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    • FreeBear
    • By FreeBear 5th Mar 19, 11:49 AM
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    Potential lodger ?
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    • 5th Mar 19, 11:49 AM
    Potential lodger ? 5th Mar 19 at 11:49 AM
    Autumn of 2017, I had an 18yo girl staying with me - Three months pregnant, boyfriend floating in and out. In the two months she stayed here, the BF did quite a bit of damage to the room, and she was very emotionally unstable. Ended up with her having a "meltdown", rehomed in a women's refuge, leaving me to repair the damage.

    The baby was born some four months later and social services placed her in to a supported living hostel. The baby was subsequently taken away and placed in care.

    Over the weekend, I had a string of emails from this young girl asking if "her old room" was vacant and could she move back. Imploring me to provide a safe and stable environment for both herself and a new BF with the long term aim of getting the baby back.....

    I haven't given her an answer yet.
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    • Honeylife
    • By Honeylife 16th Mar 19, 8:48 AM
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    Absolutely not!

    1. disaster last time
    2. Room way too small
    3. could cause a serious issue with other lodgers
    4, Your own mental health

    NO. NO. NO.
    Last edited by Honeylife; 16-03-2019 at 9:52 AM.
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    • elsien
    • By elsien 16th Mar 19, 8:53 AM
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    Aside from the fact that you don't really have a suitable room to offer,

    She's in a supported living place for a reason. Because she has been assessed to need the support. Are you qualified, willing and able to offer that for however long it might take. She's casting around in desperation for options. Desperate choices tend not to be good ones. Social services are unlikely to count a tiny room in someone else's house with a possible boyfriend in tow as a stable settled option to bring a baby to.
    Last edited by elsien; 16-03-2019 at 8:56 AM.
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