Starting Over

thegirlinthegreenscarf
thegirlinthegreenscarf Posts: 95 Forumite
edited 18 April 2017 at 1:49PM in Debt free diaries
Hi


Decided that enough is enough. I need to come over from the "Dark Side" and try to act like an adult.;)


I have spend my lunchtime setting up a new email address (not linked to my name) and an account on here and now I have no time left to look on the forums. ;-(


Very quickly, I have recently transferred my debt onto a 0% credit card and am still paying of my previous car. I am not currently earning enough to have to pay back my student loans.


Problems are: a) I have always been a spender, b) I still seem to spend my full time wages on part time salary (I have worked 4 days since my daugher was born) c) I do have that working mum guilt - not helped by all the "perfect" blogs, photos etc I need to call a halt. d) amazon, ebay etc are all too easy and accessible.

This is not my first credit card debt. I think I need to break the pattern. If I am honest, deep inside I am concerned that I am happy to return things once I have bought them. Its the buying (online or in a shop) that I can't seem to stop. The last next sale slot I had, I bought stuff online to be delivered to the store, then forced myself to leave it at the store until it was returned to the warehouse 2 weeks later and credited on my account.


So, advice please, a to do list (as basic as possible), suggestions for a spending diary, no spend challenges, moral support and even if you just want to say hi - all appreciated :T
xxxxxx
MBNA (Was £2000), Now £2, 900 (Expected date Dec/2020)
CAR (Was £300) Now
£2, 000 (Interest free loan from family member)



**Want to be on my way to being debt free for 42**
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  • GeorgianaCavendish
    GeorgianaCavendish Posts: 2,387 Forumite
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    edited 18 April 2017 at 5:38PM
    Hello and welcome! :)
    Love your username - is that a Becky Bloomwood reference? I read the Shopaholic books again recently and I found some of Ms Bloomwood's behaviour painfully familiar.

    I started my debt free diary at the end of January this year so I'm pretty new to all this too. There is lots of great advice in the diaries and the Debt Free Wannabe boards so have a browse when you have time.

    The things that really helped me:

    1. OnTrees account/app - you link this with your bank accounts and credit cards, it gives you a breakdown of exactly what you have spent over the past 12 weeks. Breaks everything down into categories, you can edit these and add new ones. I was spending blindly and I didn't have a good overview of where my money was going so I found this very useful (and scary!). It helped me identify the black holes and blind spots in my spending like buying coffee or lunch at work, and I could make easy changes to save some money.

    2. SoA (State of Affairs) - everyone will ask you to post one and although it is scary, it is really helpful to get an outside perspective on things. There were several things (like Spotify, gym membership etc) that I thought I couldn't live without but I was convinced to give them up or make a switch to cheaper supplier and I found that I can actually live without them ;) This link has some advice on how to complete one : Help for the first time poster

    3. Knowledge is power. I willingly kept myself in the dark about the interest rates on my credit cards because I didn't like to think too much about how much debt I was in. BUT finding out exactly what interest rate I was paying (some of my cards have several different interest rates) and when these rates ran out was really helpful in terms of helping me prioritise what to pay off first. If you are like me, then make finding out your interest rates, statement dates etc one of the first things you do. Also, sometimes just by having a chat with your bank or card provider, you can get a lower interest rate. I called my bank to check something about my personal loan and they told me I could refinance on a lower interest rate which saved me just under £90 a month in repayments.

    4. YNAB (You Need A Budget) is a great piece of budgeting software. You get a 34 day free trial when you first sign up. HOWEVER, I think that OnTrees was more useful to me at the very beginning because I didn't have an accurate picture of where my money was going. YNAB have a great YouTube channel with lots of advice on how to get the most from their website and about budgeting in general, another thing that is worth a browse when you have time.

    5. Snowball calculator - to help you figure out the correct order for paying your debts off.

    6. Join Cashback, survey sites and market research focus groups. There are loads out there but I use TopCashBack for cashback, MySurvey for surveys and Trend Market Research and People for Research focus group sites (I can't keep up with too many!). I've been using TopCashBack for about 9 months and I've made nearly £400 in total (ok, I have also spent a lot on it!) ; I've made £40 from MySurvey since end of Jan and done two Focus Groups (£90 total) this year.

    7. Try cheaper brands. I used to buy certain brands because I assumed they were better quality, but I've been making an effort to try cheaper brands since January and I've been really pleased with the results. Biggest one for me was switching from Tesco & Waitrose to ALDI for my weekly shop. ALDI is amazing! I think a lot of their products are way better quality than Tesco or Waitrose and they are way, way cheaper. I'm a proper fangirl for them now :):):) I switched brands for a couple of skincare and toiletries too and found that I either preferred or didn't notice a difference when using a slightly cheaper brand.

    8. Clear cookies / Delete card / paypal information - if you have any websites that automatically store your card or paypal information then delete it. Clear your cookies. Unsubscribe from mailing lists if you know that certain ones always tempt you to buy something. Stop following the spendiest blogs/instagrams - I found there was one blogger that always prompted me to buy something, so I've just stopped reading her blog for the time being.

    Good luck! I'll subscribe to your diary so I can see how you are getting on :)
  • Hi yes it's a Becky reference ;-)
    Thanks for your reply xxx
    MBNA (Was £2000), Now £2, 900 (Expected date Dec/2020)
    CAR (Was £300) Now
    £2, 000 (Interest free loan from family member)



    **Want to be on my way to being debt free for 42**
  • Oh cool, can I subscribe to yours too? X
    MBNA (Was £2000), Now £2, 900 (Expected date Dec/2020)
    CAR (Was £300) Now
    £2, 000 (Interest free loan from family member)



    **Want to be on my way to being debt free for 42**
  • Oh cool, can I subscribe to yours too? X
    You can, this is the link to my diary : GC's Debt Diary there is a box at the top to Subscribe (next to the bright pink Post Reply box) xx
  • Ok, I am probably not doing this is in a logical manner. I thought I had managed to save this month, and I have. Originally I had saved £200 and trasnferred it into another a/c/ But then my main a/c hit the overdraft and I had transferred £150 to cover it. So I had saved £50. I checked the bank again and its now minus £80.
    I have had a look at my money over the last month and I have spend over £200 on paypal - some are gifts but some are jewellery (for me) scentsey products (for me) and aloe vera products. I have spend over £100 eating out/take aways and £100 on "top up shops". I coiuld have saved about £400-£500 this month. And probably every month. I don't even know if I am posting this in the right place. If not, please direct me to where I should go, but definitley need to cancel the credit cards that are stored online.....
    MBNA (Was £2000), Now £2, 900 (Expected date Dec/2020)
    CAR (Was £300) Now
    £2, 000 (Interest free loan from family member)



    **Want to be on my way to being debt free for 42**
  • thegirlinthegreenscarf
    thegirlinthegreenscarf Posts: 95 Forumite
    edited 26 April 2017 at 12:50PM
    Hi


    What is the difference between onetrees and ynab? Are these definitely secure? Its lunctime and I am on the ynab youtube channel right now. Just downloaded the classic app too, but its in dollars. Is this normal or have I downloaded the wrong app?
    MBNA (Was £2000), Now £2, 900 (Expected date Dec/2020)
    CAR (Was £300) Now
    £2, 000 (Interest free loan from family member)



    **Want to be on my way to being debt free for 42**
  • Hi


    What is the difference between onetrees and ynab? Are these definitely secure? Its lunctime and I am on the ynab youtube channel right now. Just downloaded the classic app too, but its in dollars. Is this normal or have I downloaded the wrong app?

    I find OnTrees easier to understand that YNAB. I'd say the main difference is that OnTrees is good for tracking what you spend and if you are not used to having a spending diary then it makes it much easier because it imports the info from your bank account. YNAB is better for budgeting, there is supposedly some way to link it with your bank accounts etc but I wasn't able to do it with any of mine (I think it may be set up for USA banks, not UK ones).
    As far as I know they are both secure websites, I have been using OnTrees since beginning of the year and I haven't had any trouble with fraud.

    YNAB is an American company so I think dollars is the default but you can change it in the settings ... hopefully a YNAB expert will be along shortly to explain because I find it confusing enough to do the very basics!
  • I use a spending tracker that is useful to record each and every transaction. The app helpfully shows the resulting spends in the form of bar charts or a pie chart whichever you prefer. It's very visual and helps you to see if spends are creeping up. I use it to record everything but also to keep an eye on my food spending as I know this is where money grows wings! The app was free!
    Might to useful to track spending and then plan a budget?
    paydbx2024 #2 £480/£5000 . Mortgage £144k start ~ £148k Jun 23 -
    2024 savings challenge £5/£2000
    EF £140. Savings 2 £30.00. Weekly savings envelope #17
  • I use a spending tracker that is useful to record each and every transaction. The app helpfully shows the resulting spends in the form of bar charts or a pie chart whichever you prefer. It's very visual and helps you to see if spends are creeping up. I use it to record everything but also to keep an eye on my food spending as I know this is where money grows wings! The app was free!
    Might to useful to track spending and then plan a budget?


    Brill! What's the app called?
    MBNA (Was £2000), Now £2, 900 (Expected date Dec/2020)
    CAR (Was £300) Now
    £2, 000 (Interest free loan from family member)



    **Want to be on my way to being debt free for 42**
  • Progress has been sporadic, but progress nonetheless. I have made a list of my direct debits/standing orders (including my contributions to the household bills) and have even contacted the morgage company for a statement (Wow, that was a sobering experience!) I was wondering if it is possible (sensible) to be on DWF and Morgage Free forums at the same time? Anyhoo, I have cancelled a membership for £10/month that I did not use, bartered my mobile phone provider down from £25/month to £14/month. I am also listing items on ebay. I still feel like I am not going about this in a logical manner - I am just doing bits and pieces here and there as time/energy allows.The next things I want to do (apart from listing more on ebay, obvs) are:
    Set up accounts to "piggybank" (I think I am going to go with nationwide, but I was getting very confused),
    Check my 0% credit card and also
    Look at my studio/xmas catalogue statement so see what i spent last year.


    Wish me luck!
    MBNA (Was £2000), Now £2, 900 (Expected date Dec/2020)
    CAR (Was £300) Now
    £2, 000 (Interest free loan from family member)



    **Want to be on my way to being debt free for 42**
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