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    • Butti
    • By Butti 3rd May 18, 9:25 PM
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    Butti
    The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt
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    • 3rd May 18, 9:25 PM
    The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt 3rd May 18 at 9:25 PM
    Ooooh so close....so very close.

    So I've decided it is time to move on to the next chapter.

    The whimsical tale of the waterbed of debt is a metaphor for my debts. In a few days time (when I'm back from Milan - how appropriate!) I shall start detailing how my debts have gone down a little and my mortgage is doing quite nicely but how pushing down too enthusiastically can result in other bits popping up.

    This is the story of how difficult I find it to cut down on all areas and not to suffer rebound in other areas. Keep having acid reflux in yoga too!

    It will also have a bit of psychobabble.

    .....and a bit of whimsy.

    BUT FIRST ironing in preparation for Milan. A trip which has free travel and free accommodation . I just need to remember not to strangle my friend after four days if she is catastrophising too much or generating too many black and white arguments.

    And so ....to the ironing
    Last edited by Butti; 03-05-2018 at 9:40 PM.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/18 )£5826
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    33.2% paid off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
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    • Butti
    • By Butti 5th Sep 18, 11:15 PM
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    Butti
    So I've been in the pub tonight
    Well I did have Monday and Tuesday alcohol free

    Literally as soon as I walked in the pub the landlord asked me if I had a date ie. for the op.
    It appears he is going drive me in.
    I'm going to have to go off and have a little cry now because that is so nice and I can't cope! My head finds the idea of a man being this nice to me SO BIZARRE. My early life is still so large in my head.

    Some of you will not get this concept (and that is very good)
    I think the pub landlord has been 'saved' by he wife's family who all seem to be lovely. I think his family were rubbish and hence we are kind of kindred spirits.
    Last edited by Butti; 05-09-2018 at 11:24 PM.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/18 )£5826
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    33.2% paid off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • Butti
    • By Butti 5th Sep 18, 11:43 PM
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    Butti
    I'm in the moment so i shall elaborate on this, and try not to drip on the keyboard.

    I want people to try and understand a girl who was primarily raised in the 1970's. Imagine being in the 1970's and that being all you know. This is my early life....as a white middle class girl.......it may not be others.

    So you are a girl in a family of five, you are the youngest, you have two older brothers and it is the 1970's. Your father is the most important person in the family. He earns the living, your mother earns the holiday money. Every evening, he gets the most food because he is the wage earner. Then everyone else gets food. If you are short of food, it is your mother who goes without. This happens without expression or even acknowledgement.

    In my family (this is weird) there appears to have been an informal rule that whoever finishes eating first can have seconds. Hence I have brothers whose eating habits are just a blur.

    I conversely, because I'm a girl, because I was required to be a certain size, a certain shape and to be quiet (because my father was the only person who was allowed to express anger in our house) just developed borderline anorexia followed (when I failed at that!) with other eating disorders.

    I'm highly conscious at meal times of how disfunctional my past has been. if I am at a meal with my brothers they will finish at high speed. When i am out with my friends I am just highly uncomfortable, usually because meal times were stressful for me and they like to complain and up the anti and therefore up my stress levels. Meal times for me were a performance and about keeping yourself in check. I remember one Sunday dinner having a too hot roast potato in my mouth, being unable to spit it out and being able to taste blood as it welded itself to the top of my mouth.

    On top of this family picture you need to impose the 70's. A media picture where women were adornments, assistants and as a 'nice middle class girl' you were being lined up for teaching, nursing or a secretarial post. Everything on TV had the man presenting and the woman looking nice. The communication was that we needed to do well at school. The metacommunication was that my brothers would go to university and I needed to meet a man that had gone to university.
    Last edited by Butti; 05-09-2018 at 11:57 PM.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/18 )£5826
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    33.2% paid off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 6th Sep 18, 9:17 AM
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    Big huggles Butti my friend.
    Just remember that you are awesome & one of the nicest peeple I know xxx
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • Butti
    • By Butti 6th Sep 18, 1:03 PM
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    Bit of a rant last night!
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/18 )£5826
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    33.2% paid off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • Circle1987
    • By Circle1987 12th Sep 18, 7:24 PM
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    Haven't checked in with you for a while. Good luck tomorrow with your Op. Here, I speak on behalf of a few of us frequent-Butti-responders, when I say.. Have some virtual grapes and a virtual glass of wine (we all chipped in didn't we guys!?) and it's expensive win. Cost us £250 - it's pure vintage so enjoy!
    Wishing you a speed recovery and a few overpaid repayments.
    "An investment in knowledge pays the best interest." -- Benjamin Franklin
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 12th Sep 18, 8:00 PM
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    Hope all goes well for you tomorrow Butti my friend.
    Will be thinking of you & chanting too.
    Take care xx
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • starnac
    • By starnac 13th Sep 18, 1:13 PM
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    Hope all goes well
    Savings £2235.59
    Overpayments #182 made £467.13/£1208.15
    Make £2018 in 2018 #70 £688.42/£2018
    • Butti
    • By Butti 13th Sep 18, 7:54 PM
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    Op was about midday. Was feeling a bit sick but one of my fellow captives has given me a can of coke. Managed to eat some salmon with hollandaise sauce and potatoes and veg. The food is loads better than I remember.
    Optimistic about getting out tomorrow.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/18 )£5826
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    33.2% paid off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 13th Sep 18, 8:16 PM
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    Fellow captives
    Hope all went well & you get out tomorrow.
    Take care xx
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • Butti
    • By Butti 14th Sep 18, 3:00 PM
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    Not getting out today. Probably breaking out tomorrow once my drain stops draining!
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/18 )£5826
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    33.2% paid off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • squirrelgirl
    • By squirrelgirl 14th Sep 18, 3:36 PM
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    That's disappointing for you but think of the money you are saving on food, electric etc! Seriously though, hope you recover quickly and manage to escape!
    15 Month Challenge: House - £13585.85/£25300; Mortgage - £1160/£17000 ;
    MFW No. 167
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 14th Sep 18, 8:28 PM
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    Hope you get out tomorrow.
    Take care Butti xx
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • Butti
    • By Butti 15th Sep 18, 5:05 PM
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    Butti
    I'm out. Just need to remember to rest.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/18 )£5826
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    33.2% paid off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • starnac
    • By starnac 17th Sep 18, 9:16 AM
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    I'm out. Just need to remember to rest.
    Originally posted by Butti

    Yay!! Don't forget to rest!!!!!!
    Savings £2235.59
    Overpayments #182 made £467.13/£1208.15
    Make £2018 in 2018 #70 £688.42/£2018
    • Butti
    • By Butti 21st Sep 18, 2:58 PM
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    I've had my stitches checked today. Think they are disolvable stitches. Seems fairly well healed, just a small dressing on it now.

    Not spending much money and off for another week. I'm watching Who do you think you are? every afternoon and binge watching Killing Eve.

    Going to work out my budget for the month today.

    The fence panel is down at the back of my garden so once the wind is down a bit I need to replace it. I'm waiting for a neighbour to come round and tell me it is down as it blocking the rear access to other gardens. I need to order a replacement and hope the neighbours take the hint and offer to slot it in for me.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/18 )£5826
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    33.2% paid off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 21st Sep 18, 3:19 PM
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    Relax & enjoy your time off.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • Butti
    • By Butti 21st Sep 18, 8:46 PM
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    Went out with the fear of flying friend the other day. It was her birthday and I got her a pressie she needs rather than a pressie she wants! And i was highly conscious that.....

    "It is not my job to make her happy.....it's her job to make her happy"

    (Another saying from the meditation tape)


    There's a great risk with people pleasers (me!) that you want to fix things for people and help them and sort their problems. So I have given her this book - Pete Walker - 'Complex PTSD from surviving to thriving'.


    More sort of ...threw it in her car as she was leaving and suggested she didn't open it until she got home
    Coward me?

    Gave her a card which was a cartoon of someone giving a pressie back to someone who gave it to them previously................because they didn't like it.
    Hope she doesn't take that as a hint!
    (although there are at least a couple of other friends I could give it to!!!)
    Last edited by Butti; 21-09-2018 at 8:48 PM.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (10/18 )£5826
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    33.2% paid off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S MOB
    • Circle1987
    • By Circle1987 29th Sep 18, 2:01 AM
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    Haven't heard from you in a while mate. Did you fall down a hall?

    Gis an update on the financials.
    "An investment in knowledge pays the best interest." -- Benjamin Franklin
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 29th Sep 18, 7:26 PM
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    Hoping you are on the mend & enjoying the beer
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • Circle1987
    • By Circle1987 2nd Oct 18, 12:30 AM
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    Circle1987
    I know you're resting but this is just taking the jizz! Only messing. Hope you're "resting" well. Look forward to your next post. Make it interesting as possible. You've been out for a while so that must mean plenty to write about! Will check back in in a few days!
    "An investment in knowledge pays the best interest." -- Benjamin Franklin
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