    He is a very lovely chap, adores people but he is young and I just don't have the time to sort him out, or to be honest, the experience.   I have had opinionated horses before and always worked through it, even Most  Handsome has its days of "wont and bet you can't make me" but i feel I can negotiate and usually win out but Baby Fell is more than I can deal with.    He has a problem with his hooves which does not cause him any pain but simply i cannot treat because the naughty boy won't pick his feet up. This has made me re-think what I am going to do with him.    I did get to the point of healing the feet but I live on sand and they have got bad again and honestly I am at my wits end with that and it made me rethink what on earth I am doing with an unbroken, almost feral pony.  

I struggle with time and the Fell Pony is not getting the time or the attention he deserves.  I should have got an "older been there seen it done it and need an OAP home"  to keep Most Handsome company. Instead i have the complete opposite and I am not really getting anywhere with him and whenever I try to handle him he sets about trying to knock me over.   I think we have not really bonded although I look at him and end up smiling because he is adorable, but, handling him is becoming a struggle and I think I would be better to admit that now than let this situation get any worse.    I'm not sure I can even sell him tbh but I need to try and I need to find a more suitable oldie that I can cope with.

I really wish I had thought it through beforehand, but, the rescues didn't have anything I could have and I'd given up riding because Most Handsome could not be left in the field on his own.     Baby Fell has been a sterling companion, and worth his weight in gold but I am very aware I am not doing him or me any favours.   

Slinky

If you can't sell him, could you swap him for an oldie?