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doodledo_2

Mupeteer I keep reading your thread and so want to put something on here but I really have no advice at all.

If you think that the relationship is worth this stress then I think you helping him is a wonderful thing to do. I really hope he realises how special you are and that he puts in as much effort to resolve his problem.

Good luck to you both for tomorrow it will be a hard step for him I am sure but hopefully the start of something very good for both of you.

Mupeteer

Doodledo, thank you so much for your kind words. They mean a lot.

ZTD

Mupeteer wrote: »

I want to be happy, to not have to worry about things all the time.

Is entering a possible high-dependency relationship the best way of achieving that? Or do you feel you are just on the rebound.

Mupeteer wrote: »

I think I could be happy with him if he gets himself sorted out.

I notice the if. Do you have a plan which measures the milestones to success (or failure)? What is your exit strategy?

Mupeteer wrote: »

I'm in no position to judge him, afterall my finances are in the toilet already.

You are in a position to judge whether you want to give him a piece of your life to do with what he can. No matter what - it's your time and your effort and your emotional capital.

Mupeteer

:mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:
I'm so annoyed with myself. Have just been to meet my ex to swap some CDs we had belonging to each other. I mistakenly thought I could cope with it. What a fool. Although I really don't want him back I'm really upset now.

I'm still seeing the guy with gambling problems and he is still on track for dealing with it. Problem is that it feels more like a friendship than anything else. Not that that's a bad thing - just that I need more affection than I'm getting.

My money situation is still in the toilet. I'm struggling to pay my bills, let alone live.

I don't think it helps that I've just come off my anti-depressants because they think they may be causing some other health problems I'm having.

I'm also really missing my mum. At this time of year we were always out shopping together. 4 years later it doesn't hurt any less.

I just can't stop crying and I hate it.

dancingfairy

I'm sorry to hear you are having such a carp time of it right now. Sorry I can't reall do anything but sending you hugs to deal with this difficult time.
I think the hardest times are when you need to take some time out, to appreciate what you have achieved, to look after your health and accept that things may be tough for a while but that you will come back renewed.
Look after yourself
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skint_spice

You sound like you are really struggling right now Mupeteer, can you go back to docs and ask to see a counsellor or something? you seem to be doing stuff for others and not getting much support for you. Please take care of yourself and keep posting - we are all here to listen.

doodledo_2

Mupeteer sorry to hear you are struggling. Seeing your ex was bound to upset you and with coming off your medication it was obviously just too much.

Can you Drs not offer you anything else to take to help you through as sounds like you might not be ready to come off the medication yet.

Good to here your OH is on track with his gambling. You make sure he treats you right though, if you are already worried about the lack of affection its a worry. Sounds like he is leaning on you a lot and maybe he needs to take a step back and see what you need from him.

Really hope 2009 is a happy year for you.

dancingfairy

coming off anti-depressants is not easy at the best of times and obviously it is not helping matters at all - you need to make sure you have coping strategies in place and try and choose a less stressful time. Can you go back on them temporarily? do you think this would help you?
Any friends you can chat to about things at all?
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Mupeteer

It's a conspiracy. Really fancied a glass of wine and i've had a bottle in the fridge for ages. Bloomin thing has a cork and I can't find my corkscrew anywhere. Maybe just as well.

BF has just called and sounded pretty concerned that I'm feeling the way I do. But then he told me to just try to enjoy myself as life's too short. Guess he doesn't understand depression or how it feels to miss your mum the way I do.

pania

have a massive hug hon, can i ask whereabouts in the country are you? bnorth south east west or middle? call your dog to you and have a vloody good cry into her coat. I don't understand the missing your mum as i am fortunate enough never to have been where you are so can only offer you sympathy there hon, but the depression and ex issues i most certainly understand. Just carry on breathing, carry on putting one foot in front of the other and eventually the path WILL lead out of the woods.
:lots of love
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xxx