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    • dickdasdedly
    • By dickdasdedly 12th Jan 19, 10:00 PM
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    Looking at getting married in Zante in 2020. Looking for practical help/advise
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    • 12th Jan 19, 10:00 PM
    Looking at getting married in Zante in 2020. Looking for practical help/advise 12th Jan 19 at 10:00 PM
    Hi
    My partner and i are looking at getting married in aug/sept 2020.
    We both have been married before and we dont want a register office wedding. We would love to get married somewhere like Mauritius on a tropical beach but as we want our families there Mauritius isn't practical. So we are thinking about Zante but were open to similar areas/places. We want it to be on a beach or cove or at least overlooking one. We want to do it so it can be incorporated into a holiday for our family's. So what im asking is if anyone has practical advise or has done similar themselves or can maybe point out pitfalls to look for or money saving ideas that would help.
    Thank you
    Richard W
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    • Guerillatoker
    • By Guerillatoker 12th Jan 19, 10:21 PM
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    • 12th Jan 19, 10:21 PM
    My brother got married abroad and I was best man. A few things to consider:

    -He would still opt for a marriage abroad again if you asked him now.
    -It is expensive but costs can be managed by limiting guest numbers.
    -There may be several private beaches in one area that can hold the wedding so see if you can find testimony to figure out which is best.
    -Be prepared for disgruntled family and friends who cannot afford the trip abroad.
    -As the place is likely not staffed entirely by English speakers be prepared for the odd request to have been misunderstood (menu etc.) but overall the experience was great and he by no means used a really expensive marriage service.

    He did in the Oludeniz bay (Blue Lagoon) in Turkey, its a beautiful place so take a look.
    • melanzana
    • By melanzana 12th Jan 19, 10:35 PM
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    I wish you well, but I doubt many guests will be over the moon about having to go a specific place for your wedding especially in high Summer Season. Thus stifling other plans they may have for a family holiday.

    Think long and hard about the onus you may be putting on others in your delight about getting married in Zante or wherever.

    Second marriage. Just do it yourselves alone, and forget about the expense and all the rest of it you will be putting on others to attend.

    But I suspect you know this already.
    • motivated
    • By motivated 12th Jan 19, 10:36 PM
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    Friends of ours went to a wedding in Zante last year. They said it was beautiful and overlooked the sea. Her son and daughter-in-law had a wedding planner out there and they took lots of things with them. Wedding favours,table decorations etc. Very

    Have a look at The Balcony Hotel Zante.

    The photos looked amazing.
    • melanzana
    • By melanzana 12th Jan 19, 10:38 PM
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    Guests are the issue, and their ability to afford to go, or indeed forego their own family holiday, no matter how lovely the place is for B+G.
    • mgdavid
    • By mgdavid 13th Jan 19, 1:38 AM
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    Be prepared for plenty of follow-on hassle when UK institutions and companies refuse to accept a foreign marriage certificate especially if not translated into English. Do plenty of research up front....
    The questions that get the best answers are the questions that give most detail....
    • unholyangel
    • By unholyangel 13th Jan 19, 2:34 AM
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    • 13th Jan 19, 2:34 AM
    Well OP did say they want their families there - that could just be immediate family so they may not be expecting (or want) everyone to come.

    OP, maybe turtle beach? At laganas? You'll find most travel agents will have wedding packages available that might be a good place to start and give you some ideas as to whats available and where. I believe most (if not all) of them will include things like marriage licence etc so you have less to worry about.
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    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 13th Jan 19, 8:41 AM
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    Head over to the Zante board on Tripadvisor.

    Hi
    My partner and i are looking at getting married in aug/sept 2020.
    We both have been married before and we dont want a register office wedding. We would love to get married somewhere like Mauritius on a tropical beach but as we want our families there Mauritius isn't practical. So we are thinking about Zante but were open to similar areas/places. We want it to be on a beach or cove or at least overlooking one. We want to do it so it can be incorporated into a holiday for our family's. So what im asking is if anyone has practical advise or has done similar themselves or can maybe point out pitfalls to look for or money saving ideas that would help.
    Thank you
    Richard W
    Originally posted by dickdasdedly
    Have you discussed this with your families?
    You might find that costs and dates rule out the guests you would want to be there.
    Speaking personally, I don't mind who gets married where but I'd decline to attend a wedding abroad regardless of how close I was to the bride or groom as I choose my holiday dates, location and accommodation based on what suits me, not others.

    I'm sure someone will be along soon to point out my selfishness.
    • Red-Squirrel
    • By Red-Squirrel 13th Jan 19, 8:58 AM
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    If you want your families there, you will have to pay for them to be there or make it somewhere easier (and cheaper) for them to get to.
    • Fireflyaway
    • By Fireflyaway 13th Jan 19, 10:31 AM
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    Congratulations! We got married in Mauritius. We have a small family and few friends so we had a little barbeque party thing when we got back.
    My main tip would be sort the paperwork out well in advance. Ensure you provide everything to the wedding planners with time to spare. If something is lost / someone forgets to do something, you need time to be in the safe side.
    I was allowed to take my dress into the cabin. The crew hung it up in the galley. Call the airline to ask if it's possible. Couldn't imagine arriving and the dress doesnt!
    Other tip is make up. I don't wear much so although I had my hair professionally done, I did my own make-up. In some countries / cultures their idea of wedding make-up is different to ours, you don't want to look like a clown so either have a trial before or do it yourself.
    Take note of where the marriage is registered ( which district / address of the office) . I lost my certificate and it was a mission tracking down where to get a copy.
    Hope everything goes great!
    • TonyMMM
    • By TonyMMM 13th Jan 19, 12:22 PM
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    1) make sure that you can comply (residency/licence etc.) with whatever conditions make a wedding legally valid in the country that you choose - it can be difficult/expensive or even impossible (e.g. the Maldives) for non residents to have anything other than a "ceremony" in some places so you end up having to marry in a register office before/after anyway to be legally married.

    2) Don't expect friends and family to have their holiday in your chosen location. Getting married abroad could save you money - but it could mean huge costs for your guests, who may feel under a lot of pressure to attend,
    Last edited by TonyMMM; 13-01-2019 at 12:28 PM.
    • Gavin83
    • By Gavin83 13th Jan 19, 2:45 PM
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    Hi
    My partner and i are looking at getting married in aug/sept 2020.
    We both have been married before and we dont want a register office wedding. We would love to get married somewhere like Mauritius on a tropical beach but as we want our families there Mauritius isn't practical. So we are thinking about Zante but were open to similar areas/places. We want it to be on a beach or cove or at least overlooking one. We want to do it so it can be incorporated into a holiday for our family's. So what im asking is if anyone has practical advise or has done similar themselves or can maybe point out pitfalls to look for or money saving ideas that would help.
    Thank you
    Richard W
    Originally posted by dickdasdedly
    Will it actually work out any cheaper to pay for all your family to come on holiday than to get married in the UK? I imagine the flight costs for all your guests alone will run into thousands.
    • gettingtheresometime
    • By gettingtheresometime 13th Jan 19, 3:36 PM
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    Will it actually work out any cheaper to pay for all your family to come on holiday than to get married in the UK? I imagine the flight costs for all your guests alone will run into thousands.
    Originally posted by Gavin83
    I was under the impression that the guests would be paying for themselves.

    Unless it was very close family or someone I would walk over hot coals for, then I wouldn't attend but wait for the usual party once you'd got back home
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    • Retireby40
    • By Retireby40 13th Jan 19, 4:17 PM
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    Do what suits you and your other half best.

    If they are close family and you give them over a years notice I'm sure they can save. If they can't afford to save then so be it.

    It's a lovely place it's not like you are picking some obscure place. I'm sure plenty of people would like to go there on holiday and I doubt people have made holiday plans already for over a year and a half away.

    I'm also sure that flights and hotels aren't too expensive.

    Those that "can't afford it" or don't want to afford it so be it. As long as you enjoy the day that's the main thing.

    You will never please everyone by your decision but it's you and your partners day and you can be as selfish as you want. Just don't expect everyone else to be happy.
    • gettingtheresometime
    • By gettingtheresometime 13th Jan 19, 4:47 PM
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    Do what suits you and your other half best.

    If they are close family and you give them over a years notice I'm sure they can save. If they can't afford to save then so be it.

    It's a lovely place it's not like you are picking some obscure place. I'm sure plenty of people would like to go there on holiday and I doubt people have made holiday plans already for over a year and a half away.

    I'm also sure that flights and hotels aren't too expensive.

    Those that "can't afford it" or don't want to afford it so be it. As long as you enjoy the day that's the main thing.

    You will never please everyone by your decision but it's you and your partners day and you can be as selfish as you want. Just don't expect everyone else to be happy.
    Originally posted by Retireby40
    I would agree with this totally had you added but if they chose not to or are unable to (after all I'm not fully aware of family or friends financial position) save or simply don't wish to come, don't have a hissy fit
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    • polgara
    • By polgara 13th Jan 19, 5:13 PM
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    • Retireby40
    • By Retireby40 13th Jan 19, 5:13 PM
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    I was assuming that the original poster would be in some form understanding if someone had a genuine reason.

    If however said family members have plenty of money and say no we aren't coming because we prefer a week in x location as opposed to Zante, while I wouldn't have a hissy fit I would probably lose interest in that person. I'm talking about close family and friends here.
    • Red-Squirrel
    • By Red-Squirrel 13th Jan 19, 6:27 PM
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    Do what suits you and your other half best.

    If they are close family and you give them over a years notice I'm sure they can save. If they can't afford to save then so be it.

    It's a lovely place it's not like you are picking some obscure place. I'm sure plenty of people would like to go there on holiday and I doubt people have made holiday plans already for over a year and a half away.

    I'm also sure that flights and hotels aren't too expensive.

    Those that "can't afford it" or don't want to afford it so be it. As long as you enjoy the day that's the main thing.

    You will never please everyone by your decision but it's you and your partners day and you can be as selfish as you want. Just don't expect everyone else to be happy.
    Originally posted by Retireby40
    Sums up the problem with modern weddings very nicely.
    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 13th Jan 19, 6:37 PM
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    I was assuming that the original poster would be in some form understanding if someone had a genuine reason.

    If however said family members have plenty of money and say no we aren't coming because we prefer a week in x location as opposed to Zante, while I wouldn't have a hissy fit I would probably lose interest in that person. I'm talking about close family and friends here.
    Originally posted by Retireby40
    Really?
    I could afford to travel to the other side of the world i.e. I have plenty of money but I really don't see why I should spend that money on someone who wants to get married halfway round the world.
    Way before the bride and groom 'lose interest' in me, I'd have lost interest in them.
    • lincroft1710
    • By lincroft1710 13th Jan 19, 7:05 PM
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    A few years ago, relative of OH's got married on Zante. Family (both sides, about 20 altogether) all booked a week's holiday at same apartment block (OH and I had 2 weeks), each paid for themselves and sometimes did things together, sometimes our own thing. Wedding was mid holiday so enjoyed time with groom and bride to be before they went off on honeymoon (another island). A very enjoyable time had by all!

    Bride and groom had 2nd "reception" in UK for those who couldn't come to Zante and also invited those who did go to Zante.
    Last edited by lincroft1710; 13-01-2019 at 7:09 PM.
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