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    • FreeBear
    • By FreeBear 28th May 18, 12:47 AM
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    Lodger wanting to cook
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    • 28th May 18, 12:47 AM
    Lodger wanting to cook 28th May 18 at 12:47 AM
    In need of a bit of extra money, I decided to get myself a lodger - Ended up getting a very quiet pair.. She is wanting to cook meals for both her partner and me, and has wanted to know when I get home from work so that food is ready.

    Never factored this in to the rent, nor did I expect it which leaves me in a bit of a dilemma. Should I keep the cupboards well stocked with food and tell her to help herself, or should I adjust the rent.
    Her courage will change the world.

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    • need an answer
    • By need an answer 10th Jul 18, 1:21 PM
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    need an answer

    As for my two lodgers, they are very real. I do not "enjoy" having to intervene in their arguments, but do so in an attempt to prevent things turning nasty. If that means dialing 101 and asking for assistance, then that is what I'll do.

    .
    Originally posted by FreeBear
    sorry but this quote alone makes it sound as if they have taken over more of your life,and your ability to have "quiet enjoyment" and personal space in your home.

    That's a little bit more than 2 toothbrushes and a little bit of clutter if you ask me!
    "hard pushed to know they are around" sounds pure domestic bliss really until the next time.


    Colour charts for their room,thinking of painting it whatever colour they want...deluded.

    They've got you wrapped round their finger and if you think that's a business relationship you have,think again.
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    • DCFC79
    • By DCFC79 10th Jul 18, 1:25 PM
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    You getting a new lodger OP ?
    Last edited by DCFC79; 10-07-2018 at 2:06 PM.
    • need an answer
    • By need an answer 10th Jul 18, 1:51 PM
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    Why aren't you getting a new lodger OP ?
    Originally posted by DCFC79
    Because the OP likes playing Mary Poppins to these two.
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    • westernpromise
    • By westernpromise 10th Jul 18, 5:32 PM
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    Just because it's usually a man, it doesn't mean it can't be a woman who is the abuse.

    And abuse by women of their male partners is under-reported because of the stigma. No one is minimising it. (And it can happen in same-gender relationships)
    Originally posted by Armorica
    I rather think that Red Squirrel is one of those people who thinks that whether something is racist or not depends on the race of the racist. There are quite a few of these virtue signallers about. I think they expect applause for airing their prejudices.
    Buying a house, if you believe the market has a way to fall, or if you are paying sill asking prices ( like some sheeple ) or if you are buying in London, is now a massive financial gamble!!!!! - June 8, 2012 by TheCountOfNowhere
    • getmore4less
    • By getmore4less 10th Jul 18, 5:53 PM
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    I am sensing such a desperation for company the knowledge that this pair will kick of and provide that interaction is what is letting the OP keep them there.
    • Smodlet
    • By Smodlet 10th Jul 18, 8:20 PM
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    Providing colour charts??? How many LLs allow their long term tenants to paint their rentals? Encouraging lodgers to do so smacks of real desperation on the LL's part to me.

    I think you are probably lapping up the drama, FB. I'll leave you to it.
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    • FreeBear
    • By FreeBear 11th Jul 18, 12:02 AM
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    Providing colour charts??? How many LLs allow their long term tenants to paint their rentals?
    Originally posted by Smodlet
    If they are willing to paint & decorate the room, it saves me the time and cost of doing so. It also gives them a sense of belonging and viewing the place as home rather than just somewhere to crash. In the process, developing respect for the fabric of the building.... It seemed like a good idea at the time.

    No arguments, bloodshed, or meals waiting this week. Judging by the washing up on the draining board, I'm guessing they have eaten this evening. Not even sure that they are in at the moment.
    Her courage will change the world.

    Treasure the moments that you have. Savour them for as long as you can for they will never come back again.
    • Red-Squirrel
    • By Red-Squirrel 11th Jul 18, 7:25 AM
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    I rather think that Red Squirrel is one of those people who thinks that whether something is racist or not depends on the race of the racist. There are quite a few of these virtue signallers about. I think they expect applause for airing their prejudices.
    Originally posted by westernpromise
    Let me know what I've posted that you feel is inaccurate regarding domestic violence and I will happily link to the research and statistics to inform you of the reality.
    • Twopints
    • By Twopints 11th Jul 18, 8:01 AM
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    I rather think that Red Squirrel is one of those people who thinks that whether something is racist or not depends on the race of the racist. There are quite a few of these virtue signallers about. I think they expect applause for airing their prejudices.
    Originally posted by westernpromise
    I rather think that westernpromise is from the Tyson Fury school of thought on a woman's place.
    Not even wrong
    • FreeBear
    • By FreeBear 13th Jul 18, 11:46 PM
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    I rather think that <insert name here> is one of those people who thinks that whether something is racist or not depends on the race of the racist. There are quite a few of these virtue signallers about. I think they expect applause for airing their prejudices.
    Originally posted by westernpromise
    I agree that some of the more vociferous commentators appear to be applying their own experiences and/or prejudices. I'll not hold it against them - They are basing their opinions on a bare minimum of facts and jumping to worst case conclusions.

    For example...
    That's a little bit more than 2 toothbrushes and a little bit of clutter if you ask me!

    Colour charts for their room,thinking of painting it whatever colour they want...deluded.

    They've got you wrapped round their finger and if you think that's a business relationship you have,think again.
    Originally posted by need an answer
    They are paying quite a bit to live here. It is reasonable to ask them what colours they'd like their room to be painted in. It is a home, not some holiday camp or prison. The rest of the house, I decide on the decor.

    All quiet, and both the lodgers have been smiles & gentle words apart from Wednesday evening - Something about a bunch of Croatian kids kicking a ball round a field I think....
    Her courage will change the world.

    Treasure the moments that you have. Savour them for as long as you can for they will never come back again.
    • rodgerlod75
    • By rodgerlod75 16th Jul 18, 7:53 PM
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    How much are the lodgers is paying for the month and are you in London?
    • FreeBear
    • By FreeBear 16th Jul 18, 10:49 PM
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    How much are the lodgers is paying for the month and are you in London?
    Originally posted by rodgerlod75
    They are paying the LHA rate plus a bit for this area, and I'm no where near London.

    If/when they move out, I have the choice of a prison officer or a trainee teacher lined up. No more couples.
    Her courage will change the world.

    Treasure the moments that you have. Savour them for as long as you can for they will never come back again.
    • PasturesNew
    • By PasturesNew 16th Jul 18, 10:53 PM
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    If/when they move out, I have the choice of a prison officer or a trainee teacher lined up. .
    Originally posted by FreeBear
    They could be trouble ....

    1/ Deals with nutters all day, so spends the day on "high alert", comes home aggressive by nature.

    2/ Works part-time, has long holidays, then dosses around at home whining it's so stressful
    • FreeBear
    • By FreeBear 17th Jul 18, 12:03 AM
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    Hmmmm... craiglist - No thanks. Would only have space for one person, not two.

    House rules require appropriate dress at all times. For men, shirt, tie, and full length trousers.
    Her courage will change the world.

    Treasure the moments that you have. Savour them for as long as you can for they will never come back again.
    • takman
    • By takman 17th Jul 18, 12:09 AM
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    Hmmmm... craiglist - No thanks. Would only have space for one person, not two.

    House rules require appropriate dress at all times. For men, shirt, tie, and full length trousers.
    Originally posted by FreeBear
    Is that one extra person? Are you planning to put a third person in the room with your two current lodgers to cause some more drama and more excitement for yourself
    • FreeBear
    • By FreeBear 17th Jul 18, 12:13 AM
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    FreeBear
    If/when they move out, I have the choice of a prison officer or a trainee teacher lined up. No more couples.
    Originally posted by FreeBear
    They could be trouble ....

    1/ Deals with nutters all day, so spends the day on "high alert", comes home aggressive by nature.

    2/ Works part-time, has long holidays, then dosses around at home whining it's so stressful
    Originally posted by PasturesNew
    Neighbour works in the local prison - He is a gentle kinda guy, and rarely has a cross word to say even after a hard day at the "office". It is a colleague of his looking for somewhere, and comes with a personal recommendation.

    Two friends of mine are (were) teachers, and they never has time during the school breaks to doss around. Way too busy planning work for the next term. Government policy has increased the workload of teachers, and many rarely get time off, even in the summer months.

    Is that one extra person? Are you planning to put a third person in the room with your two current lodgers to cause some more drama and more excitement for yourself
    Originally posted by takman
    No.!

    Planning ahead for the day the current pair move out. Have no intention of packing lodgers in like sardines like some of the London squats.
    Last edited by FreeBear; Today at 12:17 AM.
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    Treasure the moments that you have. Savour them for as long as you can for they will never come back again.
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