i'm sorry

louise30_2

He doesn't mean to be nasty. He is not very good at expressing himself and is not good with emotions.
He is very practical but not very good a soothing in a stressful situation - I told him as much last night. His solution today was to go for a run with me tonight (but I don't have time).
I would have prefered a hug and a "there there" to be honest.

spud30

Louise,

Dont take your OH's reaction to heart.

I am having a similar emotional time at the mo, and my DH doesn't know what to do, says he feels like he's walking on eggshells. We've been together over 15 years, and I love him to bits, but he's so bad at times like this, bless him.

Just let him be practical, and come here to us for your hugs, albeit cyber ones !!:grouphug:

madauri

It's all right, louise. And letting some steam will help you to feel better.
If your OH is more positive about the situation, tell him you need to share his perspective. Maybe his point of view can give you some relief?
Everything will improve eventually. When you feel a little better you'll start seeing the way out of some of the problems. In the meanwhile, have some tea and try to smile. ((()))

owessomuch

((((hugs))))

I get day's like that, when your not even sure why your so down in the dumps but you are and u can't seem to snap out of it.

I find driving in my car and screaming helps no end!

Really hope you feel better soon, keep your chin up x

ChrissieI

louise30 wrote:

His solution today was to go for a run with me tonight (but I don't have time).I would have prefered a hug and a "there there" to be honest.

Sending you a (((hug)))
But reading between the lines you need to slow down girl and take some time out for yourself. Men don't always understand that women need a hug sometimes. If you can't get it from him find a way to pamper yourself.
It can be just want a girl needs occassionly;)

louise30_2

I feel like his idea of what would solve everything is if I came home from work, stayed in, didn't do anything for anyone - didn't go in any shops and sat and watched tv all night. - oh and didn't care about anyone, therefore people, couldn't impact on my emotions

that's not me. I need to be busy - but at the mo I am struggling to put one foot in front of the other

wuckfit

have you told him that you need a hug and a 'there there' ?

sometimes blokes need blunt, not subtle

trigger_mike

I agree, if your blokes anything like me, you need to wear a giant sandwich board telling him what to do before he realizes.

Molanole

First: Big, massive, huge (((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))) to you.

Secondly: Feel free to let it all out on here, we're very understanding and you'd be hard pushed to find someone on here who doesn't go through what you're going through the moment. If it helps, and you feel as though you can't talk to the OH, vent your frustrations to us, we don't mind.

Thirdly: I'm having a patch like you at the moment. My OH doesn't know how to deal with it but he was over the moon when I burst into tears the other day and wailed "I JUST WANT A HUG!!!!". Well... no... that came out wrong. He wasn't over the moon that I was upset of course but was over the moon that I just asked him for a hug instead of sulking and sniffing in the corner being uncommunicative!

Right now you need to do something for you, which makes you happy. I personally like to go off in the car, drive for miles and listen to music really loudly. Expensive and it doesn't solve anything but it makes me feel better. Above all, we're all here for you, and take care of yourself.

ChrissieI

louise30 wrote:

I feel like his idea of what would solve everything is if I came home from work, stayed in, Sounds like a good plan to me if he would cook dinner you could just take it easy and relax didn't do anything for anyone Are you sure you are not doing too much for other people at the expense of yourself-

Have you tried putting your self first for a change. It might help