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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 3rd May 18, 9:50 AM
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    Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 3 - A New Beginning
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    • 3rd May 18, 9:50 AM
    Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 3 - A New Beginning 3rd May 18 at 9:50 AM
    Good morning everyone,

    I've had a bit of a break from the forums over the past couple of months, but today seems like a good time to come back on here and to start a new diary. An awful lot has changed in my life over the past couple of weeks and it's going to take some time and effort to adjust, and more than ever I need the support and accountability of being on here to keep me on the straight and narrow as far as my finances are concerned.
    I hope that some of my usual bunch have followed me to this diary, and welcome to anyone new that might be reading. I need all of the help and support that I can get...
    November in NY #20 NSD = 8 1 debt vs 100 days 328.51/1685
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 8th Nov 18, 6:30 PM
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    Thanks MeandO - today was better than yesterday for sure, but it really just is a case of surviving at the moment. My motivation is lacking and I feel tired - tends to happen more as the mornings and evenings get darker. Still a bit of a way to go though.
    Nothing really to report. Sleep. Work. Home. Still no money, still not enough hours in the day. I was very grateful to come home to leftovers so I could have a decent meal with a minimal amount of effort.
    I'll be back tomorrow or Saturday - hopefully with something to report.
    November in NY #20 NSD = 8 1 debt vs 100 days 328.51/1685
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    • Buffythedebtslayer
    • By Buffythedebtslayer 9th Nov 18, 9:57 PM
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    CCL, I definitely could have written all the stuff about school. I do not know what is going on but this week. ****** girls, messed up boys. Utter mare. Similarly workmates are having the same issues.

    Am too tired to say anything else! Have a good weekend, hope there is news from the ********

    XXX
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    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 10th Nov 18, 7:32 AM
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    Another week managed CCL and a third of the month over.

    Other people's kids eh?
    I was looking after someone else's for a whole 90 minutes this week.
    If he was mine he might well have been drownded by now, or at least a lot better behaved.

    Always nice when it is not your kid who is the worst behaved, I have a renewed love of my kids, who really do my head in, but are not that bad in the whole scale of things.

    Definitely noticed the kids being a bit niggly and getting very excited over the whole 'C -word' already.

    Hope you catch up on your sleep, and any news you get is good.
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 10th Nov 18, 9:47 PM
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    Hello
    Another week over and survived, although I am starting to wonder how. There is no news at all from the ex. I've spent a lot of time talking it over with bestie this afternoon and come to accept that he's not going to do anything unless I force him to. The hopes I'd had for an amicable divorce are fading fast and I'm thinking I just need to toughen up a bit now - play him at his own game a bit... DS said to me today that he doesn't want to go to football next week with his dad, so when that hits the fan later in the week it may (or may not) start things moving again.
    Anyway. Work is over for a while, and I've even done all of the extra work I had to bring home this weekend - took me just over 2 hours earlier this evening and I can enjoy a day off tomorrow without worrying about getting work done for Monday. It was another busy day at work yesterday, and I'm pleased to have survived it all. Left work straight for ds swimming lesson, then went grocery shopping at Mr S. Just the one shop as we were both shattered and keen to get home. My health thanks me, but my bank account doesn't - it was 75 and that was pretty much just the basics. Life is just expensive these days, and that sets me stressing out even more about the divorce and financial settlement. I hate that my ex is still managing to maintain control.
    Got up early this morning to take a couple of loads of washing to bestie's house on my way to tutoring (hopefully Tuesday for washing machine repair), then went tutoring and back to hers for a couple of hours for a very long overdue catch up. She's had a bit of a stressy week as well so it was nice just to relax a bit.
    Tomorrow is looking a bit busy too - I have to clear a couple of cupboards so that the washing machine can be properly accessed, and I am also going to see my mam for a couple of hours in the afternoon. I have a very long list of little and annoying jobs that I will feel much better once I have ticked them all off
    November in NY #20 NSD = 8 1 debt vs 100 days 328.51/1685
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 10th Nov 18, 10:00 PM
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    Keep plodding
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
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    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
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    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 11th Nov 18, 9:12 AM
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    Glad you had a better day.
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 11th Nov 18, 6:30 PM
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    So. That list I said I had with all the little jobs now has everything crossed off it, with time to spare. That has left me feeling as though there is something that I've forgotten to do. It's so rare that I have time with nothing looming in the background.
    Went to visit my mam this afternoon, which was lovely. Great company and good food. Even remembered to take her a key to my house. She's going to sit in on Tuesday for me when the washing machine repair people come - fingers are firmly crossed that it will be working by the time I get home Tuesday night. She's also offered to help out with the kids in January if I get the ok to go to London for exam marking (I've been offered 2 contracts but I need to get the ok for time off from the Head). I do love my exam marking, but 4 days off in January may be too much to ask for. I've emailed him to ask so we'll see what comes back.
    As I say, I've done all the little jobs. Cat food sorted out, washing up, recycling, clean washing away, wool into the loft, kids money for next week, meal planning. All I still need to do is to make sure the three of us are clean and showered ready for the start of the working week, and I'll need an early night. I've had a sinus headache niggling all day which is starting to get the better of me, plus I think I'm a bit dehydrated so I will make sure I have a couple of cups of tea as well.
    Now, the question is can I relax enough for Doctor Who and the dancing?
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 11th Nov 18, 8:06 PM
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    Enjoy Dr Who
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 12th Nov 18, 11:03 AM
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    Been meaning to ask for ages

    What do you crochet?

    I keep getting p1nterest things on crochet snowflakes and decorations and I have this image of you with your feet up on a crocheted cushion, under a crocheted blanket, wearing crocheted wrist warmers and crocheted legwarmers under a crocheted snowflake wall hanging, crocheting a ____________ .
    So what is the current project? Just so the picture in my mind is complete
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 12th Nov 18, 9:44 PM
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    At the moment f0xh0les I have a couple of projects on the go. Mainly I like to crochet blankets, and I'm not exaggerating when I say I have 5 in the living room, one on each bed and a couple of cat blankets as well. However, at the minute I only have 1 blanket on the go - it's a Ubuntu crochet along project which I think I'll keep for myself when it's finished. I am also crocheting a couple of small toys/decorations as gifts for people - Star Wars characters at the moment (I can do a Yoda, R2D2 and Leia and am working on a BB8 - not that I have any clue what any of them are as I've never seen the film). At the weekend I got a crochet advent calendar, which will be one decoration a day running up to Christmas. I also have a loft absolutely choc a block full of wool, so thank goodness it's a hobby I really enjoy. I can knit as well but I haven't done any for ages because it seems to take longer than crochet.
    Mind you, I haven't had time to do any crochet tonight. It's been one of those non-stop days and I'm barely managing to keep up with myself. Work was manic for the first 5 hours I was there and busy for the rest. I brought tests home with me to mark, which took another 3 hours, so approximately a 13 hour work day today.
    On top of that, my cleaner didn't manage to get here today and I'm stressed about the state of the house now as well. So I did the bare minimum of tidying in preparation for my mam and washing machine repair happening tomorrow. I really hope that it's fixed with the minimum of fuss because I really need to do a very large amount of washing now...
    Also had to empty the tins cupboard in preparation for access to the plug for the washing machine so I figured I would inventory the tins I have and prepare to use them up. The kids have a scarily large number of tins of ravioli to work their way through, and I have a scarily large number of tins of peaches. I have no idea why, or what I can do with them - I got them in to have with yoghurt for breakfast but there's only so much fruit and yoghurt anyone can eat. Any suggestions gratefully received.
    Also finally got the nerve up to text ex. DS has decided that he doesn't want to see him this weekend (I think after his negative experience there last time), and asked me to tell his dad. So I had to be the adult and let him know. I also decided, as I was contacting him, to tell him that if there was no progress on the finances by the end of the month then I would instruct my solicitor to start court proceedings. I haven't said this to him, but I'm really angry that he's still mucking me about and managing to control things by doing nothing, and any hope I had of us remaining civil/amicable is rapidly disappearing. I know he's ill again, but that is not my concern. Looking after my kids and paying my bills is my concern so I need to keep that moving as best as I can. It's so stressful, but hopefully in the next few months it will finally be over for good.
    Anyway, for such a busy day at work there has been lots of other stuff going on as well. I'm shattered so going to get myself off to bed now.
    November in NY #20 NSD = 8 1 debt vs 100 days 328.51/1685
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 12th Nov 18, 9:50 PM
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    Really hoping that things start to move with your ex really soon.
    Hope the washing machine is an easy fix.
    Sleep well.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • foxgloves
    • By foxgloves 12th Nov 18, 10:33 PM
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    Such a nuisance your legal stuff is being held up, CCL. Hope your text does the trick.

    Re your tinned peaches mountain.....one of my friends used to make peach crumble using tinned peaches. It was surprisingly.nice, esp with custard! I know you don't much like cooking, so for easy crumble, you only need to weigh the butter 6oz. Rub it into 9 heaped tablespoons of self-raising flour & stir in 6 rounded tablespoons of sugar (pref demerara)..Use it to top abput 2lbs of fruit. It needs about 35 mins at Gas 5 & will serve 6 people (or two if one of them.is my husband......)
    Or you could drain off the juice & make a peach & ginger upside down cake?
    Or I suppose you could add them to smoothies?
    Still thinking........
    Money can't jump out of your purse on its own so ask 'Can I borrow one, make one, grow one, bake one, re-purpose or recycle, acquire it for free?' Yes? Then put that purse away & keep your money because little savings grow!
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    • SpekySquarehead
    • By SpekySquarehead 13th Nov 18, 8:36 AM
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    I was also going to suggest a peach crumble or peach cobler. Or peaches and ice cream?

    My makes this chicken and peaches dish too. But I'm one of those who don't tend to like the sweet and savoury mix, but everyone else seems to love it!

    Sorry to hear about ex but you're defo doing the right thing, don't forget that.
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    • natsplatnat
    • By natsplatnat 13th Nov 18, 9:00 AM
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    Ooooh peaches! I remember my mum making peach and marzipan puffs. Can't remember the details exactly but it involved puff pastry squares about 6"x6", the peaches and a strip of marzipan are laid on the diagonal from one corner to the other and then the 2 free corners are folded in to meet in the middle. Once cooked in the oven you can eat them hot or cold!
    Look a bit like this when done...

    Or there is peaches in jelly, a peachy trifle, peach strudel, peach tart, peaches with oats/nuts and honey on yogurt.


    Mmmm, I'm hungry now!
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    • f0xh0les
    • By f0xh0les 13th Nov 18, 12:21 PM
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    I love a good cupboard inventory.


    Peaches and puff pastry work really well, marzipan is optional, but dead easy to find in the shops at the minute, and will be vastly reduced in the fortnight before xmas as eveyone who makes their own Xmas cake will be done with it by then and the s/m will be panicking about what the f*** they are going to do with the masses of marzipan left over on the shelves.
    Also, jus-rol vol-au-vent cases are in her0n at the minute. 1 for about a million.

    Peaches are also really good with chocolate sauce and ice cream. For when you are looking at the left over Christmas mountain of gifted chocolate you dont actually fancy eating. Melt and drizzle.

    Best thing about them is that they sit quietly in the cupboard and are there when you fancy them.

    Re: Ravioli tins - decant into tupperware and they make a quick 'ping' lunch at work - if you have access to a microwave at work.

    I love the Star Wars crochet stuff!

    Do you have crocheted baubles?
    I normally wouldn't ask a lady, but then I am not a gentleman
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    • Sayschezza
    • By Sayschezza 13th Nov 18, 12:48 PM
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    Open sandwich on nice bread, lettuce, cottage cheese and topped with peaches.
    • apple muncher
    • By apple muncher 13th Nov 18, 2:06 PM
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    I just read 'crocheted baubles' as 'crocheted babies' and had to slow down and read more carefully... Just as well I'm not a proof-reader...
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    • foxgloves
    • By foxgloves 13th Nov 18, 7:40 PM
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    Or fruity flapjacks. Press half the flapjack mixture into the tin, add a layer of very well-drained peaches, cover with remaining flapjack mixture & proceed as normal.

    Or salsa to serve with grilled meat or fish, etc. Drain a few peaches, chop with some red onion, chilli, herbs &/or spices of your choice.

    Or fancypants cheese on toast - toast, cover with slice of ham. Then 2 or 3 drained peach slices, then some sliced cheese - flash under grill till cheese melts. I could eat that.now......
    Money can't jump out of your purse on its own so ask 'Can I borrow one, make one, grow one, bake one, re-purpose or recycle, acquire it for free?' Yes? Then put that purse away & keep your money because little savings grow!
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 13th Nov 18, 7:54 PM
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    Fancypants cheese on toast sounds just lush
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • foxgloves
    • By foxgloves 13th Nov 18, 8:12 PM
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    I learned it when I was 15 years old, Beanielou, while on school German exchange fortnight. We made this in our German cookery lesson, but with a pineapple ring. I've made it ever since & have also used apple rings & pear slices (with goats cheese) so I can't see why peaches wouldn't work too x
    Money can't jump out of your purse on its own so ask 'Can I borrow one, make one, grow one, bake one, re-purpose or recycle, acquire it for free?' Yes? Then put that purse away & keep your money because little savings grow!
    Loan pay-down fund instalment 2 = 470-01
    Payment received from surveys: 2015 = 320 2016 = 210 2017 = 304 2018 = 358
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