A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

SpikyHedgehog

prepareathome wrote: »

[IMG][/img] jug by prepareathomeearth, on Flickr

The jug and basin, just click on thumbnail to see it better

That's lovely :-)

grandma247 wrote: »

Oh dear SpikyHedgehog I do kind of have sympathy for him.
When I left school I thought I would have the six weeks summer holiday before needing to look for a job. My Mother and soon to be stepfather had other ideas!
He took me on the Friday to ask about an interview for a job he spotted in the local paper that morning.
I had been for other interviews courtesy of the youth job people( I can't remember what it used to be called) but there always seemed to be a million other there for an interview as well.

Thanks to his quick action I was interviewed there and then and got the job.

PAH that is lovely. See it was worth him having time off work

I had to take my baby sister to nursery, then take the dog for a walk, get sis from nursery & do housework in the afternoon as well as my usual weekend doing all the ironing :-) So I didn't think the list was too mean ;-) Well, it doesn't look like he's going to the college tomorrow as he thinks he's lost the letter with the times & place... :undecided But that's not where he wants to go for 6th form anyway, I said to go as it was a way of getting out of the house & maybe seeing friends. He's so far done staying in (being up!) for the boiler check man yesterday - he didn't hoover in case he couldn't hear the man knocking on the door so he played M1necraft instead...

SpikyHedgehog

kidcat wrote: »

Bother just typed a long post and lost it, dont have the heart to retype, so please accept my apologies for not naming everyone, just to say I am keeping you all in my thoughts during these stressful times.

And of course Happy Birthday PAH:)

DS has escaped from school again, first yesterday (luckily I caught him) and then today he got out whilst staff were watching him. Apparently he is now extremely high risk and they are frantically looking to contain him. Meantimes extra staff are being drafted in to cover critical moments but I swear I am beyond worried.
On the flip side they have dramatically changed the educational side and his old teacher (infants) now has control of his class - when he is in her care no issues at all. Enjoying, engaging and learning, but when he returns to own setting is when the problems hit.

Seriously contemplating a rota of volunteers to sit outside school and see if we can keep him in that way.

((Kidcat)) Says something about the quality of teaching when his behaviour is so different with different staff - I know it's also his comfort zone, but...

Popperwell

kidcat wrote: »

Bother just typed a long post and lost it, dont have the heart to retype, so please accept my apologies for not naming everyone, just to say I am keeping you all in my thoughts during these stressful times.

And of course Happy Birthday PAH:)

DS has escaped from school again, first yesterday (luckily I caught him) and then today he got out whilst staff were watching him. Apparently he is now extremely high risk and they are frantically looking to contain him. Meantimes extra staff are being drafted in to cover critical moments but I swear I am beyond worried.
On the flip side they have dramatically changed the educational side and his old teacher (infants) now has control of his class - when he is in her care no issues at all. Enjoying, engaging and learning, but when he returns to own setting is when the problems hit.

Seriously contemplating a rota of volunteers to sit outside school and see if we can keep him in that way.

I hope all comes right for you...I only ever ran away from school once and that was because I missed home and Mum, I don't think that I was very old(I think I had just started at infants)I did not get into trouble but somehow I found my way home across busy roads and I forget what I said when I knocked on the door and Mum answered the door(Cannot ask her now)

I think was something like I had just wanted to see "How you were getting on" I had lunch and was taken back and there were no more problems. The teachers had seen me belting away across the school playing field but I had been too quick for them:rotfl:

Popperwell

Fuddle, Byatt, it's been said before that as generations die out that have got used to a certain way that society is run and new ideas are introduced the new generations think that is the norm and that's what they are hoping, another reason for playing people against each other. Its a big plan...

Health insurance and insurance in case you become unemployed is coming, as for the "Big Society":mad:

Many don't realise always what's happening, an older cashier at the supermarket was asking how I am doing and the new bedroom tax came up in conversation she had never heard of it. Then started to worry about(possibly her sister or brother)but married to a partner, living in a two bedroom bungalow and been there for many years, they are retired. And she realised this means they will have to pay for the spare room!

So then she asked would they have to pay if they said that they each have a bedroom. I have no idea but I bet a few try that one...

smileyt_2

Kidcat I hope you get it sorted.

Well, I have applied for two jobs tonight. One I don't have a chance of getting. The other is for a healthcare assistant. The only problem is that the deadline is today. I have sent the application form off with a covering e-mail saying that I hope they will accept it as it's still technically 3 July and I meet the essential criteria! Let's see if they accept it just for cheek .... I hope so because it sounds like a really interesting job and it's mornings only, 8.30am - 12.30pm. It would mean the dogs only getting a little poo and wee walk but they could have a proper walk once I got home.

I hope they accept it - let's face it, they weren't going to start shortlisting at closing time today, so hopefully one that sneaks in just before midnight might still count ......

GreyQueen

Byatt wrote: »

Once the current older generation are no longer around, and with the pension age being continually increased, volunteers ( in CS, hospitals etc) and the availability of people to care not only for grandchildren, but their parents (we are living longer), will drop drastically; all this unpaid/care saves the country huge amounts of money, so what will the government do then?

Oh, they won't have got as far as working that out for themselves and they won't have listened to anyone who tries to tell them...............

I used to work for a not-for-profit organisation who had a major volunteer crisis every time school was out. Why? Because the majority of the volunteers were drawn from two sections of the population; lone Mums of primary school-age children, who were building skills and confidence to get back into the workforce, and retired men and women circa 55-70 years old.

Every few weeks, the lone parents would have to take over the care of their own children in school hours and the retired people take over the care of their grandchildren as their own parents were both working, often full-time. It left the volunteer rota sorely-depleted. We struggled to serve the needs of the public who came to us for help.

My observation of life is that I see an awful lot of volunteer work being done by the people in their early and middle sixties. Under current regs, I shall get a state pension at 67, if they don't move the goalposts. When I'm finally allowed to put my feet up, I cannot see that it would be feasible to then go do voluntary work. I can see far fewer hospital drivers, Meals on Wheels deliverers, befrienders, church volunteers etc etc in future decades. The big society will be the very small and knackered society and as resentful as hell.

But you can't tell them anything in Westminster Village.........

kezlou

aw kidcat , i'm sure something will get sorted out. My ds2 is the same when he's with his former reception or y2 teachers he's completely different. These teachers knew how to handle him and bring him out of shell. Luckily my son hasn't legged it yet, instead he's rolled into a ball or had wee'd himself in fright.

His y2 teacher came up and made it very clear that she ds2 to attend a horse riding as she thought it would be great for his confidence and also that she could play with him a bit. She think he's an adorable wonderful little boy and wishes he was still in her class.

Well managed to sort orders which had gone to the wrong address i.e ours instead of the clients.
Had a total nightmare after that, my partners father car was stolen last night and one of kids noticed glass out the front and said has your car been nicked because there's one round the corner. Some twit had stolen and dumped round on the next street over. Total right off. felt terrible phoning him up and saying err saying your car got written off in the early hours of this morning. Forensics came round and said looks like some good prints on there so never know might find the person who did it. Lived here 8 years and no car has ever been touched and guess what 5 years in a week being booted in / swiped.:(

Lets hope tomorrow goes better.

Popperwell

GQ,
You make some good points,

Many are ready for retirement at 65(earlier if possible)we are told that many jobs are not as physical as they once were, tell that to the carer, hospital worker(and carers at home)who have to lift patients or equipment, or those who still build the roads and buildings. So there is wear and tear on the body. That could include delivery drivers, there are still plenty jobs in factories that put a strain on your health.

You might if you were younger be able to offer more to society and want to if your health is reasonable and a lot of our society depends on people doing something for nothing or for very little financial reward. But if you have worked longer or your health has deterorated, I could quite understand someone not being able to or wanting some "Me" time.

Well said!

Now let's hope things are not as tough later today and we have some good things happening...even amongst all this we've mentioned roasting bags and all kinds of things...doesn't take much to make me happy.

thriftwizard

Kidcat, just a quick sympathetic {hug} from me - my youngest (who has mild AS-type issues) was a "runner" and I had to spend most of the first school years (5-9 here) actually in the school so she didn't escape & run home - I was generally put to good use doing DT with the girls or playing turtle/programming Logo with the boys - but I had to take her out altogether & HE her after 6 months of middle school (9-13) where they understandably didn't want stray parents cluttering up the corridors. She escaped several times & turned up on the doorstep at home, filthy & exhausted from running & hiding in the woods & dodging traffic on the roads. She had a go at "going back" at secondary level but it didn't work out; they couldn't/wouldn't get the hang of what it was she couldn't cope with (mostly personal & emotional questioning) but to my delight, pronounced much of her work to be of "A" level standard, at 13. So I had to take her out again or risk losing her. She's now rising 17 and job-hunting, a talented dancer & writer/player of music that others want to dance to.
I know that from a teacher's point of view I'm probably a wilful & difficult parent, but I will always question what's gone wrong in our schools, that my child, who is not in other ways at all disruptive or difficult but rather quiet & shy, really couldn't bear to be there and was such a dreadful burden to them, that they threatened to have her taken into care? I can still hardly bear to think back to those days, it was so scary & stressful, so I have a lot of sympathy for you.

VJsmum

Spiky Hedgehog - I sympathise, my DD has recently finished her GCSEs and is not doing a lot.

Last week while I was away I paid her to do the housework, shopping and cooking and this week she has been to her new 6th form for 2 days. She was supposed to be going to Oxford Uni today but there wasn't room for her on the mini bus and it is more important for year 12 to go. She is largely sat on her bum watching DVDs and playing on the Sims.

However as DS is a bit poorly she is staying home with him while i pop into work. I am still terribly jet lagged and think I'll have to give up the Nytol as I struggle to wake up in the morning. Hopefully the jet lag will wear off now but I really have to go to work. DS has swollen glands and isn't really improving. Might have to take him back to quacks if he isn't better by Friday.

Must go to work, s'laters