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    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 29th Dec 18, 7:41 AM
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    Frump to Fab 2019 - Here We Go Again
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    • 29th Dec 18, 7:41 AM
    Frump to Fab 2019 - Here We Go Again 29th Dec 18 at 7:41 AM
    Good Morning Lovely Ladies (And Gents - if are are reading along).

    Are you ready to start the New Year with a sparkle in your eye and a spring in your footsteps or are you feeling a little jaded, a little worse for wear, a tad sad and neglected.

    Do you feel invisible. Does the face that stares back at you from the mirror seem like a stranger to you.

    Just who is that tired old lady looking back out at you.

    In short, have you become a Frump!!!

    Well fret ye not, salvation is at hand.

    Join our merry gang and make this the year you transform yourself.

    Ditch the Frump and become the Fabulous Woman you know you can be.

    And have some fun along the way.

    The Story So Far.......

    I have been looking back and I was astonished to discover that the First Frump to Fab thread began in 2011. Wow.

    Tempus Fugit and all that.

    Am I fabulous yet. Almost.

    How did it all begin.

    Well one day my son took a photo of me in an unguarded moment. I took one look and burst into tears. Who was that old hag, that strange woman who looked like a bag lady. That couldn't be me. So I ran upstairs and took a good hard look in a full length mirror.

    Yes, dear reader, it was me.

    I stopped snivelling and faced the truth. I was a mess. I resolved then and there to do something about it. I didn't know what that something was because at the time I was caring for my terminally ill husband and staring bankruptcy in the face.

    I was exhausted, I looked terrible and if I'm honest, I felt desperate. I didn't know what I was going to do, or where to begin so I started the first Frump to Fab thread as a diary to spur me on and keep me motivated.

    And the rest is history.

    My life is truly unrecognisable from that day. And I am not the same woman.

    I look better, feel better, my finances are better. I AM better.

    Not quite Goddess standard yet but getting there and working towards being fabulous and having a fabulous life.

    So......if you want to "Change Your Stars" then join our merry gang.

    Let's make 2019 the best one yet.

    And......more Importantly, let's have some fun along the way.

    One Golden Rule Please.

    Be kind to one another.

    Please do not be harsh or judgemental to others. None of us is perfect. It doesn't matter how we became Frumps what matters is how we are going to reclaim our looks, our energy, our joire de vie.

    The past is the past and why we became Frumps is no longer relevant. It doesn't matter how we got here, what matters is how we move forward.

    We are all here because we want to make things better. We want to look attractive, some of us might want to improve our health and fitness. All of us on here aspire to being the best we can be. So let's support each other.

    For the Newbies, the Lurkers and as a refresher course for our regular members ......

    I have posted the new thread earlier this year to give us some time to reflect and decide exactly what we want to achieve next year. Time to set goals, time for some strategic planning.

    Over the next few days, in true MSE fashion, myself and our regulars will be talking about some simple easy and FREE steps you can make as you prepare to start as your journey to Fabdom.

    So Welcome Everyone.

    Let's get this show on the road.....

    Let's Rock!!!!

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    • Wednesday2000
    • By Wednesday2000 16th May 19, 5:00 PM
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    humpty- a lot of the vegan "milks" have calcium. have a look at the vegan sources as it might give you a few ideas. Im not vegan but you get recipe ideas and "steal" some of the ideas of introducing calcium.
    Originally posted by savingfortomorrow
    Yes, plant milks are high in calcium as they are fortified. Sesame seeds, almonds, figs and green leafy vegetables are all good for calcium too.

    I take a calcium supplement a few times a week on top just as a precaution, it's combined with magnesium and zinc as well.
    Push yourself, because no one else is going to do it for you.
    • humptydumptybits
    • By humptydumptybits 16th May 19, 7:10 PM
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    Thanks for the tips, I'm willing to give anything a go. I'm definitely upping my walking and taking the vitamin d and calcium as a start.


    I said no GC, well one turned up, in trouble at school and wanted a bit of space before facing mum. Glad mine are no longer teenagers although I have to say mine never got into much trouble he could argue for England and doesn't seem to realise that doesn't go down well with teachers. He is very bright and very good at sport so tends to get away with things but needs to learn where the boundaries are. I'm hoping all is going well at home, if not he is likely to turn up on my doorstep before bedtime, sometimes his idea and sometimes his mum's. Happy days.
    • maman
    • By maman 17th May 19, 9:52 AM
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    Not 'seen' you for a few days LL. Hope you're OK and the childcare isn't wearing you out.


    Well done on sorting through the toiletries Wednesday. It's amazing what we accumulate. I've been gradually working through mine to try to get to the point where I only have/use things I really love. It's slow though because at the same time I'm using less product. Today I've nothing on the agenda to get fabbed up for in a hurry so I've used the flaxseed oil instead of serum. Then I find that using serum needs a lot less moisturiser. very mse but it doesn't reduce the stash!


    I know they gave you the results of the test instantly humpty but will there be an automatic follow up appointment with the GP to discuss/prescribe?


    Today I'm going to tackle the storecupboard as now I have more space in the kitchen some things can be moved. Does everyone keep a storecupboard? I use it for offers or things from shops I rarely get to.


    Weather's a bit dull here today and the odd shower is promised. Meanwhile sugarbaby is having wall to wall sunshine.
    • humptydumptybits
    • By humptydumptybits 17th May 19, 10:27 AM
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    Not 'seen' you for a few days LL. Hope you're OK and the childcare isn't wearing you out.


    Well done on sorting through the toiletries Wednesday. It's amazing what we accumulate. I've been gradually working through mine to try to get to the point where I only have/use things I really love. It's slow though because at the same time I'm using less product. Today I've nothing on the agenda to get fabbed up for in a hurry so I've used the flaxseed oil instead of serum. Then I find that using serum needs a lot less moisturiser. very mse but it doesn't reduce the stash!


    I know they gave you the results of the test instantly humpty but will there be an automatic follow up appointment with the GP to discuss/prescribe?


    Today I'm going to tackle the storecupboard as now I have more space in the kitchen some things can be moved. Does everyone keep a storecupboard? I use it for offers or things from shops I rarely get to.


    Weather's a bit dull here today and the odd shower is promised. Meanwhile sugarbaby is having wall to wall sunshine.
    Originally posted by maman

    Hi Maman, I saw a specialist nurse, she did the scan and talked me through the results. Apparently they will send a letter to GP asking him to arrange a blood test to see if there is any particular cause they can treat and asking him to prescribe vitamin d and calcium. I will get a copy of that.


    My GP does alot of telephone consultations now which is great, obviously not appropriate for everything but good where it is appropriate. I think he is likely to ring or get the practice nurse to ring me to arrange it all. I am due a full blood test in July so not sure if they will say wait for that or do an extra one.


    I had to laugh this morning, I got the letter telling me GP had referred me and asking me to fill in some forms if I wanted the tests, obviously already in the pipeline when I got the cancellation. I was lucky but 80% of the nurses clinic cancelled their appointments that day which seems quite shocking. I suppose at least they cancelled so not all the appointments were wasted but obviously not everyone can attend at short notice.


    Had a 1 mile walk this morning to the supermarket and bought some almonds. Trouble is I can't resist almonds so this might be an expensive, if healthy, habit.




    Two of the grandchildren here for the day, both have a bug so I got an 8 am call to say could I pick them up. At least I feel wanted/needed!
    • humptydumptybits
    • By humptydumptybits 17th May 19, 11:38 AM
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    I've decided I've got to try and save some money if I am buying a new house next year. One of my big expenses is birthdays/Christmas. Four kids, their partners and six grandchildren don't come cheap. So my plan is a cost neutral Christmas. The children all get £100 in savings accounts, that is taken care of as I get two payments of my state pension in December. For presents I so far have approx £30 in nectar points, hopefully with a double up that gives me £60 to spend. I normally get something for the 4 little ones with that, pyjamas or a little dress or something. Then I have £99 on my cash back credit card, I reckon I should have £120 by Christmas. I try to shop on TopCashBack and I have £40 in there I can take as amazon vouchers but with another £60 due. So that gives me roughly £280 to buy a gift for six children and eight adults, roughly £20 each. That will be fine for the littlies as they have cash and something to wear but I might need another £100 for the big ones and some more for the adults then I buy for one of my nieces, she is a single mum and doesn't have it easy I say I buy her something but actually I normally give her £100 to help with her Christmas. So I either need to spot some bargains between now and Christmas or raise £300 somehow. I'm going to have a sort out for ebay. It will be nice if I can do it. I've also started saving 50p pieces so I need to count them.


    So I'm on the look out for toys sales for kids, smellies/skincare for DsIL, who knows what for sons. Actually I will look out for 25% off wine at Sainsburys as they all like a nice wine. Now I'm back into crochet I might do some clothes for dolls, little GD would like that.


    How does everyone else do Christmas? Maybe we can share some tips.


    Just realised I'm talking Christmas in May. I must have flipped or something.
    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 17th May 19, 12:36 PM
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    Good Morning lovely ladies....

    Maman.....I'm here. A bit tired but all is good. No granny duties now until Monday and then only 2/3 days next week. Then the week After DILs dad will be here so I won't be needed much after that. So hopefully I will be able to crack on with the house and garden.

    Aiming to cut the grass and do some planting this afternoon. Gardens are starting to take shape nicely now.

    Fabwise - WW - stayed the same this week, which given the erratic eating patterns of the last week or so is a minor miracle. So back to the plan now.

    I did give eating more carbs a go but they really don't suit me, my digestive system just can't cope so I will stick with what I know works for me. I would rather be comfortable and pain free. And I think much of the tiredness is childcare related anyway rather than linked to food choices.

    Interesting info about osteopenia - I really ought to get my bone density checked. It's on my to do list.

    Since losing weight my knee is much better so I'm walking more and with less pain. All to the good.

    Gosh.....Christmas planning already. Wow.

    We discussed Christmas (and birthdays) last year and made a family pact. The consensus is "no more stuff". So gifts are now experiences or a nice family day out with just a small gift of something edible or beauty products or fragrances.
    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 17th May 19, 12:46 PM
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    Forgot to say......not much happening on the internet dating site. Most of the interest has come from guys who live rather too far away. I have decided I just can't be bothered with a long distance relationship.

    Lazy of me I know but whilst it might be nice to enjoy a little Male company now and again I really can't be bothered with the hassle of trailing round the U.K. just to go on dates. I have decided it has to be a local hero..

    (Unless of course he was very special).
    • humptydumptybits
    • By humptydumptybits 17th May 19, 1:39 PM
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    LL I generally do the experience things with the teenagers, last year they had driving lessons at 13 and 15 they went to a special off road track and had a fantastic time. They want to do it again so that is a possibility. Sometimes we do tickets for an event they would enjoy, not panto none of us are panto people so more likely to be sport than anything else.


    I see what you mean about the travelling, you can't be very spontaneous can you. There must be eligible men in Derby. Would cities like Nottingham or Leicester still be doable, trying to picture a map of England in my head and they look close or is that me looking from a distance?
    • MadamMim2013
    • By MadamMim2013 17th May 19, 3:33 PM
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    Hi everyone.. De-lurking to say a big thank you to everyone on this thread..
    I have not had the easiest 12 months, a large weight gain and various other body issues I had practically gone into hiding, self-care was non existent, really did not like myself much..
    That said, a couple of months back I discovered this thread (& the Lemonade one too) & itís made a huge impact..
    I have had a huge sort out of my clothes, purchased a few new items (e-bay/charity shop bargains) renewed my minimal make up kit and purchased some perfume.. Changed my eating patterns, fasting for at least 16 hours, dropped most carbs and increased fibre.
    Also stopped taking my pill, all vitamins etc..so that when I see the Drs, the bloods will be accurate and not full of false hormones.. (I do look a little like a spotty teen because of this )
    Drs apt booked to discuss possible thyroid issue (I have pernicious anaemia.. they often go hand in had) in the mean time as I've had to wait 4 weeks Iíve upped my exercise again and make a real attempt to mind my appearance when I leave the house, not relying on leggings/baggy tops..
    Self care has improved, especially skin care (even with the spots/blisters/boils ) itís not always easy, I often wish to hide away in my pjs under a blanket.. I have stopped myself, finding an activity or something to clean
    SO.. Thank you all very much, I really appreciate all your posts and shall endeavour to keep posting on here, even if itís just to say hi...
    "There's a little witch in all of us"
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    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 17th May 19, 3:50 PM
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    Hello Madam Min......lovely to her from you. A lovely positive post, full of hope. And giad that you are finding the optimism and energy to move forward towards your goal.

    Sometimes we feel that we are in a long dark tunnel and that we can't see any daylight. But the daylight is always there, even if we can't see it yet. At such times you just have to keep going, with faith and hope in your heart.

    Well I didn't cut the grass, instead I went to bed and slept like a baby for a couple of hours. Do I feel guilty......not a bit of it. I clearly needed the sleep otherwise I wouldn't have slept. And the grass will still be there tomorrow.

    Humpty.....yes Nottingham and Leicester are fine. I am prepared to travel for an hour or so by car.. Maybe even London for someone special but that's about it.

    It was bad enough commuting for work....
    • Wednesday2000
    • By Wednesday2000 17th May 19, 4:06 PM
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    I've been feeling like death today so not very fab at all. I've had vertigo which usually leads to a migraine.

    I have just had a hot shower, washed my hair, put on fluffy socks and made myself a hot (non-caffeine) drink. I feel more in the land of the living now!

    Well done on sorting through the toiletries Wednesday. It's amazing what we accumulate. I've been gradually working through mine to try to get to the point where I only have/use things I really love. It's slow though because at the same time I'm using less product.
    Originally posted by maman
    It's because I have been experimenting with different face creams I think. I've ended up with loads of them.

    Had a 1 mile walk this morning to the supermarket and bought some almonds. Trouble is I can't resist almonds so this might be an expensive, if healthy, habit.
    Originally posted by humptydumptybits
    Yes, nuts can be expensive, I think Asda are quite reasonable.

    I have had a huge sort out of my clothes, purchased a few new items (e-bay/charity shop bargains) renewed my minimal make up kit and purchased some perfume.. Changed my eating patterns, fasting for at least 16 hours, dropped most carbs and increased fibre.
    Also stopped taking my pill, all vitamins etc..so that when I see the Drs, the bloods will be accurate and not full of false hormones.. (I do look a little like a spotty teen because of this )
    Drs apt booked to discuss possible thyroid issue (I have pernicious anaemia.. they often go hand in had) in the mean time as I've had to wait 4 weeks Iíve upped my exercise again and make a real attempt to mind my appearance when I leave the house, not relying on leggings/baggy tops..
    Self care has improved, especially skin care (even with the spots/blisters/boils ) itís not always easy, I often wish to hide away in my pjs under a blanket.. I have stopped myself, finding an activity or something to clean
    SO.. Thank you all very much, I really appreciate all your posts and shall endeavour to keep posting on here, even if itís just to say hi...
    Originally posted by MadamMim2013
    How amazing! Well done.
    Push yourself, because no one else is going to do it for you.
    • humptydumptybits
    • By humptydumptybits 17th May 19, 5:13 PM
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    Hello Madam Min......lovely to her from you. A lovely positive post, full of hope. And giad that you are finding the optimism and energy to move forward towards your goal.

    Sometimes we feel that we are in a long dark tunnel and that we can't see any daylight. But the daylight is always there, even if we can't see it yet. At such times you just have to keep going, with faith and hope in your heart.

    Well I didn't cut the grass, instead I went to bed and slept like a baby for a couple of hours. Do I feel guilty......not a bit of it. I clearly needed the sleep otherwise I wouldn't have slept. And the grass will still be there tomorrow.

    Humpty.....yes Nottingham and Leicester are fine. I am prepared to travel for an hour or so by car.. Maybe even London for someone special but that's about it.

    It was bad enough commuting for work....
    Originally posted by lessonlearned

    Relieved my mental map wasn't totally off. Geography was never my best subject. I can remember being asked where somewhere was when I was at work and said something like, "Go towards Birmingham and then turn left." They weren't very impressed Made perfect sense to me. Sounds like a decent sized pool to fish in so you might find someone local sooner than you think.



    I don't think I've ever been to Derby or Leicester for that matter. I have been to Nottingham so I probably saw a sign for Derby and realised it was close. Amazing what we store in the subconscious.


    I've been working on my budget, I reckon if I am really strict with myself I could have £15k saved by July 2020 which would make quite a difference to my house purchase. Mind you my kids say what are you saving for, the future has arrived. In my head I'm 21 and the future is along way off, which means I get a bit of a shock when I look in the mirror or when I realise I have a son in his 40s, how on earth can that have happened?


    Sick GC seem to be improving but not sure if they are going home, parents say they have it now so I might have them for the weekend, feeding them won't help my budgeting will it. Amazing how quickly kids get their appetites back, a stomach bug puts me off food for days not hours.


    Doesn't look like they are being collected so I suppose I'd better move myself and sort some food out.
    • maman
    • By maman 17th May 19, 5:30 PM
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    That's a brilliant post min, thank you so much for 'delurking'. This is a really super thread as you've probably noticed. We discuss all sorts politely (compared with other threads) and try very hard to stick to our fabbing theme. LL had a fantastic idea when she started this.


    Glad you're OK LL. Maybe there's a John 4 living just around the corner!


    Christmas!!


    Well done for being organised humpty. I suppose with so many DGCs it's necessary. Sugarbaby is the same.


    Christmas is easy for me. Like LL, we made a decision a few years back to stop buying 'stuff'. As well as family we have had the same discussion with friends. So now we don't do presents for adults just our 2 DGDs and a few other children in the family. I'm sure we'll discuss this again, nearer the time!!
    • maman
    • By maman 17th May 19, 5:54 PM
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    Meant to say LL , SW do a low carb version of the plan which I use occasionally. It's basically lean protein with veg. My 'go to' dish for that is a cottage pie but with a swede and carrot mash for the topping instead of potatoes . Also with a roast, I do roast chunks of carrot or butternut squash (new potato size) . There's something psychological about cutting into chunky veg.

    I think the problem some people have is thinking they're on a 'diet'. Instead it's about changing your eating habits for a healthy way, permanently.
    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 17th May 19, 6:18 PM
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    We really ought to be careful discussing "Johns". Apparently ladies of the night often refer to their clients as "Johns". I hope no one gets the wrong idea about me. Ha ha.

    Re the low carb thingy.....yes I have been experimenting with various root vegetable "mashes". They can be just as tasty, love parsnip mash (with apple, Nom Nom). Although I would imagine they are just as carby as potatoes.

    I agree. I am trying not to focus on the word diet at all, but as you say, a way of eating for life. That's why I'm not too concerned that my weight loss journey has been a slow one. Hopefully it means I'm learning better lifelong habits.

    BTW. On the subject of healthy eating. Does anyone use an air fryer. What do y'all think. Worth it or not? I do love "real" chips and I've read that airfryers do a pretty good job of giving an authentic fried food taste.

    My mother made the best chips in the worrrrrld - (Cue Jeremy Clarkson voiceover) - Belgian Style - twice fried. Instant heart attack. There's a new cafe just opened in our city centre offering "authentic Belgian style chips".

    I might have to try them out - purely as a homage to my mother you understand.

    Wednesday......hope you feel better soon. Nasty horrid things, migraines.
    • maman
    • By maman 17th May 19, 7:38 PM
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    I think we might be safe enough with Johns LL but let's keep away from John Thomas!

    SW have a list of what they call Speed veg and fruits (i.e. The ones that speed up weightloss). Parsnips aren't on the list or the more sugary fruits like grapes.

    Lots of people I've met through SW have an actifry which apparently make fab chips with minimal oil. I've never bothered. I make great oven chips myself. We had some tonight and they were lush.
    • Wednesday2000
    • By Wednesday2000 17th May 19, 8:05 PM
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    Wow, I feel much better than I did earlier. I staved off the full migraine in the end.

    I keep thinking about getting an Actifry too LL. I have heard that chips in there are very nice. I do like the SW chips too, though.

    My Mum used to make lovely chips in our old fashioned deep fat fryer that we had.

    I'm not even thinking about Christmas. I'm "lucky" in that I don't know anyone with kids so don't have to worry about that type of thing.

    I think I read on this forum about where you put away £1 a day in a jar and then you have £365 for Christmas. Seemed like a good idea.
    Push yourself, because no one else is going to do it for you.
    • lessonlearned
    • By lessonlearned 17th May 19, 8:19 PM
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    I'm having a fab evening.......watching BbC4. A rock doc about Roxy Music and now best hits of 1985. Bangin tunes.

    The music lives on and has worn so well. ........The clothes, the hair maybe not so much. Lol.
    Last edited by lessonlearned; 17-05-2019 at 8:23 PM.
    • silvasava
    • By silvasava 17th May 19, 8:27 PM
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    Humpty - you mentioned the C word! Wash your mouth out!!! You're not allowed to do that until after June lol.
    MadamMim - so pleased to 'see' you and to read how positively you are thinking now. Do keep posting and let us know how you are progressing.......or not sometimes.
    I saw a caviar mask in Aldi last night and thought I'd give it a try - anyone here used it?
    Had a bit of a blow today - the results of my annual blood test came through and the practice nurse rang to make an appointment with me as apparently I am diabetic. My DS2 is T1 so I'm well aware of the effects. I'm not overweight, don't smoke, don't drink much and I'm active with a good die. I've also realised I've always had fasting blood tests until this one so I'm hoping that could have skewed the results. I have been considering cutting down on my carbs so I think I'll do that anyway as it can't hurt.
    LL - you know what happens with 'Juhns' as soon as you're not actively looking one will come along
    Small victories - sometimes they are all you can hope for but sometimes they are all you need - be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle
    • maman
    • By maman 17th May 19, 9:43 PM
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    You could be right silva. My DH had a fasting blood test last week and practice nurse said blood pressure was sky high. Cue for worrying.... ☹️ He had it done again yesterday, late afternoon and results were excellent. All because early morning he hadn't had his medication. Smiles all round.
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