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    • Cotta
    • By Cotta 6th Aug 18, 11:30 AM
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    What do you Consider a Good Age to Live to?
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    • 6th Aug 18, 11:30 AM
    What do you Consider a Good Age to Live to? 6th Aug 18 at 11:30 AM
    Hi All,

    Obviously this question is subject to the person having good or at least reasonable health but what age would you be happy to reach?
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    • GaleSF63
    • By GaleSF63 10th Aug 18, 10:13 PM
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    It really isn't - 70 is old and we shouldn't be afraid to say so.
    There's nothing wrong with being old and it shouldn't stop us doing whatever we want, dressing the way we want or being the sort of people we've always been but don't let "late middle age" become a euphemism for being old. There's no need for a euphemism, age is an achievement and not something to apologise for.
    Originally posted by Tabbytabitha
    My edition of Chambers dictionary from around the 1960s/70s defined middle age as; "between youth and old age, variously reckoned to suit the reckoner."

    Disappointingly,my later edition had a more prosaic definition. (Not nearly as accurate either, I'd guess.)
    • lincroft1710
    • By lincroft1710 11th Aug 18, 6:12 PM
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    Several people I went to school with didn!!!8217;t reach 30, including one close friend who barely made it into adulthood tragically.
    Originally posted by Red-Squirrel
    I knew about 10 people who didn't reach 30.
    • Red-Squirrel
    • By Red-Squirrel 11th Aug 18, 6:54 PM
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    I knew about 10 people who didn't reach 30.
    Originally posted by lincroft1710
    Its not a competition.
    • Red-Squirrel
    • By Red-Squirrel 11th Aug 18, 6:56 PM
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    It really isn't - 70 is old and we shouldn't be afraid to say so.
    There's nothing wrong with being old and it shouldn't stop us doing whatever we want, dressing the way we want or being the sort of people we've always been but don't let "late middle age" become a euphemism for being old. There's no need for a euphemism, age is an achievement and not something to apologise for.
    Originally posted by Tabbytabitha
    Age isn't an achievement, age is good fortune. If age were an achievement then Donald Trump has achieved more than Martin Luther King!
    • DigForVictory
    • By DigForVictory 11th Aug 18, 6:57 PM
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    I'd like to make it to 80, alert & passably spry - my parents & grandparents managed it, so I reckon I've a decent chance.

    The hitch is my beloved sisters - who may survive also & I am unconvinced about the delights of that. (I'm very fond of them but the idea that the organ recital becomes competitive? or that one will totter & us sisters be expected to uphold her?) If we must, we must, but if my health goes unreliable, I'll take up shoveling the snow clad in just a smile.

    A really good age for me is 90 having buried my parents and my sisters & met (most of) my grandchildren. I'd be hugely peeved not to see my lads marry - if only as I'd like to see who they coax into matrimony or whatever the arrangement is.
    • lincroft1710
    • By lincroft1710 12th Aug 18, 6:32 PM
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    Its not a competition.
    Originally posted by Red-Squirrel
    Never said it was, Just echoing your point that sadly not everyone will reach even middle age.
    • moneyistooshorttomention
    • By moneyistooshorttomention 12th Aug 18, 7:25 PM
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    Some people "beat the average" one way or another on the "how many people one knows that died young".

    I'm in my 60's and, rack my brain as I might, and I'll probably still be able to count on two hands the number of people I've ever known in any shape or form that have died. Literally no-one I'm close to has died - ever - yet.

    I don't get it - as this is so far from what other peoples experience of this seems to be that I'm beginning to think "You want a long life - stick by me" and you'd better want it - as you're going to get it anyway.

    Mygawd - I just hope that doesnt apply to me personally - as a long life is one of my definitions of Nightmare. That and a society that turned anti-feminist and put us all down (yep...I shall be watching final episode of 2nd series of "The Handmaids Tale" again tonight).
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    • seven-day-weekend
    • By seven-day-weekend 12th Aug 18, 7:58 PM
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    I know several people who have died before sixty, three who died in their thirties and forties and two young people who committed suicide (one aged 34, one aged 19).

    On the other hand, I know of several people who have reached their eighties and nineties and also two who lived to be 101 (both of these lived on their own until they were 100).

    Some people draw the short straw.

    I personally would not mind being 101 as long as I could still look after myself.
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    • Kynthia
    • By Kynthia 12th Aug 18, 11:26 PM
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    I want to live to see my children reach settled adulthood as a minimum. I want to be there for them when they start their careers, fall in love, marry and have babies. I'd really like to get to know my grandchildren and have them remember me. Unfortunately I fear the combination of having my children when older than average and having family that live to a lower age than average means I won't get my wish which makes me very sad.

    A couple of my grandparents made it to 80, although I wouldn't say their quality of life was great for years before that. However despite none of them dying of cancer I've had four aunts and uncles die of it in their 50s, along with another couple survive it in their 50s. Now I'm in my 40s that doesn't seem so far off and I'll be making sure I keep paying my life assurance premiums to ensure my children are financially taken care of.
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    • lincroft1710
    • By lincroft1710 13th Aug 18, 6:20 PM
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    I'm in my 60's and, rack my brain as I might, and I'll probably still be able to count on two hands the number of people I've ever known in any shape or form that have died. Literally no-one I'm close to has died - ever - yet.
    Originally posted by moneyistooshorttomention
    So what about all the people you were at school with, worked with, your teachers? Aunts, uncles, cousins, parents, grandparents?

    Already this year 6 people I've known have died including 3 of my teachers, a former neighbour and a former work colleague.
    • Tabbytabitha
    • By Tabbytabitha 13th Aug 18, 8:05 PM
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    Some people "beat the average" one way or another on the "how many people one knows that died young".

    I'm in my 60's and, rack my brain as I might, and I'll probably still be able to count on two hands the number of people I've ever known in any shape or form that have died. Literally no-one I'm close to has died - ever - yet.

    I don't get it - as this is so far from what other peoples experience of this seems to be that I'm beginning to think "You want a long life - stick by me" and you'd better want it - as you're going to get it anyway.

    Mygawd - I just hope that doesnt apply to me personally - as a long life is one of my definitions of Nightmare. That and a society that turned anti-feminist and put us all down (yep...I shall be watching final episode of 2nd series of "The Handmaids Tale" again tonight).
    Originally posted by moneyistooshorttomention
    You still have both parents alive? And all your aunts and uncles?
    • Tabbytabitha
    • By Tabbytabitha 13th Aug 18, 8:08 PM
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    Age isn't an achievement, age is good fortune. If age were an achievement then Donald Trump has achieved more than Martin Luther King!
    Originally posted by Red-Squirrel
    My point was that age doesn't need to be apologised for or given an euphemism - it's something to be pleased about.
    • Red-Squirrel
    • By Red-Squirrel 13th Aug 18, 9:50 PM
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    My point was that age doesn't need to be apologised for or given an euphemism - it's something to be pleased about.
    Originally posted by Tabbytabitha
    Well that I do agree with.

    As life expectancy increases though, its natural that middle age shifts forward as well. There's no denying that 70 today is very different from 70 even half a century ago and in another half century it will probably still be working age!
    • Stoke
    • By Stoke 14th Aug 18, 9:00 AM
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    To be honest, I would rather die younger, if it meant I was healthy and happy up until the day I died.

    Even at 28, I struggle with the thought of getting dementia. I saw my grandmother suffer terribly from dementia and the last time I saw her was a few days before she passed away and she was not the same person that I had known through my life.
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