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    • MSE Sarah
    • By MSE Sarah 15th May 18, 7:38 PM
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    Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask my boss to pay up for carpooling?
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    • 15th May 18, 7:38 PM
    Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask my boss to pay up for carpooling? 15th May 18 at 7:38 PM
    This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

    My boss (who doesn't drive) often asks me for a lift to work. It only adds a few miles to my journey but the cost over a year is a fair bit. He obviously earns a lot more than me and has never offered to contribute to fuel costs. Should I risk asking him?

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    • kasam1986
    • By kasam1986 20th May 18, 12:11 PM
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    100% you should ask for a contribution.
    The fact its costing you overheads and you have to take your boss/colleague in your car after a full day in the office for the journey home (unless you don't mind him being there) he should be very gratefull and contribute its just wrong that he hasn't.
    I personally would like after work to travel home listening to my music being my self.. unwinding or making a call to family (hands-free of course) not worrying what my boss would think or act in a certain way in front of him for the duration of the journey...hope you solve this soon

    • pinksapphire83
    • By pinksapphire83 21st May 18, 10:42 AM
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    pinksapphire83 the person who sent this in. Thanks to those taking the time to write a considered response.
    To those who have more questions.....
    I actually wrote in on behalf of my boyfriend. He doesn't really use the internet much and I'm the msefan.
    He is 40 and gets minimum wage. His boss is a similar age and gets £12 per hour.
    It's 4 miles extra a day and happens around 4 times a week.
    His boss isn't the business owner so has no influence over boyfriend's wages or promotions. But can control his shifts and hours.
    He has never offered to pay anything ever.
    It's been almost a year.
    • pinksapphire83
    • By pinksapphire83 21st May 18, 10:44 AM
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    Exactly!! I wondered if these MMDís were mostly from people to afraid to post or to afraid to have their posting history snooped through. There is just not enough information.

    They lost me at the use of the word ĎObviouslyí to be fair, how is it obvious their boss earns more then they do - hell where I am now the Team Leader isnít on much more I think there is just under 2k difference, same when I worked in a hotel when my conference mgr made it clear she did the job above for me 14k (pre 2012) because her husband ultimately kept her and she Ďgot to doí the job much for the love.

    Iím sorry if this is genuine, Iím imagining two early twenty-somethings in a car, incapable of speaking to one another. Never in 20 years of work has a manager asked for a free of charge lift.
    Originally posted by keepcalmandstayoutofdebt
    I have written a response to these questions
    • tastyfish
    • By tastyfish 2nd Jul 18, 11:24 PM
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    Have you not realised yet that nobody enjoys them then?
    Originally posted by ScorpiondeRooftrouser
    Far more interesting than people moaning/whinging about the moral dilemma. Have you not realised that those sorts of comments are extremely tedious? If you don't like it, just don't post. Nobody's interested in an opinion of the moral dilemma theme.

    OP: Ask him to give you a lift on a few occasions.
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