RANT ALERT, please tell me I'm not mean!

picklepick

wanchai wrote: »

I think that screamer said that her sister twisted her words... unless you are her sister???

Screamer said:

I believe another poster has also done the same.

And nope, last time I checked I only have one sister and she doesn't get married until next year.

wanchai_2

Phew!!!!!!!! :eek:

Alibear

First off, you're definitely not being mean. While I don't have a sister myself, I have friends who do and know arguments between them can get quite bad. Calling her a chav isn't nice, just like the things she's said to you aren't either... Maybe you're both capable of saying things to each other you shouldn't? I've definitely known how to push my brother's buttons over the years to get a reaction!

That said, I do agree your sister should definitly shouldn't be acting like this over your wedding. She should know it's your day and, as bm too, should be there for you every step of the way, even if you do have disagreements. I know I'd be prepared to have my hair like a bird's nest and wear a bin bag on my friend's wedding day if it made her happy!

You said you're doing this for the sake of your parents? Maybe it's time you have a heart-to-heart and put any differences aside, to make your parents happy, if nothing else. It seems you'll always be more 'sisters' than 'friends', if you know what I mean, but if you can clear the air it could make things easier in the build up to your wedding and beyond.

Ifd it can't be sorted, then de-bridesmaid her, knowing there's nothing more you can do.

...And I agree with the others about the morning of wedding thing - is her fella really not capable of getting his children (and himself!) dressed?!

Idiophreak

stir_crazy wrote: »

I tell my siblings that all the time. They say the same to me. I'd accept it and move on.

...or you could stop dressing like a chav?

sugarwalsh

are you sure you have 'no idea' why she freaked out? If your relationship with your sister is fragile and prone to explode why do you want her with you on your wedding morning?
Who cares what her 'title' is?
Surround yourself with people who love you and care, those who make you feel special on your day. Let her have her hair done and then let her return to her family. They will have to deal with her. Not you.

screamer

picklepick, I may have misunderstood what you meant but I'm not trying to manipulate my sister into anything, my sister is the one who manipulates, I can't even tell a lie without being caught out lol. I asked her if she wanted to be chief bridesmaid, she said yes, then said she was too busy to do it and has since had tantrum after tantrum over her hair. As I asked previously, is the brunette style so awful that it's cruel to ask her to have it like that? If it is I'll find something else but I really think it's lovely and I think it will suit her with her sickeningly gorgeous long glossy hair. Mine isn't as long, or shiny, or as well maintained as my sister's, hence the reason for me hiding it away in a fancy style. And the fact that my fiance actually has a mocking name for my hair when it's down tells me I really shouldn't have it like that for our wedding day.

Anyway, have spent most of the afternoon in tears then decided to ring my dad. Bless him he knows I want to keep the peace so he's had words with my sister. While I'm sobbing like a baby hardly able to get my words out, apparently my sister is "chipper!" and can't understand the fuss. Anyway, it turns out that my sister has "had a bad weekend" and she actually tried to deny everything she said until my dad told her what a state I was in and that I was really confused because even he knows that I've tried to help her out. Even her choices have dictated what our colour scheme, its the colour of whatever dress didn't look absolutely ridiculous on her. Despite weighing 14 stone she wears hotpants and tight tops for a night on the tiles. You getting the picture yet picklepick? Not that I'm expecting an apology but apparently she's had a bad weekend and decided to take it out on me. That's the long and the short of it, she just decided to flip at me for absolutely nothing that I'd done wrong.

She has decided that the kids are perfectly capable of getting ready on their own, she's going to look for a shrug at the weekend but only because she wants it for another occasion (that reminds me, would you believe that she initially wanted me to buy her a bridesmaid dress for her to wear to a wedding that's happening a month BEFORE mine to save her shelling out for that wedding, I think I mentioned that in a post back in January. My dad had to knock that tantrum on the head because I couldn't get through to her that that was just plain wrong!) She's happy to stay with me until the car arrives but hasn't said a word about the tiara so I still don't know if I've got to buy one or not. My dad also totally understands what I am getting at with her hair and she has now also decided that she can make herself available for a hair trial after all providing she can stay overnight. Unfortunately that can't happen because the house is too small and we don't have anywhere for her to sleep so my dad has suggested that I make an appointment for her at the hairdressers on the day, tell the hairdresser roughly what she wants and if it isn't right then she can shout at the person who's done it rather than me because I'm no more a hair stylist than I am an astronaut. My mum will be there and my mum will not put up with any nonsense from either of us so I feel safe with that idea lol.

So, I think I'm done. Trying to create the music for the wedding now, I'm not tempting fate with vertigo or seizures by hiring a DJ with loud music and flashing lights. I'm not paying money to be ill lol

wanchai_2

screamer wrote: »

picklepick, I may have misunderstood what you meant but I'm not trying to manipulate my sister into anything, my sister is the one who manipulates, I can't even tell a lie without being caught out lol. I asked her if she wanted to be chief bridesmaid, she said yes, then said she was too busy to do it and has since had tantrum after tantrum over her hair. As I asked previously, is the brunette style so awful that it's cruel to ask her to have it like that? If it is I'll find something else but I really think it's lovely and I think it will suit her with her sickeningly gorgeous long glossy hair. Mine isn't as long, or shiny, or as well maintained as my sister's, hence the reason for me hiding it away in a fancy style. And the fact that my fiance actually has a mocking name for my hair when it's down tells me I really shouldn't have it like that for our wedding day.

Anyway, have spent most of the afternoon in tears then decided to ring my dad. Bless him he knows I want to keep the peace so he's had words with my sister. While I'm sobbing like a baby hardly able to get my words out, apparently my sister is "chipper!" and can't understand the fuss. Anyway, it turns out that my sister has "had a bad weekend" and she actually tried to deny everything she said until my dad told her what a state I was in and that I was really confused because even he knows that I've tried to help her out. Even her choices have dictated what our colour scheme, its the colour of whatever dress didn't look absolutely ridiculous on her. Despite weighing 14 stone she wears hotpants and tight tops for a night on the tiles. You getting the picture yet picklepick? Not that I'm expecting an apology but apparently she's had a bad weekend and decided to take it out on me. That's the long and the short of it, she just decided to flip at me for absolutely nothing that I'd done wrong.

She has decided that the kids are perfectly capable of getting ready on their own, she's going to look for a shrug at the weekend but only because she wants it for another occasion (that reminds me, would you believe that she initially wanted me to buy her a bridesmaid dress for her to wear to a wedding that's happening a month BEFORE mine to save her shelling out for that wedding, I think I mentioned that in a post back in January. My dad had to knock that tantrum on the head because I couldn't get through to her that that was just plain wrong!) She's happy to stay with me until the car arrives but hasn't said a word about the tiara so I still don't know if I've got to buy one or not. My dad also totally understands what I am getting at with her hair and she has now also decided that she can make herself available for a hair trial after all providing she can stay overnight. Unfortunately that can't happen because the house is too small and we don't have anywhere for her to sleep so my dad has suggested that I make an appointment for her at the hairdressers on the day, tell the hairdresser roughly what she wants and if it isn't right then she can shout at the person who's done it rather than me because I'm no more a hair stylist than I am an astronaut. My mum will be there and my mum will not put up with any nonsense from either of us so I feel safe with that idea lol.

So, I think I'm done. Trying to create the music for the wedding now, I'm not tempting fate with vertigo or seizures by hiring a DJ with loud music and flashing lights. I'm not paying money to be ill lol

I do remember that!!!! :eek:

picklepick

I'm glad it's been sorted out. Mostly.

Families eh?!

screamer

I'm glad it's kind of sorted now. My mum and dad have been great since we announced the wedding, I've never asked my mum for advice before and I think she's loving it lol. I wish I could stop stressing about things that don't really matter though. Am trying to remember so many things and unfortunately I suffer with short term memory loss. Don't suggest writing things down, I've got a diary somewhere but I'll be sugared if I can remember where I put it. Got a folder full of papers and keep forgetting its there lol. Never mind, only 2 and a half months to go before I can get back to my normal mostly laidback self.

You've all been fab, cheered me up no end. Think I'd better go though, I'm going to pay for spending so much time online with a killer headache in about an hour's time. :-(

screamer

Oh and btw, I dress like an old woman. At my uncle's funeral, I really loved and WANTED my 68 year old aunt's outfit :-)