This *is* rockbottem isn't it?

user55

Someone please tell me this is as bad as it gets. Cos my eyes, in fact my whole damn face, hurts from crying so much today. I can get through it but I need to know the only way really and truly is up!

I swear to god, anyone who tries to say this is the easy option gets a slap with a wet kipper!

wherediditallgo

Keep the kipper for dinner - they're pricey round our way.

Seriously though, I know it's hard but try not to get too upset. By the time you've reached the stage of going BR, you've probably done as much crying as you're going to do, & things really will start to look better.

Instead of thinking of BR as rock bottom, think of it as a ball being released from a net & floating slowly to the surface. Going BR signals the end of your debts & horrible things related to them, & once you've done it you'll find it's the start of a much better & less stressful life.

rog2

Hey User - I have been to Rock Bottom, and beyond. I have cried (grown man) and I have wondered if I would ever get through it.
I have gotten through it, and so will you. :grouphug:

allofadither

User55, hope you're feeling a bit better. Going BR is full of ups and downs, small victories, sometimes the odd set back along the way, but try to focus on the positives, and keep strong...that's the advice I was given recently when I was feeling a bit overwhelmed by my situation.

Deal with each day as it comes and try not think about BR in it's entirety cos the whole thing can be just too much for a person to handle. Honestly, the only way is up!

Remmer

I know how you feel but there are much worse things in life. I have an elderly parent who without me would be in care. BR has been a welcome release from everything else that was preventing me from living a normal life. On discharge I applied for a Nat West account online, refused obviously coz CRA files aren't sorted yet but they are pleading with me to take proof of discharge into a branch so they can proceed with the opening process.
I'm a great believer in "What goes around comes around" and now feel nothing but optimism for the future.

It does get better

philnicandamy

It will get easier thats a promise!...i've cried & cried for days & suffered from severe depression but things get better with time I realised after going Br it was the best thing I ever did...although save the kipper cost a bomb here in liverpool!!

user55

Thanks guys, I know there are worse things. Trouble is I have some of them too, so this is all kind of extra added value where stress is concerned.

I'm fine now. A good cry is very cleansing. My bloody face still hurts though - think all that snot must be bad for the sinuses!

TheWaltons_3

I wish I could cry, it would release the horrible anxiety and feelings of impending doom I have about our situation.

It doesn't help that my partner is doing his best Ostrich impression.

tight_jock

It really is the most stressful, heartwrenching, difficult, emotional rollercoaster of a journey you`ll ever take. BUT REMEMBER....at the end, you are debt free and able to start again with a clear record a nd conscience.

If you want a goodcry ( Waltons) I highly recommend "A Miracle on 34th Street . The scene where all the `I believe` messages are shown always does it for me.( but don`t tell anyone:o )

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TheWaltons_3

tight_jock wrote: »

It really is the most stressful, heartwrenching, difficult, emotional rollercoaster of a journey you`ll ever take. BUT REMEMBER....at the end, you are debt free and able to start again with a clear record a nd conscience.

If you want a goodcry ( Waltons) I highly recommend "A Miracle on 34th Street . The scene where all the `I believe` messages are shown always does it for me.( but don`t tell anyone:o )

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I'll bear that in mind

Have you seen Million Dollar Baby? That film is so upsetting, you just cry the whole way through it... it really is tragic, I couldn't watch the ending. I had to cry and go away from the TV and then went back and cried some more!!!

That has got to be the saddest film I have ever seen - beats the Titanic by a long shot!

Crying always helps, it really does... the worst anxiety I have ever had was solved for months after I broke down and cried for a whole afternoon.

tight_jock

TheWaltons wrote: »

I'll bear that in mind

Have you seen Million Dollar Baby? That film is so upsetting, you just cry the whole way through it... it really is tragic, I couldn't watch the ending. I had to cry and go away from the TV and then went back and cried some more!!!

That has got to be the saddest film I have ever seen - beats the Titanic by a long shot!

Crying always helps, it really does... the worst anxiety I have ever had was solved for months after I broke down and cried for a whole afternoon.

No , haven`t seen that one.

Crying is like your safety valve. If we were steam engines, we`d have a whistle to relieve excess pressure - but we ain`t, so we NEED to have a sob every now and then. Perfectly natural for men too. ( BTW I`m 6` 1 and 17 stone so don`t call me a woosy bloke or I`ll be getting that wet kipper out too.:rotfl: :rotfl: )

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