Dealing with office prima donna's? HELP

Little_Ole_Me

Sorry I deletd this, if anyones interested, see post 9 - and thanks for those who responded to my original post

Emmzi

"why don't you go for a cup of tea and calm down a bit. When you're calm, I'll be happy to listen to any constructive criticism you have for me. We all need feedback to develop."


ETA: or just stare at her until she's finished exploding, say "all done now?" and get back to work.

newbutold

I would walk away and ignore her and just get on with my work. Easier said than done I know!

I have always found the best way to deal with people like this is not to give them what they want........attention!

Everybody will know what she is like so will take anything she says about you with a pinch of salt. However I would report the incident, even saying if need be you don't expect it to be taken further but that you want it documented on file. I would want management to have the incident documented incase anything ever came up in the future.

Sounds like a vile women.

Little_Ole_Me

That is exactly what I did, ignored her, and got back to work, but I have been simmering ever since.

It really wasn't constructive critism, or anything, nothing to do with work, more about personal stuff like how I wear my hair (not in the craziest of styles for work - a pony tail lol) and other personal stuff which she really didn't have a clue about as she knows very little about me.

newbutold

Little_Ole_Me wrote: »

That is exactly what I did, ignored her, and got back to work, but I have been simmering ever since.

It really wasn't constructive critism, or anything, nothing to do with work, more about personal stuff like how I wear my hair (not in the craziest of styles for work - a pony tail lol) and other personal stuff which she really didn't have a clue about as she knows very little about me.

I am confused as to why you have deleted your original post?

Emmzi

newbutold wrote: »

I am confused as to why you have deleted your original post?

prima donna?

Judith_W

I have a colleague that can lay into me for no reason when she is stressed. I say "that's enough <name>" when she does it, which shocks her in to stopping most of the time. When it doesn't, I say "enough". Kinda supernanny with putting the child to bed. Helps me feel not like I'm a doormat without talking back and escalating the situation

Sambucus_Nigra

Dealing with office prima donna's what? We may never know....

Little_Ole_Me

newbutold wrote: »

I am confused as to why you have deleted your original post?

Sorry I deleted it because I was concerned that the prima donna in question would read it and recognise herself.

If anyone is interested, I was asking how to deal with an office colleague, who is totally prima donna like - I rarely speak to her, as we work in different depts, but completely out of the blue she had verbally attacked me on a personal level, nothing to do with work, etc, she had just started laying into me about my hair (not exactly high fashion, in a ponytail for work lol) and other personal things. She is a good 20 years older than me, and is a very domineering person, likes everything her own way- I have never heard her say a kind word about anybody

Sorry I deleted it, i wasnt trolling honest, just got scared. But you know what, know I dont give a carp if she does read it and realise it is her lol

Since last week, I have been avoiding her as much as possible as I am one of these people who DOES hold grudges. OK I know it isnt pretty to hold grudges, but I admit it , I do and I cant help it - but it is who I am, every time I see her I feel like giving her a kicking.