Request for no gifts - is this ok

74jax

We are just putting together our website and one of the pages is a Gift List, at first we thought of taking this page out, however then thought as people are RSPV'ing on the website, if we took it out we might get lots of requests of what we want. We have therefore added the text below to the page, does this read ok and do you think people will feel they do not 'have' to donate; that's one of the reason I have added we wouldn't ever get to know if they have or haven't.

This is what we've drafted:

Gift List

We appreciate that each and every one of you attending our wedding have contributed so much in making our Wedding Day special.

Your presence at our wedding, is above and beyond any present we could wish for.

Should any of you have the urge to part with your money, then we have chosen two charities very close to our hearts, that, if you wish, a donation can be made to on behalf of our Wedding Day.

(bride) has chosen the British Stroke Association and (groom) has chosen the RNLI.

All donations to these charities are entirely at your discretion and we will not be informed of who has donated or what amount has been donated.

We want to stress we wish our wedding to be an informal, happy and fun event. It is the joining of two people who wish to go forward in married life with their closest family and friends at their side.

You sharing this day with us, is all we request.

Lollie79

Thats perfect, says it all really.

Mrs_Huggett

That's really lovely, I've had a rotten day (not wedding related, did that 20 years ago and still very happy lol) Your post made me cry, with that sot of attitude you will not only have a lovely wedding day but a lovely life together too.

74jax

Mrs_Huggett wrote: »

That's really lovely, I've had a rotten day (not wedding related, did that 20 years ago and still very happy lol) Your post made me cry, with that sot of attitude you will not only have a lovely wedding day but a lovely life together too.

Aw thanks but I don't want to make people cry. It's just very hard to try and explain to people that's not what we want. 100% understand some people do and that's fine, I love wedding shopping and going along with my gift all in bows and streamers and co-ordinated gift tag and paper :rotfl: but h2b and I live together - we don't need anything other than each other and our friends to share the day with us.

I hope it's understood by my guests that they don't have to donate as we wouldn't know if they had or hadn't anyway and don't feel we're forcing 2 charities upon them who they wouldn't necessarily donate too anyway.

Sorry you had a horrid day though - but thank crunchy it's Friday!

74jax

lollie79 wrote: »

Thats perfect, says it all really.

WOW I've just realised your signature. Less than a year to go!:j

RainbowDrops

Lovely, so warm and genuine.

Sammy85_2

I think that is a lovely idea and is well put.

We simply but on our RSVPs that we didnt want gifts and your presence is present enough etc. We were still inundated with requests of what people should get us, noone would accept that we didnt want any wedding gifts.

We did voice the idea of giving to charity on our behalf, setting up a gift list where you can buy goats and antimalarials etc. But were told by some people that they wanted to buy a gift for us alone and if we chose to give to charity it was our lookout but they wouldnt do it in lieu of a traditional gift.

In the end we made a very short gift list at debenhams of lower priced items. Older relatives bought from it and most other people gave us debenhams vouchers. We then gave charity favours instead of the usual bag of almonds etc.