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Pls remember Debt-Free Wannabe's for support and help not judgement
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Martin (Lewis) made the following announcement a few years back. But the link in the stickies is broken. Anyhow, here is what Martin said:
"Dear Money savers.....
Debt Free Wannabe is one of my favorite boards on this site. It's also one which runs a delicate balance. Many people who have serious debts have hidden them for a time, been scared to confront them, suffered depression or have even had suicidal thoughts because of them. While elsewhere on the site robust discussion is welcomed, in Debt Free Wannabe may I politely ask Money Savers to err on the side of kindness.
Of course many are in debt due to over-spending, financial illiteracy, or mismanagement of money (and some through no fault, only due to change of circumstance). Yet the fact they are here means they're looking for help, guidance and to take charge of their finances - and that in itself is admirable Please use your knowledge and kindness to help rather than to berate. This board often has the power to move me to tears with the sheer power of the community that's grown and I hope it will continue.
If you feel it’s important to point something out that the poster may find negative but needs to understand, then it's not a problem, but do think carefully about your phrasing - people can be very sensitive and nuances may mislead when it’s in an online Forum. I love this forum. Many have been and seen through their debts. Yet as it gets larger it's easy for the 'anonymity' of posting to mean as well as protecting users, it's easy to 'post and leave'. I hope this note may act as a wee reminder what it's all about.
Martin"
"Dear Money savers.....
Debt Free Wannabe is one of my favorite boards on this site. It's also one which runs a delicate balance. Many people who have serious debts have hidden them for a time, been scared to confront them, suffered depression or have even had suicidal thoughts because of them. While elsewhere on the site robust discussion is welcomed, in Debt Free Wannabe may I politely ask Money Savers to err on the side of kindness.
Of course many are in debt due to over-spending, financial illiteracy, or mismanagement of money (and some through no fault, only due to change of circumstance). Yet the fact they are here means they're looking for help, guidance and to take charge of their finances - and that in itself is admirable Please use your knowledge and kindness to help rather than to berate. This board often has the power to move me to tears with the sheer power of the community that's grown and I hope it will continue.
If you feel it’s important to point something out that the poster may find negative but needs to understand, then it's not a problem, but do think carefully about your phrasing - people can be very sensitive and nuances may mislead when it’s in an online Forum. I love this forum. Many have been and seen through their debts. Yet as it gets larger it's easy for the 'anonymity' of posting to mean as well as protecting users, it's easy to 'post and leave'. I hope this note may act as a wee reminder what it's all about.
Martin"
I work within the voluntary sector, supporting vulnerable people to rebuild their lives.
I love my job
I love my job
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remember Debt-Free Wannabe's for support and help not judgement
Needs to be added to the top banner for this board, as it was on the old forum.🎉 MORTGAGE FREE (First time!) 30/09/2016 🎉 And now we go again…New mortgage taken 01/09/23 🏡
Balance as at 01/09/23 = £115,000.00
Balance as at 31/12/23 = £112,000.00
Balance as at 31/08/24 = £105,400.00SOA CALCULATOR (for DFW newbies): SOA Calculatorshe/her4 -
I just checked a screenshot of the old DFW board. The announcement was actually the top sticky on the old board. You can just about see it in the photo below:
I work within the voluntary sector, supporting vulnerable people to rebuild their lives.
I love my job1 -
Ahh yes - and the way it sat "always visible" was of course what made me think it must be in the forum header banner!
Any chance if a board guide sees this (Sorry @sourcrates tagging you as you're the only one I can think of!) this thread could be drawn to the attention of the admins to try to get this sorted? It's actually quite important for this board to clearly display that message, I'd suggest.🎉 MORTGAGE FREE (First time!) 30/09/2016 🎉 And now we go again…New mortgage taken 01/09/23 🏡
Balance as at 01/09/23 = £115,000.00
Balance as at 31/12/23 = £112,000.00
Balance as at 31/08/24 = £105,400.00SOA CALCULATOR (for DFW newbies): SOA Calculatorshe/her2 -
EssexHebridean said:Ahh yes - and the way it sat "always visible" was of course what made me think it must be in the forum header banner!
Any chance if a board guide sees this (Sorry @sourcrates tagging you as you're the only one I can think of!) this thread could be drawn to the attention of the admins to try to get this sorted? It's actually quite important for this board to clearly display that message, I'd suggest.
As you can imagine a move on this scale has thrown up all kinds of problems, i will add it to the list though, but don`t expect anything to happen fast.I’m a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on the Debt free wannabe, Credit file and ratings, and Bankruptcy and living with it boards. If you need any help on these boards, do let me know. Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any posts you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button, or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own and not the official line of MoneySavingExpert.For free non-judgemental debt advice, contact either Stepchange, National Debtline, or CitizensAdviceBureaux.Link to SOA Calculator- https://www.stoozing.com/soa.php The "provit letter" is here-https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2607247/letter-when-you-know-nothing-about-about-the-debt-aka-prove-it-letter2 -
If there wern't so many stickies on this board already, I would suggest - as a temporary measure - making this thread a stickie right at the top of the board until such time as the sentiment gets returned to its rightful place.
As well as closing this thread, of course.1 -
D_M_E said:If there wern't so many stickies on this board already, I would suggest - as a temporary measure - making this thread a stickie right at the top of the board until such time as the sentiment gets returned to its rightful place.
As well as closing this thread, of course.I’m a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on the Debt free wannabe, Credit file and ratings, and Bankruptcy and living with it boards. If you need any help on these boards, do let me know. Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any posts you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button, or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own and not the official line of MoneySavingExpert.For free non-judgemental debt advice, contact either Stepchange, National Debtline, or CitizensAdviceBureaux.Link to SOA Calculator- https://www.stoozing.com/soa.php The "provit letter" is here-https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2607247/letter-when-you-know-nothing-about-about-the-debt-aka-prove-it-letter0
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