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    • ds383
    • By ds383 12th Sep 18, 9:20 PM
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    Suspended for gross misconduct...help
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    • 12th Sep 18, 9:20 PM
    Suspended for gross misconduct...help 12th Sep 18 at 9:20 PM
    I was suspended for gross misconduct yesterday on full pay. I showed up to a written warning disciplinary meeting drunk. And now I have another disciplinary meeting for gross misconduct for being drunk in the previous disciplinary.

    Let me explain why I showed up drunk, which was a huge mistake. I have autism and anxiety issues and take medication for it and the day of the disciplinary I had unexpectedly ran out of the medication which calms me down. In a panic I decided to drink a few glasses of wine as I was finding the whole thing very stressful..I got a little drunker than I intended to, I just wanted to relax. I should have been more careful. I have issues with alcohol dependency and tend to use alcohol as a way to cope with anxious situations and I really couldn't see how I was going to get through it without something to calm me down. They didn't tell me I could have a representative with me, and the meeting was with someone I'd never met before, it wasn't my manager. They know about my alcohol and anxiety problems, btw. And they know I'm on medication for it. They also know I have autism.

    I'm worried sick and extremely remorseful. I've worked there for over 3 years and I'm very good at my job, and I really enjoy it. What are the chances of me getting fired? it's going to be near impossible to get another job with this on my file.

    When I have the actual meeting for the hearing I will be telling them that I have quit drinking and will be starting on anti-depressants. Would this help my defence?

    Thanks
    Last edited by ds383; 12-09-2018 at 9:31 PM.
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    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 14th Sep 18, 6:11 PM
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    Barny1979
    Downgraded to misconduct. Keeping my job
    Originally posted by ds383
    Very, very lucky, hopefully this is the kick up the bum and wake-up call you need.
    • ds383
    • By ds383 14th Sep 18, 6:27 PM
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    Yeah it definitely is a wake-up call, and I'll have no more chances after this so I can't mess up again, and I won't. It has scared me enough to pick up my act.
    • motorguy
    • By motorguy 14th Sep 18, 7:16 PM
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    Yeah it definitely is a wake-up call, and I'll have no more chances after this so I can't mess up again, and I won't. It has scared me enough to pick up my act.
    Originally posted by ds383
    So you're now off the drink and taking the anti-depressants?
    "We have normality. I repeat, we have normality. Anything you still can't cope with is therefore your own problem."
    • Les79
    • By Les79 14th Sep 18, 7:38 PM
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    Yeah it definitely is a wake-up call, and I'll have no more chances after this so I can't mess up again, and I won't. It has scared me enough to pick up my act.
    Originally posted by ds383
    I can't believe this went on for 4 pages after my gambling experience!

    I note that you said yesterday (I think, lots of pages!) "I'm going to attend an AA meeting tonight"

    How was it?
    • motorguy
    • By motorguy 15th Sep 18, 11:00 AM
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    I can't believe this went on for 4 pages after my gambling experience!

    I note that you said yesterday (I think, lots of pages!) "I'm going to attend an AA meeting tonight"

    How was it?
    Originally posted by Les79
    I've a friend whos a heavy smoker. Had a heart attack when he was 42. Nearly died. Was told it was because of his smoking and drinking. Evangelised it was a "wake up call" for him. Made all the noises for a few days. Then he heard it would be a big shock to the system to stop smoking suddenly, so he "just had a few a day", so then the few became a few more, and he still smokes....

    I've two friends who are in the motor trade. They arent making any money. They really need to shut down and get jobs, however they eke out a living and try to convince themselves that good times are just around the corner. Then they get their accounts done up at their year end and its in black and white that they're losing money. So this becomes their "wake up call" and thats all each of them says for a week or two. Then they fall back in to old habits and it goes on....

    "Wake up call" is hugely over-used to the point of it actually makes me cringe, BUT i'd love the O/P to be the one who proves me wrong....
    Last edited by motorguy; 15-09-2018 at 11:28 AM.
    "We have normality. I repeat, we have normality. Anything you still can't cope with is therefore your own problem."
    • sangie595
    • By sangie595 15th Sep 18, 11:07 AM
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    I suspect, however, that you really have friends! Whereas the chances of the OP actually existing are negligible...
    • Les79
    • By Les79 16th Sep 18, 3:14 PM
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    Les79
    I've a friend whos a heavy smoker. Had a heart attack when he was 42. Nearly died. Was told it was because of his smoking and drinking. Evangelised it was a "wake up call" for him. Made all the noises for a few days. Then he heard it would be a big shock to the system to stop smoking suddenly, so he "just had a few a day", so then the few became a few more, and he still smokes....

    I've two friends who are in the motor trade. They arent making any money. They really need to shut down and get jobs, however they eke out a living and try to convince themselves that good times are just around the corner. Then they get their accounts done up at their year end and its in black and white that they're losing money. So this becomes their "wake up call" and thats all each of them says for a week or two. Then they fall back in to old habits and it goes on....

    "Wake up call" is hugely over-used to the point of it actually makes me cringe, BUT i'd love the O/P to be the one who proves me wrong....
    Originally posted by motorguy
    Two apt examples.

    To change the pattern actually requires a complete overhaul of your personality. Very very tough, especially if doing it on your own!
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