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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 8th Apr 19, 7:52 AM
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    Giving up/ Cutting Down Alcohol Thread Part 16
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    • 8th Apr 19, 7:52 AM
    Giving up/ Cutting Down Alcohol Thread Part 16 8th Apr 19 at 7:52 AM
    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :


    Part 14 and 15 is Here

    Part 13 is Here

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"
    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 08-04-2019 at 8:03 AM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 14th Jun 19, 6:34 PM
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    12/23 AFDs today
    2013 - 313 AFDs, 2014 - 289 AFDs, 2015 - 321 AFDs, 2016 - 276 AFDs, 2017 - 276 AFDs, 2018 - 240 AFDs 2019 - 209 AFDs up to end of September
    MFW Challenge 2019 - £775/£1809
    • rosy10
    • By rosy10 14th Jun 19, 8:19 PM
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    a bit of a dash in and out for me; I'm starting to forget what day it is. 9/26, please Shaggy.
    Adding my virtual hugs to all going through tough times at the moment.
    • Arkers
    • By Arkers 15th Jun 19, 8:22 AM
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    Good morning everyone,
    5 please Shaggy - not quite sure how!
    Arsenal Beanie - I think that paying for a diagnoses is a a good plan. I just wasn't expecting my news at all. I have had 3 mammograms in the last 13 months and essentially the tumour has been missed until the last one where I said I think I have a lump.I'm trying to be positive etc, but I'm pretty cross and I am failing to understand how it could be missed especially the one in Jan.

    I've also stopped reading internet info about it all, already I feel better for this. Everyone has their own story, and I was scaring myself witless with this, because for every positive I'd find two negatives. It's very damaging so although difficult I don't read Dr Google. I am trying to carry on with my normal routine which is difficult but necessary for me.
    I'm sure I will crash at some point, but hopefully I will get through this.
    I think I might know how you are feeling to a point, your whole thought process is entirely about whether you have Cancer or don't and if so, how bad.
    Anger, how the F has this happened I have said this a thousand times. Going private for me isn't going to get the answer a lot sooner (maybe a few days), and I have been told that once in the system the treatment is the same, but I absolutely would in your case.

    I hope all goes well

    Arkers x
    • Arkers
    • By Arkers 15th Jun 19, 8:26 AM
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    Correction - 6 please Shaggy!!!
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 15th Jun 19, 8:43 AM
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    Morning all, 14/21 for me today thanks.
    15 in Save 12K: £8,810.98/£12K. ONSDs: 6/10 Tilly: £4,030.20
    October AFDs: 13/21 2019 AFDs: 246/260 2018: 303/260
    • loveasale
    • By loveasale 15th Jun 19, 9:01 AM
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    Morning all ,,, planned drinking yesterday and for weekend , but been good otherwise x
    Hope all my friends here having a bad time are feeling better x
    7 tf
    I will never be rich but I'm happy
    • arsenalbarnie
    • By arsenalbarnie 15th Jun 19, 9:59 AM
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    Good morning everyone,
    5 please Shaggy - not quite sure how!
    Arsenal Beanie - I think that paying for a diagnoses is a a good plan. I just wasn't expecting my news at all. I have had 3 mammograms in the last 13 months and essentially the tumour has been missed until the last one where I said I think I have a lump.I'm trying to be positive etc, but I'm pretty cross and I am failing to understand how it could be missed especially the one in Jan.

    I've also stopped reading internet info about it all, already I feel better for this. Everyone has their own story, and I was scaring myself witless with this, because for every positive I'd find two negatives. It's very damaging so although difficult I don't read Dr Google. I am trying to carry on with my normal routine which is difficult but necessary for me.
    I'm sure I will crash at some point, but hopefully I will get through this.
    I think I might know how you are feeling to a point, your whole thought process is entirely about whether you have Cancer or don't and if so, how bad.
    Anger, how the F has this happened I have said this a thousand times. Going private for me isn't going to get the answer a lot sooner (maybe a few days), and I have been told that once in the system the treatment is the same, but I absolutely would in your case.

    I hope all goes well

    Arkers x
    Originally posted by Arkers

    Thank you for your lovely words. I have been on Dr Google and youíre right one minute it reassures you, then you scare yourself witless with the next article. I do like to know what is going on, but no more googling for me. I am paying to see the surgeon whom I think will be doing my op. The one Iím under is passing me over to him I think. The mri may shed a little more light on things, but am going to have to have a CT scan too. I broke down at 4 this am. I think it really hit me last night. OH is being really good now he realises how upset I am. I have downloaded a hypnosis app and am going to keep listening to that along with my meditation one. I just need to get the weekend out of the way, scan on Monday.

    I did crack last night and had 3 glasses of wine as I felt so sorry for myself. Appetite is pants. Tonight will be alcohol free so 1 more please Shaggy
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 15th Jun 19, 6:26 PM
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    Shaggy, your Scarlett O'Hara quote was a real lightbulb moment for me today, so thank you for that. Perfect timing. OH and I went to Totnes (twinned with Narnia) to meet up with some people for a celebration this afternoon; someone's got her life back on course after a 20 year hiatus so it was a really big deal. Bearing your comment in mind, particularly positive in view of your sister's op, I bought myself a book 'Start Where You Are: A Journal for Self-Exploration' which normally I'd pass by without being tempted but just this once I thought, 'Be open to it and go with it.' (Anyone who's been to Totnes will understand the frame of mind; more than slightly offbeat and alternative. Marvellous place.) I hope your sister's recovery is both quick and smooth and you are comfortably back on track in double quick time.

    Arsenal Barnie, I'd do exactly the same thing in your position. I hope the scan goes smoothly and good luck with the result - not the right choice of words but I hope you know what I mean.

    Glenda, we all crack occasionally, the only thing that varies is the way we do it. After my hideous experience a few weeks ago of the stray cat and all that followed I had three days in a row of eating an entire packet of chocolate biscuits on my own. That's three packets of biscuits in three days. In one sitting on each occasion. Stress-busting. We all do it. The trick is to realise that doing it when under stress is one thing, it doesn't have to be a lifetime habit just because we gave in to it that time.

    Season of Mist, fantastically well done for resisting the free booze. It's not a decision you're going to regret, and doesn't it feel fantastic going to bed after a night like that when you know you're not going to wake up with a hangover! Such a relief, and that feeling never goes away. I now consider it as good as the feeling I used to have when I was more than a bit merry after a few which I don't miss at all.

    15/30 please, Shaggy.
    Last edited by Honey Bear; 15-06-2019 at 6:28 PM.
    Keeping it AF
    • maggiem
    • By maggiem 15th Jun 19, 8:53 PM
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    4/18 please and I was in Totnes today too. Lovely weather after a rocky start. I could easily have spent a fortune but resisted the temptation. Now to keep going.
    Last edited by maggiem; 16-06-2019 at 5:36 AM. Reason: Typos
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 16th Jun 19, 8:39 AM
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    Morning all, 15/21 for me today thanks.
    15 in Save 12K: £8,810.98/£12K. ONSDs: 6/10 Tilly: £4,030.20
    October AFDs: 13/21 2019 AFDs: 246/260 2018: 303/260
    • marahouti
    • By marahouti 16th Jun 19, 8:56 AM
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    Hello, 14/16 for June please Shaggy. X
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 16th Jun 19, 12:13 PM
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    4/18 please and I was in Totnes today too. Lovely weather after a rocky start. I could easily have spent a fortune but resisted the temptation. Now to keep going.
    Originally posted by maggiem
    I wonder if that's more than just a co-incidence?! Weird but marvellous.

    16/30 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
    • AnnieG
    • By AnnieG 17th Jun 19, 1:27 AM
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    Ok, I need to get a grip here. It's 17th June and I've only had 5 af days this month. I feel dreadful, my stomach isn't enjoying it, I'm not getting to the gym because I feel lethargic... and so on!

    I'm determined not to drink for the next 7 days, I want to feel healthy again.

    Here goes...!!
    Say what you mean.. mean what you say... without being mean.
    • maggiem
    • By maggiem 17th Jun 19, 6:17 AM
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    5/18 please - and Annie, I too want to have a good run of AFDs at least until Friday.
    • marahouti
    • By marahouti 17th Jun 19, 7:18 AM
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    No more AF days to report so I'm still on 14/16. I'm on holiday for a week so will be drinking. I will get back on track when I get home.
    Have a good week everyone, particularly those who have been having a hard time recently. X
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 17th Jun 19, 8:06 AM
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    Morning all, 16/21 for me today please.
    15 in Save 12K: £8,810.98/£12K. ONSDs: 6/10 Tilly: £4,030.20
    October AFDs: 13/21 2019 AFDs: 246/260 2018: 303/260
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 17th Jun 19, 9:55 AM
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    It's been a very disruptive few months, Annie, so finding your equilibrium takes a while. Good on you for seizing the moment.

    66.8kgs I'm sadly rather chuffed with that.
    17/30 please, Shaggy.
    Last edited by Honey Bear; 18-06-2019 at 9:38 AM.
    Keeping it AF
    • 3Catssooz
    • By 3Catssooz 17th Jun 19, 10:38 AM
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    Hi All
    I am a long time lurker and have bitten the bullet to join.
    I've never posted online so please bear with me.
    I am so cross that I can't get the booze under control, so need help please. I regulary drink wine and don't have an off button, so best not to start......easier said than done.
    Fed up with my lack of willpower and feeling rubbish all the time!
    I am going back and reading the posts, so will take me a little while, so apologies for not acknowledging the events on here yet.
    Feeling ashamed and vunerable and to cap it all I just lost my job-so now can't afford alcohol anyway.
    I would like to be able to "take it or leave it".
    Baby steps.
    • AnnieG
    • By AnnieG 17th Jun 19, 11:44 AM
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    I'm calling today as AF and now am on 6 days this month. I almost got a beer from the fridge without thinking about it but caught myself in time.

    Onwards and upwards!!
    Say what you mean.. mean what you say... without being mean.
    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 17th Jun 19, 11:56 AM
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    I just wasn't expecting my news at all. I have had 3 mammograms in the last 13 months and essentially the tumour has been missed until the last one where I said I think I have a lump.I'm trying to be positive etc, but I'm pretty cross and I am failing to understand how it could be missed especially the one in Jan.
    Originally posted by Arkers


    Gosh that is incredible.


    I've also stopped reading internet info about it all, already I feel better for this. Everyone has their own story, and I was scaring myself witless with this, because for every positive I'd find two negatives. It's very damaging so although difficult I don't read Dr Google.
    Originally posted by Arkers



    My sister was told to do this too. Also, she was warned about talking to others who've had BC because ebryone's cancer is different and everyone's experienc is different. You just have to put faith in your doctors.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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