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    • Iamkatty
    • By Iamkatty 14th Apr 17, 12:03 PM
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    Does a cheap fertility clinic deserve trust?
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    • 14th Apr 17, 12:03 PM
    Does a cheap fertility clinic deserve trust? 14th Apr 17 at 12:03 PM
    Hi! I have some problems with my fertility and this is the main reason why my hubby and I canít conceive. Iíve contacted the doctor and she diagnosed me with PCOS. I know that this health issue is rather spread around the world. Loads of ladies with PCOS manage to conceive every year. I have already experienced several treatments, but they didnít work with me. I took metformin. It did helped me to reduce my weight, but again, I didnít get pregnant after having taken pills more than 2 years. I had a surgery, and it didnít work with me too. Now, my gyny recommends me to try egg donation. We will do IVF with donor eggs. For me, itís the best solution for us as Iím sick and tired of taking pills. Both my hubby and I dream to become parents. Now, weíre searching for the clinic to suit us. Weíve visited several reproductive clinics. Both of them are situated overseas as ED is forbidden in the country where we live at present. The first clinic seems to be a reputable one. Weíve found loads of feedbacks about it on various fertility forums. It has rather good success rates. In addition, we quite liked the ED package they offer. They offer free accommodation and transportation services and donít charge much for their services. These are the things we really liked about this clinic. However, there are some things that make us a little bit alert. When we visited the clinic for the first time, it was too overcrowded. We had to wait nearly two hours before the doctor was ready to meet us. We quite liked her. She seemed to pay attention to every single detail: she studied the results of our health tests very attentively and asked us quite a lot of questions. The consultation lasted nearly 45 min. Both my hubby and I felt very tired after our first visit to the clinic. My hubby is a very hot tempered guy. He said we shouldnít deal with them. I still hesitate. I liked the doctor we met there. In addition, their prices are more than favorableÖ What do you think about cheap overcrowded clinics? Do they deserve trust?
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    • teddysmum
    • By teddysmum 14th Apr 17, 3:05 PM
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    This doesn't sound good; especially the cheap and over crowded part. It sounds like a cut price factory and who would be giving the donation, as it's probably unregulated.


    If you both found queuing tiring and your husband is quick tempered, could you cope with lack of sleep from having a newborn or teething baby and realise that children really do try you sometimes ?
    • discerning
    • By discerning 18th Apr 17, 6:59 PM
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    • 18th Apr 17, 6:59 PM
    Hi! Firstly, I’m really sorry to hear about your health issue. Unfortunately, PCOS is rather spread nowadays. Nevertheless, you shouldn’t give up. My sister also has PCOS. She managed to conceive after having reduced her weight. She also started to work out regularly and eat healthier food. As for the clinic, I would choose the one you feel really comfortable with. If you find something uncomfortable with the clinic, it’s better to quit it.
    • Iamkatty
    • By Iamkatty 28th Apr 17, 10:02 AM
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    • 28th Apr 17, 10:02 AM
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    • 28th Apr 17, 10:02 AM
    Hi, ladies! Thanks for posting your replied to my initial post. I should say, that I also know that there are quite a lot of women with PCOS who are able to conceive. In addition, there are quite a lot of treatment methods that I may use to overcome my fertility issue. So there is still a hope for me to get pregnant naturally. However, my hubby does want to become a hubby as soon as possible. This was the main reason why we applied for DE IVF.
    • Pop Up Pirate
    • By Pop Up Pirate 29th Apr 17, 7:57 AM
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    • 29th Apr 17, 7:57 AM
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    • 29th Apr 17, 7:57 AM
    Have you tried Methyl Folate for a few months? Folate is the natural form of folic acid but folic acid can actually be harmful in some people.

    This is a much simpler and cheaper alternative than fertility treatment added to which, baby is getting the essential folate rich environment to start out life.
    • teddysmum
    • By teddysmum 29th Apr 17, 2:29 PM
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    • 29th Apr 17, 2:29 PM
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    • 29th Apr 17, 2:29 PM
    Sometimes being over eager doesn't help.


    I didn't think I could conceive, but eventually got a hospital referral several weeks in advance. I had my suspicions, which were confirmed on examination, that I was pregnant, and the doctor said it was very possibly because I had relaxed, having been given an appointment.


    I know someone else, who having no luck decided that it was meant to be, and gave up....then became pregnant...twice.
    • jay80
    • By jay80 2nd Jul 17, 8:49 PM
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    Hi, there! If I were in your shoes, I would consider DE IVF as the last thing to do. Itís not as simple as it seems to be from the first sight. I cycled nearly three years ago as both of my ovaries were extracted because of the endo cysts so egg donation was my only chance to get pregnant. I donated an egg from a 25 year-old woman. She was a mom of one child, and it was FET. I managed to conceive after the second shot. Now, Iím a mum, and Iím really very happy about it. I didnít have any negative feelings about the medical manipulations, but most of all I felt nervous about the final result, so you must be ready for this. I would recommend you to deal with the clinic that offers eggs of young egg donors. It would be great if they test this lady in various ways to see whether sheís healthy enough to share her eggs. I would also ask them to test the donorís heredity. You need to deal with the egg donorís whose parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts and siblings are free from any hereditary issues. Just take these things into consideration while choosing an egg donor. At any rate, I wish you good luck. Let loads of baby dust come upon you during your DE IVF! Xxx
    • jenniewb
    • By jenniewb 3rd Jul 17, 2:05 AM
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    I'm not an expert on the treatment in question, but if I were doing research, I'd be looking for opinions and experiences of people who had used the service- you say the waiting room was very full, maybe you could return and ask a few people how their treatment is going? A busy waiting room can be a sign of a popular service, or of poor management and over-worked staff who are more likely to make mistakes, you wont find out which it is without speaking to others.

    Also see if people have written any reviews online, if your not sure, just try Googling the name of the company/building and maybe try places which are similar to trip advisor. Also if your GP surgery is near by, see if they have any reports on it, also see if the NHS have any reports regarding it in terms of complaints and so on. At the end of the day, all we can do here on this forum is ask you more about your opinion, we wont know any more than you do.

    You sound like you know your own mind- it's not your opinion I think your struggling with; it's the lack of information you have to make a sound choice, Your only going to get that information through doing some research on the staff, company and patient experiences.
    • Iamkatty
    • By Iamkatty 21st Jul 17, 10:02 AM
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    • 21st Jul 17, 10:02 AM
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    • 21st Jul 17, 10:02 AM
    Hi, everyone. Thanks for your tips and clues. They are really very useful ones. The thing is the clinic we’ve got interested in offers us oocytes of 18-25 years old women. Our program manager told us that the clinic is very selective in choosing egg donors for their clients. All prospective egg donors have to pass through a rigorous medical checkup. They also pay attention to their heredity. If the woman’s father, mother, sibling, aunt or uncle suffers from any hereditary disease, they won’t deal with her. In addition, they deal only with women who have given birth to at least one child. This is the way the clinic chooses egg donor’s for its clients. What do you think about it?
    • FBaby
    • By FBaby 22nd Jul 17, 11:42 AM
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    Sorry to bring up issues that are not directly related to your query, but some things you've written in your posts make it seem as if your husband is ruling the roost and you are just following on what he demands.

    Surely him wanting to be a dad soon is not a good reason to decide to go through DE IVF. DE should be last resort, when there is evidence that the quality of the eggs of the mother is such that the chance of getting pregnant with own eggs are very low. Is this your case? Is it because of your age, because your fertility level results were not good?

    Personally, my main concern would be the ethical aspect of the decision. Taking eggs from 18 yo seems very wrong to me, especially if they've already had one child. What other reasons would they do it but the money? Is this is a third world country?
    • notisis
    • By notisis 26th Jul 17, 10:57 AM
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    There is a particular clinic in Athens (I'm sure you'll be aware) who has good results by simply taking various supplements and often antibiotics, and other changes. They offer a free telephone consultation (they ring you). I gather a lot of women who thought they required ED conceived naturally after 6 months following this regime. Beware hubby has to be on board and also follow the regime set for him. Just because you have endo doesn't mean there aren't also problems with hubby! A lot of clinics don't even investigate him.


    In your shoes, I'd say it's worth it. ED is a last resort but it worked for me.


    Good luck with whatever you decide.
    • dream_seller
    • By dream_seller 29th Jul 17, 1:05 AM
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    As far as I know, oocytes of young women are considered to be of the best quality. This is the main reason why fertility clinics opt to deal with 18-25 year old women. However, the moral side of the question really matters here. In poor countries, most of women share their eggs to earn some money, and each infertile lady has to know about it when they choose to an infertility clinic to deal with. Although, there are some women who really want to help infertile couples. If I were in your shoes, I would ask the way the treats an egg donor. These women really deserve the best of the best.
    • jay80
    • By jay80 31st Jul 17, 11:59 AM
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    I would also pay attention to the way the clinic chooses egg donors. I mean how will they particularly choose a donor for your DE IVF. I know that it’s quite difficult to do this as all people are unique. Even twins are different in some way. Some clinics offer their client to choose egg donors by themselves. (You are allowed to see the photos of the potential egg donors and make the choice by yourself). Do the clinic you’ve got interested in offers this?
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