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speedster

i can understand the breastfeeding issue, having 2 young uns here that were both BF.

all i am saying is that is is a common tactic to use this as an excuse to block contact. i'm not saying it is the "norm" but it does crop up in CO cases, and unless it is addressed properly the judge can and will dismiss it as a means of contact blocking. i advised on a case a year or so back where the pwc used this arguement. the child was nearly 2. needless to say, the judge dismissed it and told her in no uncertain terms that failure to attend the contact centre (where they had ample provisions for her to BF if needed) would result in community service which would mean the child being away from his mother anyway. i know this is an extreme, but i'm just highlighting the fact that it's not always advisable to use that "old chestnut" as an excuse.

i have helped and advised numerous nrp's in CO cases and have done my homework on "wimmin's" forums and honestly, you would be shocked at the advice given and the behaviour of the "militant mothers" it's no wonder loads of them are single and bitter. i pity any man that gets tangled up with people like that.

daska

speedster wrote: »

that old chestnut is frequently used in contact cases and gets shot down everytime.

speedster wrote: »

all i am saying is that is is a common tactic to use this as an excuse to block contact. i'm not saying it is the "norm" but it does crop up in CO cases, and unless it is addressed properly the judge can and will dismiss it as a means of contact blocking.

Thank you for the change of heart

speedster

daska wrote: »

Thank you for the change of heart

not really a change of heart, more a change of words!!

it is still a lame excuse if used as a means to block contact.

it is definitely a factor to be considered when working out contact though.

GobbledyGook

I haven't heard from him since I told him that I wasn't going to just accept his demands and that he'd have to discuss things with me rather than just expect that his sudden plans would fit in with the girls and I. He spouted the "I have rights" line and has been absolutely silent since I replied with "so do I and so do the girls, you are not the only person in this equation."

No idea if he turned up at school or not because eldest daughter had a hospital appointment (before anyone starts on me I text him on Wednesday to remind him about it). Will find out tomorrow when I go down no doubt. The school have really annoyed me, I said I understood they couldn't legally stop him taking her, but I'm severely annoyed that despite me explaining the situation they won't even contact me if he does take her.

By now he'll have had the solicitors letter so I'm a little surprised I've not had a snooty text or phone call. Hopefully he's taking proper legal advice and perhaps has realised that demanding won't work so he'll have to do things properly.

Thanks all. Thanks to those who PM'd too - I'm not ignoring honest, I'm just dashing on here when I've got a mo - I will reply, I promise. My youngest just seems to believe sleep is for the weak atm and bubs is kicking the living daylights out of me.

Gemma x

missmontana

He spouted the "I have rights" line and has been absolutely silent since I replied with "so do I and so do the girls, you are not the only person in this equation."

I'm going to remember that quote, might come in useful!! :A

daska

GobbledyGook wrote: »

"so do I and so do the girls, you are not the only person in this equation."

:rotfl: :T :rotfl: :T :rotfl: :T :rotfl:

gratefulforhelp_2

Well said, clearing out.