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Real life MMD: What should I do for New Year's Eve?
Former_MSE_Penelope
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Money Moral Dilemma: What should I do for New Year's Eve?
I traditionally spend New Year's Eve with family in Cornwall (I live in Lancashire), but this year I'm a bit strapped (due to newborn baby) and can't afford train tickets. Some of my family are too old to ask to come here and as they're last second train tickets they'll cost a fortune. So I can invite them, knowing a few won't make it, or I could say we're spending New Year's alone, and risk hurting their feelings as it's the only time I see them.
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Be honest with them. They may have a whip round and pay for a ticket as maybe an early birthday present or a baby welcoming gift, would be cheaper and easier than everybody coming to yours. Can you travel by coach, will a relative meet you part way to make the fare cheaper. If you are honest i am sure a compramise can be met so you can all be together for the New Year.0
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I have travelled with a newborn before and it was tiring and stressful. I would not recommend the coach, you and the baby would find it unbearable. Why not ask the family to wait until Easter or June (before the holiday season fully starts and it gets to hot and sticky to travel by train with little kids) and go to Cornwall for a proper break. Explain the situation and say that whilst the baby is little and you have no money travelling is difficult. Given plenty of time you should be able to book a cheap ticket. As the other post says perhaps the family would put together to buy the ticket as a gift to you and the baby.0
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First off, congratulations on being a parent.
We're just coming out of our first year of being a parent, and the first few months were hell-ish. Lack of sleep, just for one. Anyone who says to a new parent: "Oh you HAVE to visit!" and tries emotional blackmail should be banished to Siberia.
Let them come to you if they want. (which comes with its own set of hassles) - but you shouldn't venture out until YOU feel you and your new baby can handle it. And don't let anyone else tell you otherwise.0 -
Firstly, Congratulations!
I agree with iscamaid, you should be spending the first fews months cwched up with your baby! If you waited till Easter or the Spring bank holiday you would have had a chance to get your head together a bit and also to shop for advance train tickets. Also baby would be a bit more interactive by then. How about skype? My sister and her little ones have been at her in-laws on the other side of the country for Xmas and skype has been a real bonus for my folks. You could catch up with them earlier in the evening if you fancied sloping off to bed early, or (with luck and a good connection) be able to join them to ring in the new year.
Either way, talk to them! Make it clear it is not because you don't want to see them and i'm sure they will understand.0 -
be honest and they will respect you for it xxx:A :j0
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Baby has to come first - they'll understand! As others have said, visit later in the year when baby is bigger, you're less tired & the weather is better.I can cook and sew, make flowers grow.0
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Stay put. It's the most sensible and practical option. Visit the rest of your family another time, when it's more convenient.
Spending the new year with the rest of your family is a tradition, not a requirement. If they won't accept your perfectly valid reasons for not joining them, they're the ones who should feel guilty, not you.
You have a family of your own now. Spend the new year with them.
Or maybe you have others (friends etc) nearer to you who would also appreciate your company. They've never spent the new year with you, after all.
There's no reason at all why every new year should be spent with the same people, or why it should be the "only time" you see your relatives.0 -
Congratulations!
Consider the following........
You don't have much cash, travelling with a baby on a train is a nightmare, you are likely already tired and a baby is unlikely to sleep with a party downstairs.
Explain this to your family, I am sure most if not all have been in the same position and will understand perfectly. I am sure you can make it up with a phone call at 5 to midnight and then chat to anyone and everyone then.
Happy New Year!Opinions are like a**holes, everyone has one.0 -
I agree with the previous comments. Travelling - and partying - is difficult with a baby. I'm sure your relatives will understand, and would rather see you and the baby some other time when its easier for all of you.0
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