can't seem to kick it

poppyscorner · 18 July 2006 at 12:42AM

Hi Everyone,

I have posted quite a few things on here just lately and have received some very usefull advice and info from you.

So this is something I have been thinking about posting since last week and I know its highly controversial so please don't shoot me down right away Iam seeking your help and advice for help.

I found out last week on the eve of my grans funeral that I am expecting my 3rd child lovely news you might say and it was an unplanned pregnancy but a lovely suprise.

my problem is those little white sticks namely cigarettes and the fact that I cannot seem to kick them i am breaking every rule in my own book never mind anything else I have a history of horrendous pregnancies my other 2 children I had prem labours with and my first child was actually stillborn my second (DS) was fine and was eventually born at 39wks I did not smoke then and really looked down on anyone who did whilst pregnant and I am now doing the same thing my self but I don't want to anymore I recognise the risks and want to stop but I just don't know how don't know if I am looking for shock therapy from you or general advice on how you did it I can't use NRT as they don't know how safe it is any help support and advice is greatly appreciated and I promise to take it on board I will do it its just a matter of how I am concerned about the health of my baby and my own health because I was overweight at the beginning of the pregnancy so there was a risk straight away.

Thanks to you all for listening and for any advice you may provide.

Amanda x

P.S I am not taking the p1ss I really do need help with this.:embarasse

bella4uk · 18 July 2006 at 1:20AM

Ok...firstly I will say only smokers or ex smokers can reply....do gooders will put their tuppence in without knowing how hard it really is.!
I too am ashamed to say I smoked throughout my pregnacies , I tried my best but just couldn't do it. Strangely, 8 months after the twins were born and I was on my 3rd chest infection, I went to the docs for antibiotics and she said you must stop and I replied I will when I am less stressed when they start nursery and her reply was and then you will find another way to delay it. The next day I thought about it and she was right and that night I smoked my last fag ripped up the rest of the packet (nearly killed me to do so) threw out all lighters, ashtrays and told everyone i was packing in and i need support....everybody (including me) thought, yeah right...she'll last a coupleof days at most....but in telling people it made me more determined and after smoking 20 a day for 15 years i did it cold turkey and was totally miserable for a month or so....3 years on would still like one but realise how smelly, dangerous and expensive it is.
The time has to be right for you....and not sure if now is the time as it takes a lot out of you...if you can really cut down it will be a bonus. Also don't allow anyone to smoke in your house as you will find it too hard.
I ate a lot of liquorice as it tasted a bit like fags.
Get in touch with your health visitor as there are a lot of quit smoking help centres around nowadays.
Take care and I wish you good luck!
Maybe do a diary on here to tell us how you are doing and everytime you need one put a message on here and we can all try and support you.

coolio_2 · 18 July 2006 at 2:19AM

I'm an ex smoker and I stopped when smoking started to make me feel ill. My suggestion would be to smoke the most disgustingly cheap horible cigarettes u can find so that you really hate smoking.

roswell · 18 July 2006 at 2:36AM

If at first you dont succeded try try and try again .. finaly give up thinking back to all the times you failed to quit and you will quit for being so diharteneded that you failed each time before that.

Katgoddess · 18 July 2006 at 6:45AM

I don't smoke, just wanted to say good luck!

purplepurple · 18 July 2006 at 7:03AM

as an ex smoker, I would say, literally take it a minute at a time to begin with. Try to get to the end of every minute without putting one in your mouth. You'll be surprised at how quickly the minutes turn into ten minutes... hours.. days.. weeks and years. If you really want to give up, you will.

Your local doctors or hospital will have a free service offering one to one or group support... have a look here: http://www.givingupsmoking.co.uk/and find your local one....

you could try giving the NHS Pregnancy Smoking Helpline 0800 169 9 169 a ring..Lines are open daily from 12 noon - 9pm ....

and for the shock tactics you request in your original post http://www.givingupsmoking.co.uk/why_give_up/inside_a_smoker/

Good luck! Hope it goes well.... STAY STRONG!!!:D

Sallys_Savings · 18 July 2006 at 7:40AM

I once watched a programme (think it was way back in school days)...that put me off smoking for life.
It was of a heavily pregnant lady smoking and it sort of cut her in half so you could see the smoke going straight to the baby. Yuck..it was disgusting...the womb all black with smoke

Good Luck Poppy..........All the very best!!!

WelshWoofer · 18 July 2006 at 7:40AM

I'm not pregnant but do smoke and wish that I didn't. I gave up for around 2 yaers and stupidly started again. I want to give up again too.
Is there someone close that you can give up with? Maybe 2 of you together can support each other?
Also don't worry about putting on weight whilst giving up smoking - what's half a stone in the long run - you can lose the weight but can't grow new lungs!

Good luck!
R

moggins · 18 July 2006 at 7:45AM

You can do it, I've been a non smoker for just over a week now and if I can do it anyone can. I can only echo what purplepurple says. Take it one minute or hour at a time. I never said that I was quitting, I just tested myself to see how long I could go. as the hours turned into days it just seemed even more stupid to put one in my mouth again.

DH is still smoking but even I have noticed him cutting down now.

AnnieH · 18 July 2006 at 8:31AM

I smoked from the age of 15. I stopped smoking with my 1st pregnancy, as I was too sick and couldn't bear the smell of it. I had the odd 1 or 2 fags during my 2nd pregnancy (I am ashamed to say) and carried on smoking for years.

It wasn't until dd1 started school that I stopped smoking. I couldn't bear the thought of her going to big school and her lovely new uniform smelling of smoke. It really upset me at the time. I stopped smoking a couple of weeks after she turned 5. She's nearly 8 now and I have to admit to having the odd 1 when I've had a drink, but other than that, I'm smoke free.

Good luck, I am sure you can do it. You just need to find your motivation.

Fleago · 18 July 2006 at 8:43AM

Hi Poppyscorner,

Congratulations! :T

I gave up by reading Alan Carr's book The Easy Way to Stop Smoking after numerous failed attempts using willpower, patches, gum etc.

Good luck!

Fleago

can't seem to kick it

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