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  • Simon11Simon11 Forumite
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    otb666 said:
    Both my mum and dad have ended up in homes and with weekly charge approx £1000 each any inheritance will be long gone.  
    Having seen my dad's set of grandparents go into care with all their inheritance gone as a result, my mom took another approach with her mum and with her brother, they both took on the care role for her.

    It was a lot of work for them/ sacrifices however the benefits were that she could stay in her home, receive the best care and enjoy moments with their mum.

    Once she passed away, it unlocked a lot of inheritance and my mom who has always worked part-time in low paid jobs said she received more from the inheritance than from working in her career over her lifetime which put it into perspective.

    While I don't need to make any decision around my parents care for hopefully a long time, I am seriously thinking of retiring early to become a carer to help them providing that of course I can support their care needs.

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  • SouthCoastBoySouthCoastBoy Forumite
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    I won't be helping them with house deposits directly, my father in law is in his 90s and if we inherit anything from him we will pass at least 50% on to our two children. 

    Additionally hopefully there will be something left in the pot when we depart this world along with the house.
    It's just my opinion and not advice.
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    BravepantsBravepants Forumite
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    edited 21 March at 10:07AM
    Everyone seems to want to be social and say its a must for retirement. Personally I cant think of anything worse , I retired to get away from people and enjoy the peace and quiet
    Quote from the philosopher Jean Paul Sartre

    ' Hell is other People ' 



    But Jean Paul Sartre's people couldn't get away from each other. In his play, from which this line appers, three people are trapped in a room which is actually Hell. It's more about how we see ourselves and judge ourselves because we can become objects in other peoples' eyes and therefore judged.
    The line has been misunderstood, and certainly doesn't mean all people are hellish and we should hide away from them.  

    I think a good example from a financial point of view is the idea of "Keeping up with the Jones's". Such people who like to spend money to keep up with the neighbours are in hell, because they can't escape their apparent need to spend their money on stuff in a self-imposed competition with other people. It is our own judgment of ourselves under the assumption of the way other people judge us that keeps us in "Hell". 
    If you want to be rich, live like you're poor; if you want to be poor, live like you're rich.
  • AlbermarleAlbermarle Forumite
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    repeat said:
    I'm imagining our 3 kids will need help to get on the properly ladder unless the housing market miraculously becomes more affordable. The timing on this help - well let's see. If they won't work then forget it but if they are doing their best to make their way in the world then the plan is to help them. they don't know it and they are still too young to care (oldest is 14).
    Although you can find that some young adults are not that keen for you to help them too much, or maybe more accurately, too obviously.. It is a kind of independence issue.
    I found  that you had to dress it up a bit as a kind of practical issue/paying directly for things, rather than just giving them money. Such as paying for driving lessons/car. Paying for Uni accommodation. Giving them money specifically to top up a LISA, and probably one day helping with a house deposit on top of the LISA.
    On the other hand one is back at home for a year or two and insists on paying a reasonable rent and paying for some supermarket shopping.
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    But Jean Paul Sartre's people couldn't get away from each other. In his play, from which this line appers, three people are trapped in a room which is actually Hell. 

    Sounds like many workplaces ;)



  • BravepantsBravepants Forumite
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    LV_426 said:



    But Jean Paul Sartre's people couldn't get away from each other. In his play, from which this line appers, three people are trapped in a room which is actually Hell. 

    Sounds like many workplaces ;)




    That I DO agree with!
    If you want to be rich, live like you're poor; if you want to be poor, live like you're rich.
  • Spreadsheet_AddictSpreadsheet_Addict Forumite
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    LV_426 said:



    But Jean Paul Sartre's people couldn't get away from each other. In his play, from which this line appers, three people are trapped in a room which is actually Hell. 

    Sounds like many workplaces ;)



    To quote Dave Lister "Yeah, but all his mates were French."
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