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    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 11th Sep 18, 11:02 AM
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    Why Walk When You Can Fly
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    • 11th Sep 18, 11:02 AM
    Why Walk When You Can Fly 11th Sep 18 at 11:02 AM
    Time for a new diary, although not at the end of 2018 yet, my plans put in place at the beginning of the year, haven't quite gone as planned....like most things

    Title of my diary comes from a Mary Chapin Carpenter song of the same name and the lyrics are rather apt to the present moment, it symbolises life and at ahem (42, shhhh!! Don't tell anyone) it resonates with me.

    Debt as it stands:

    MBNA: £5960 0% Sept 2019
    BC: £40
    Lloyds: £10,000 - 0% April 2021
    Lloyds OD: £2750

    Grand Total: £18750.00

    So whilst that looks horrendous, it is manageable.

    Pots:

    General - This is my default pot - will be used as my emergency pot
    DD's Travel - Yearly
    Overdraft - Will make a monthly payment until I hit target
    CC Overpayment - Same as above
    Cars - Again as above but no set target, will be used for all things car related
    Household - Everything house related - may include Quarterly and Yearly bills??

    Good Things:
    • Capital One card has gone along with DS's misdemeanour from last year, this one I was adamant was going this year.
    • We've paid off over £7K off the debt this year. Most of that was because of DH's commission and general saving up but also due to Surveys
    • Car is finally sorted
    • Lounge has been decorated
    • Pots set up
    • DS has finally settled down in school (I hope!)

    Bad Things:
    • The debt has increased - probably by what we already paid off, not sure.

    The good outweighs the bad, which means that things are going the right way.
    Last edited by Purplemumof2; 11-09-2018 at 11:18 AM.
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    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 8th Nov 18, 11:30 AM
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    I thought I should do an update so that I know where I am for the next few months.

    DH's salary will be slightly higher as he won't be paying in to his pension or for the company health care, so we will initially see a small benefit. After his three month probationary period is up this will change.

    Debt totals so far:

    MBNA: £5660
    Lloyds CC: £9878.75
    Lloyds OD: £2750

    Grand Total: £18,288.75

    By Christmas we will be well under the £18K mark and in all fairness if we hadn't paid off the amount we had this year, we'd have been even higher, I think the debt is slightly lower than the start of the year, albeit not by very much.

    Whilst not much is going to get paid off this side of Christmas, I need to think about next year...I know we're not there yet!

    I think most of the same plan will apply:

    Pay off a minimum of £4000 off the CC's
    Reduce the overdraft by £1000
    Build pots up
    Aim to pay for Home Insurance in full
    Aim to pay for Car Taxes in full
    Save for Christmas - Aim £500 by any means (points, vouchers etc)
    Carry on with Surveys/competitions

    Personally I hoping that I can raise more sponsorship for my trek with MIND....I'm currently on £10 of my £700 target

    If nothing else, next year is going to be exciting
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    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 8th Nov 18, 1:58 PM
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    Are you posting your sponsor on Insta?

    Plans look good, it's always good to have a plan. I think you've done amazing this year!

    Xx
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    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 8th Nov 18, 2:09 PM
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    Are you posting your sponsor on Insta?

    Plans look good, it's always good to have a plan. I think you've done amazing this year!

    Xx
    Originally posted by WannabeFree
    I hadn't thought about that, I have an FB page set up for it, could add my link to my Bio or whatever the kids call it (see I know all the technical stuff! )

    I love my plans even if they don't always come through lol

    Thanks hun, you too xx
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    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 8th Nov 18, 3:46 PM
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    I think DD is being bullied she said that everyone in her year hate her and a lot of them laugh at whatever she does.

    I told her that I would talk to her tonight about it she's a sensitive soul and shouldn't have this.
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    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 8th Nov 18, 3:55 PM
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    Your plans for next year sound doable .

    That's not good about DD being bullied . You should definitely talk to her. What year is she in? The school sometimes tries to help, but so much of it is done when the teachers aren't around and then it turns into he said and she said . I hope you can find out what's going on anyway.
    Last edited by HairyHandofDartmoor; 08-11-2018 at 3:56 PM. Reason: Typos
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    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 8th Nov 18, 4:11 PM
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    Your plans for next year sound doable .

    That's not good about DD being bullied . You should definitely talk to her. What year is she in? The school sometimes tries to help, but so much of it is done when the teachers aren't around and then it turns into he said and she said . I hope you can find out what's going on anyway.
    Originally posted by HairyHandofDartmoor
    She's in Year 8, I think it's because she's a bit of a swot and generally gets on with things. DS said that there are a lot of clique girls in that school and if you don't fit in, they take the P out of you. I don't want to make things worse for her being there but I don't want her being unhappy
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    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 8th Nov 18, 4:43 PM
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    She's in Year 8, I think it's because she's a bit of a swot and generally gets on with things. DS said that there are a lot of clique girls in that school and if you don't fit in, they take the P out of you. I don't want to make things worse for her being there but I don't want her being unhappy
    Originally posted by Purplemumof2
    It's tricky to know the best thing to do. Sometimes they're in a class with lots of bullies iyswim. If that was the case maybe she could move classes. It depends if she is already streamed for subjects. I did all my subjects with my tutor group for the first three years and they were AWFUL. When I was streamed I was with nicer girls.

    You need to talk to her first and find out what's going on. And ask whether is she getting bullied on social media too. Good luck.
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
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    • WelshKitty85
    • By WelshKitty85 8th Nov 18, 8:45 PM
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    Poor DD. Bullying is just awful. She's in the same year as my DD and it's such a worry isn't it. I hope you manage to have a good chat and get to the bottom of what's happening.
    Enough is enough...
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    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 8th Nov 18, 8:54 PM
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    Send me an inbox/linky I will sponsor you x

    I hope a good chat with DD helps and you can get it sorted

    x
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    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 9th Nov 18, 9:51 AM
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    Send me an inbox/linky I will sponsor you x

    I hope a good chat with DD helps and you can get it sorted

    x
    Originally posted by WannabeFree
    Thanks lovely, linky is in my Bio on Insta xx
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    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 9th Nov 18, 9:56 AM
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    Morning,

    Free brekkie today courtesy of the Contracts Manager

    Spoke to DD last night and had a real good chat about things. It seems that there are three girls, two of which were originally her 'friend'. They imitate what she does and generally act like 6 year olds, when she is about. One girl in particular, she sits next to in Art class and this girl often says to DD 'my work's better than yours'.

    I have told DD that they are just acting like they're 6 and they should grow up a bit. I told that she needs to ignore them and they will move on and annoy someone else.

    She has two other friends that don't conform to the rest and she gets on with them, I told her to stick with them and not follow the sheep.

    I will keep an eye on it and if needs be, I will speak to her year head and see what can be done.
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    • monz
    • By monz 9th Nov 18, 10:53 AM
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    Such a shame about your daughter!1 Wht age is year 8? hate bullies! When my son got bullied that school had hell to pay they said was not happening until he came home iwth a black eye... he was only five n turned out to be a 10 year old n theytook away boys |play time..... I was livid xx
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    Emergency Fund - £10/£500
    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 9th Nov 18, 10:59 AM
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    Such a shame about your daughter!1 Wht age is year 8? hate bullies! When my son got bullied that school had hell to pay they said was not happening until he came home iwth a black eye... he was only five n turned out to be a 10 year old n theytook away boys |play time..... I was livid xx
    Originally posted by monz
    I remember that incident and the hassle you went through with the school.

    Year 8 is 12 to 13 year olds hun xx
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    • jwil
    • By jwil 9th Nov 18, 1:36 PM
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    Sorry to hear about the job and DD Hope it all settles down for her.
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    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 9th Nov 18, 2:32 PM
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    I hope things improve for DD at school.
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
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    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 9th Nov 18, 3:14 PM
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    Hope things improve for DD

    Will go find your linky tonight

    Hope you've had a good day

    x
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    • redmel1621
    • By redmel1621 9th Nov 18, 10:22 PM
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    Sorry to hear about the job. I know first hand how it feels to be promised a job and then have it snatched away, leaving you swinging in the wind. I hope you find something permanent very quickly x
    Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot,
    Nothing is going to get better. It's not.

    • doingitanyway
    • By doingitanyway 10th Nov 18, 5:04 PM
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    Girls that age can be so mean!
    • Purplemumof2
    • By Purplemumof2 14th Nov 18, 11:49 AM
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    Morning,

    Not a lot to report, hit pay out on OP, so hopefully £25 will be winging it's way over to me by the end of December...this will be thrown at the MBNA card.

    The month is not going how it should be either so that doesn't help matters.

    DH is fretting about the money spent on travel....it is expensive but can't be helped...I have told him that previously.

    I'm on holiday for the next few days after today and need to get the following sorted:
    • HSBC to sort out PAYE on Christmas pot account
    • Christmas stocking stuff for the kids
    • MiL birthday card and present
    • Visit Lloyds to pay in saved money from SPC, transfer to Christmas Acc
    • See DS's Engineering Teacher on Friday (Woo!!! not!)
    • Food shop
    • Gym
    • Write Christmas cards/tags out
    • General house stuff
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    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 14th Nov 18, 6:58 PM
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    I hope the month improves for you and to high petrol costs.
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
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