Oldest friend took £1400, moved house, changed contact details without paying me back, what do I do?
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If you take her through the courts and win, she won't have a career in finance much longer.0
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Money_maker wrote: »Presume you know her family quite well having been friends since you were 5. Go and see her mum, lay it all out for her. That'll cause some embarrassment and you may be able to levy her address out of her. Is she on social media? Mutual friends?
This with a reminder of the point below, "that you don't want to take her to court as it would damage her career in finance, but you don't have much choice as need the money back"0 -
CrazeeCurlee wrote: »Thanks Venison, I get that! But I do want to take it to court so practical advice I would really appreciate!
Practically speaking, what evidence do you have to present to court that this money ever existed, and crucially can you prove that it was given to her on the understanding she should give it back. If you can't then it is just your word against hers and it might be difficult to win a case against her.(Although I could be wrong, I often am.)0 -
You didnt lend her the money, you just gave it to her to stop you spending it. Never heard of that one before. Its gone, you wont get it back. If you go to court you will be spending more money that you dont have and you still wont get any of it back. You dont want to spend money on principles.
Name and shame on social media if you like to make yourself feel better - you probably have the same friends since they are your oldest friend.
Good luck and get on with the rest of your life.0 -
Thanks everyone.
She deactivated her Facebook and Whatsapp once she went off with the money. I do know her mum, in fact I sent both her mum and nan messages on FB and the mum blocked me and nan has just ignored me! I won't turn up at their house as worried they would kick off.
So if I know the mum's address, should I send the letter before action there? Would it be valid?
@Paul, In my initial post I said she had sent a screenshot of her bank account which she argued showed the money had left her account and been sent to me (it didn't show that at all and I didn't receive any money) which is evidence of her acknowledging that she needed to give me back money. In addition to this I have reams of emails and FB conversations, texts, evidence of the transfer initially going into her bank etc. etc. It's clearly very straightforward (which is why I'm so shocked she'd do this)... However I'd prefer not to go into details of the case as I'm more interested in answers to the questions previously posted.
I'm really looking for advice on how much realistically it is going to cost to go to court, where to send court documents and if I can't send them to her mum's or her nan's how I can find her and how much it would cost????0 -
Everyone is saying it's gone, you won't get it back, don't even bother: there must be a reason small claims courts exist? Could I not get an attachment of earnings? Why is the chances of getting the money back so small that I shouldn't even attempt it?0
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CrazeeCurlee wrote: »Everyone is saying it's gone, you won't get it back, don't even bother: there must be a reason small claims courts exist? Could I not get an attachment of earnings? Why is the chances of getting the money back so small that I shouldn't even attempt it?
It depends on how determined you are.
Someone else must know where she's moved to. It's rare for just 2 people to be friends in isolation.0 -
@ Foxy, I don't post on social media much at all, I don't want to put my life out there for everyone to see and our mutual friends are all really my friends now and they all already know. Still don't feel better though! I do still want to go to court, as as far as I can see I still have a chance of getting the money back (everyone is saying no chance but not explaining why?) whereas if I don't try there's no chance at all.0
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@Bertie, none of our mutual friends are that close with her anymore and she only socialises with her family and had 2 other close friends besides me, none of the 3 of us know each other and although I know who one of them is she wouldn't tell me where she lives (doubt if she even knows!). Her family are the only ones that know but they are ignoring me.
I am pretty determined generally, in this case it would be a good idea to know exactly what I need to be determined to do...0 -
You might not be able to get hold of her at the moment, but she will surface at some time, probably in the not too distant future.
When she does, then that will be your opportunity to take the opportunity to take her to court and ruin her credit rating.
I don't blame you for doing this. In the same boat, I would too."There are not enough superlatives in the English language to describe a 'Princess Coronation' locomotive in full cry. We shall never see their like again". O S Nock0
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