I've had enough....

smashedbooboo

Well that was as powerful a post as anyone can get. Made me think ZTD. I think that should be the MSE Mission statement. Thank you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

smilealot

ZTD - what an amazing post. You've really hit a nerve with me, I burst into tears when I read the "But no. You chose not to choose debt. You chose something else." bit! Thanks.

Molanole - I've never spoken to you before but felt the need to when I read your thread. I'm sorry to here you are feeling this way. I don't know exactly how it feels, because we all have different problems and ways of dealing with them. However, I've just finished posting very similar message on our DMP Support Club thread. Everything piles up and comes crashing down emotionally at the worst possible time. The others are right about having time to think - it's not always a good thing! I'm a teacher and always feel down during the holidays, mainly because life is so busy during term time I don't give myself time to think, but also, I have no money to go out and enjoy the holiday and very few people around me to chat to (moved to a new area). Your OH sounds like a wonderful person, give each other a MASSIVE hug and tickle each other until you cry (with laughter this time!). Have a pillow fight. Might seem childish, but it's fun and free (unless you need to replace the burst pillows!!). Take care and big hugs.

rog2

Hi Moley - is it the long weekend that's doing it? A lot more people than usual seem to be !!!!!! off with their lot tonight.
Hope things look better for you in the morning.:beer:

lessonlearned

Hi Moley

Just thought I'd chip in with my tuppence worth.

Sorry you're feeling down but really, you have made fantastic progress.

About the wedding an' all. My Oh brought me a lovely antique engagement ring from an antique fair (£25 and yes, he haggled over the price). We married in a registry office, I did my own flowers etc and we had a lovely lunch for immediate family and just a couple of really close friends, followed by a great big evening party in a local village hall. I did most of the catering myself, preparing lots in advance and with friends helping on the day. Our honeymoon was a couple of nights in the Lake District.

We had a wonderful time without breaking the bank. 24 years later and we are still happy with two lovely grown up sons.

Yes we were poor sometimes but we managed the posh holidays when our finances got better. It's the marriage that really counts not the flash wedding.

As for fat and frumpy - I know that's how you feel but your lovely fella obviously loves you just the way you are. Anyway, summer's coming with all the nice salads and fruit and stuff, so just eat healthily and take care of yourself.

Hope you feel better soon.

vindalooloo

Molanole wrote: »

The OH has just told me has was planning to propose for my 30th (next week) but seeing me so depressed about money today has made him realise that he shouldn't use his credit card and will have to put it off to save up. I know that's the right thing to do but it doesn't help with the fact that I'm feeling so deprived today.:(

Save up for WHAT???

When hubby and I got married 12 years ago we had 2 guests and 2 parents at the register office. I got married in a Bon March outfit and hubby didn't even buy new clothes. One friend took the photos and we all went back to our house and had beans on toast and a bottle of wine! In the evening we went to another couple's reception (who married the same day as us).

All in all we spent lass than a hundred quid - most of that was on the licence. No honeymoon. But here we are 12 years later, still together, still happy (except the money issues) so you REALLY don't need to spend these ridiculous amounts they quote these days to get wed. It has no relation to how long you will be together or how happy you are as a couple.

Snaggles

Great post ZTD (as usual ).

It really helped that I 'heard' it in Ewan McGregor's voice too.......Yum!!!!!!!

Broken_hearted

Reading this made me cry, not because I was sad but because the stories of sweet engagement ideas were so lovely.

elantan

so mol hows things today ? back to fighting fit after the speach by ztd ...he does have a way with words doesnt he...could get a dead guy to fight that one could

LeanneF

You've done so very, very well with your debt so far. However, it sounds like you’re in bit of a rut at the moment. I think you should try and do something constructive to invigorate you again.

In particular, it sounds like you’re frustrated that the debt is preventing you from moving forward in your personal life. It reads to me as though you and your OH are addressing your financial problems separately. A practical move, which would reinforce your commitment to each other, might be to combine your finances with a joint account or similar. After all there’s not much to be gained from you being debt-free if your partner isn’t. It’s a psychological boost more than anything, but it might help you feel as though things are moving forward. You could revise your SOA & perhaps find a little extra to save for a wedding & the future.

Molanole

Blimey you lot. The support and encouragement that you get on here really is unlike anything I've experienced anywhere else. I'm still feeling very down today but I really wanted to say thanks to each and every one of you for your kind words, virtual hugs and cyber chocolate.

The OH and I had some chill out time last night and we chatted about what I'd posted on here, and all your replies. I showed him the pages in the Argos catalogue to reassure him but he's asked "to be left with some dignity" so he'll just work that one through in his own time and his own way. In the meantime I shall sit here with my spreadsheets paring everything down and working out my forecast for eventual debt freedom.

I'm not quite ready for the look at the fantastic things I have achieved post but thanks guys and gals, this really is the best place in the world when you need a shoulder to cry on.

Mola x