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fairclaire

Savvybuyer wrote: »

"Hit the hay" - I was pretending I was taking that literally. But, no, I've always understood what these phrases mean, because I used to read the dictionary for hours:o:o:rotfl::rotfl:.

And... breathe:D. Hope you have success with him.

I'm sure there's social stuff that I'm still unaware of at my age:rotfl:. Sometimes people generally have weird ways of behaving:rotfl:(:D:rotfl:). Yes, I'm sure - I hope - but, no, I don't really understand as it may be if you are more along the spectrum than I am you can't help it even more - I don't appreciate what it's like for you or him - but I know with me (being undiagnosed till adulthood, most likely because mine is 'mild' - even though I first 'knew' 30 years ago (before anyone else at all did:p:D)) it was a case of learning by experience and getting reactions to 'putting your foot in it' that you didn't want again. That made me next time tread ever so more carefully in that area. Problem for me was it can go too much the other way though - you become so afraid of saying anything lest you put your foot in it, you say nothing at all. Not very helpful as you then become even less social and more introverted. I do have to bite my lip though - and the world has, sadly, very sadly, missed out on learning and hearing so much more and gaining a better understanding - because I've very very often decided the best approach is to say nothing at all*.

I'm afraid none of you can take the truth.

And if that my saying that itself provokes you to react, then it's just proved my point!:)

*(Just not worth provoking an argument or even a slightly sticky situation, and I'm never able to give an answer to anyone 'on my feet'. I always lose out in oral conversation. I never really know what to say.)

Bless you Savvy :kisses3: it must have been tough for you, even if you tell me you were oblivious to it. I really do see a little of DS2 future in you and it warms me sometimes. You've given me hope that he'll be accepted somewhere, wherever that might be

OOPS I reacted :rotfl:

Mildred1970

fairclaire wrote: »

It's very sad but the chances are it is true Probably not understandable to most people but more common than you'd think. My mother.....Impossibly beautiful, talented, intelligent beyond my widest dreams, job to die for (a cardiologist) drank herself to death does it stop me drinking? No
it stops me going as far as she did. Drugs are a whole different story

Sorry to hear that about your mother FC :A

I suppose it wouldn't come as a great shock about Peaches, I just sort of hoped that wasn't the reason IYKWIM. Poor girl and her poor family

Savvybuyer

abailey54 wrote: »

Maybe they needed ice for emergency cocktails?

:rotfl: But they could still have put water into the freezer and frozen ice blocks like that. Costs nothing (we already own a plastic ice cube thingy) and additional water from the tap is FREE! (Not on meter.)

fairclaire

Mildred1970 wrote: »

Sorry to hear that about your mother FC :A

I suppose it wouldn't come as a great shock about Peaches, I just sort of hoped that wasn't the reason IYKWIM. Poor girl and her poor family

Probably a moment of TMI although Ive touched on it before.
I know exactly what you mean

fairclaire

Bed for me after my revelations

I'm on for a full day at uni again tomorrow. Cannot believe my first year is nearly over :eek: I actually got there and did it I have about 3 weeks work left to complete my first year

abailey54

fairclaire wrote: »

It's very sad but the chances are it is true Probably not understandable to most people but more common than you'd think. My mother.....Impossibly beautiful, talented, intelligent beyond my widest dreams, job to die for (a cardiologist) drank herself to death does it stop me drinking? No
it stops me going as far as she did. Drugs are a whole different story

Mine too [why is there not an appropriate hug emoticon]

WhoWantsChicken

fairclaire wrote: »

It's very sad but the chances are it is true Probably not understandable to most people but more common than you'd think. My mother.....Impossibly beautiful, talented, intelligent beyond my widest dreams, job to die for (a cardiologist) drank herself to death does it stop me drinking? No
it stops me going as far as she did. Drugs are a whole different story

Unfortunately things like that happen to good people, was speaking about this yesterday, a lot of my friends ended up getting heavy on drugs & I was very quickly going off the rails as well but thankfully due to a recurring illness I wasn't able to hang out with them as much as before but I dread to think what might've happened if I didn't get ill. Not many people are glad of a serious illness but it put a lot of things into perspective. It's not just the "bad kids" that end up on that road though, in a previous incarnation I ended up wrestling a guy to the ground for trying to steal £40 of washing tablets when I did security in a supermarket sounds pretty standard until I seen who it was, it was a "swot" at school, well off parents, great grades, stayed on until 6th year, went to Uni & bang 23yr old restrained on the ground with dirty needles in his pockets. It doesn't matter anymore posh or common, rich or poor it can happen to anybody

Savvybuyer

fairclaire wrote: »

Bless you Savvy :kisses3: it must have been tough for you, even if you tell me you were oblivious to it. I really do see a little of DS2 future in you and it warms me sometimes. You've given me hope that he'll be accepted somewhere, wherever that might be

OOPS I reacted :rotfl:

Nah, that wasn't a reaction (of the sort I meant). No, it was just times when I've said a few things and unwittingly upset people each time (different things over the course of my life). Times that, in retrospect, I now realise why those things happened. Been there. Done it. Walked into someone's room (at student residences) because door was already open. Upset that person, so much so, they turned up a few weeks later and told me so. Had written an apology in the meantime to them - of course, I went on and on into detail and explained why I had done what I had (big mistake - you aren't allowed to explain (as that just increases offence), you simply have to say sorry).

As I said, or suggested, normal people simply aren't willing to begin to try to understand. They are not interested in what you say. They want sorry and that's that. Me - if I received a letter saying sorry yes but also explaining, I'd be interested to read it - and I would, I'd read it all - and I'd probably end up taking the letter writer's opinion on, considering what they said and taking it into account. Quite a proper way of proceeding in my view. I'd find it interesting and learn from it. But ordinary people - don't want to!
Not the interest, the time or the energy. Mine's a far more superior and better approach I think:).

If only...

Anyway...can't be too bothered about other's unwillingness to listen and complete intransigence. Their loss.

Other occasion I remember was going to a job interview. Or rather the interview itself. I probably talked on and on, and gave all examples and evidence as to why I felt I was suitable for the job etc. etc. At end of it, interviewer obviously disliked me and wanted to get rid of me. Slammed the door very firmly shut behind me after I'd left out of it.

Now..tell me who's being polite there?:rotfl:

Of course, it's all explainable and understandable to me now. I probably talked and talked, totally unaware of the interviewer's boredom and disinterest. Not my fault they weren't suitable for their task, of interviewing people and deciding who is suitable based on evidence etc. Normal people just get bored with their jobs. You do, I'm sorry, you're totally useless folks! Lose concentration over 'boring tasks' - can't stand the wherewithal to sit at a computer screen and work for hours on end (within H&S requirements of course) without distraction. Easily bored, attracted by other people's body language around you to be attracted by your eyes towards other people eyes (by the subconscious communication of body language to your brain:p) and engage in social conversations rather than carrying on the job of work.

So much unproductivity is gained through the 25% or whatever amount of time many people admit to being on their I-phone or texting when they should be working. And I'd be less likely to be selected for the position in the first place due to not giving eye contact in an interview and thus appearing to come across as shifty. The very opposite of the truth - as we are so honest!!:rotfl: Ends up, under the normal person in society's approach of selecting people for jobs, choosing the people who can give eye contact and socialise instead of working rather than people who'd actually be at work to do... well, perhaps work. Anyway...

No apologies whatsoever for the 'rant'. (It's the 'truth' you can't take!:rotfl:) And - bizarrely I know - but you can trust me - it's written at a moment, now, when I have no axe to grind or any bugbear or issue on my chest or anywhere else within or without me.

Thanks for listening FC!:)

[Edit:] Oooo...perhaps this post will get noticed by employers and then help create change in our society. If so, it's done a very good job!:):)

....Er...that's if any 'normal' person is still listening and hasn't switched off or skipped as become bored(!).

Naebbirac

vanilla_twist wrote: »

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For my friend the lovely Naebbirac have a great holiday.
V x

Ah that's lovely.Thanks hun.:D
This is the view from our apartment, that I'll be looking at Friday afternoon



Can't wait.:j:j

Just been skipping sooo many pages. No shopping for me. Been a poorly bear.:( Up most of Monday night, only slept for about an hour, so yesterday went back to bed and slept from 12 til 7.30:eek: Managed to eat some toast today.
I'm amazed that I have geraniums, fuschias and lobelia in flower in my garden already. I didn't clear all my tubs and baskets last autumn, and they have all started growing again. Less for me to do when we get back from Antigua, thank goodness.
Hope you are all ok, best wishes for any birthdays I've missed, and hugs to all, with a special one for my pal VT.
N x

abailey54

Savvybuyer wrote: »

:rotfl: But they could still have put water into the freezer and frozen ice blocks like that. Costs nothing (we already own a plastic ice cube thingy) and additional water from the tap is FREE! (Not on meter.)

Yes, but had they forgotten to do that previously, and there was a cocktail-related emergency, where cocktails needed to be consumed within the next (say) 10 minutes, there would be no time to freeze new cubes.

In fact, in the rush to get the ice to their glasses from the supermarket, they probably dropped their receipt