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    • Okydoky25
    • By Okydoky25 12th Apr 18, 8:49 AM
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    What woudl you do?
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    • 12th Apr 18, 8:49 AM
    What woudl you do? 12th Apr 18 at 8:49 AM
    Asking for a friend....

    They started at a new job at the end of last year at a small family run company. They are the only office employee bar family members who are the directors.
    All was going well and probation passed. The 2 senior members have been traveling leaving her in the office with the son.
    He has on occasion got uncomfortably close to her and she has warned him off. Since then he has made it difficult for her to complete her work due to him now avoiding her.

    She has many years working in a male environment and is used to banter and has said if he had just laughed it off she wouldn't think much of it but it is now causing her issues.

    On the parents return and she has had a verbal warning about her work from them and rightly wants to just quit but needs to work so is looking for something else.

    I believe she should report him and quit but it is her word against his.
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    • gettingtheresometime
    • By gettingtheresometime 12th Apr 18, 9:23 AM
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    • 12th Apr 18, 9:23 AM
    Get a new job.

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    • ReadingTim
    • By ReadingTim 12th Apr 18, 10:02 AM
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    Report him to who? If it's a small family run company, they're unlikely to have an HR department, and even if they did, if he's the family of the owners, they're hardly going to fire him are they?

    If she believes it's sexual harassment, she could try the police, but I don't fancy her chances that much. Her job, plus any chance of a reference, would probably be in doubt too.

    Suggest she puts all her energies into finding a new job ASAP, as sadly, I can't see many circumstances where this ends well for her.
    • Katapolt
    • By Katapolt 12th Apr 18, 2:43 PM
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    • 12th Apr 18, 2:43 PM
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    if shes concerned for her safety, just quit. If its just a bit awkward, search high and low for anything else, and if she feels she needs any evidence (if it works) she can leave her phone recording sound while on her desk or close by.
    • t0rt0ise
    • By t0rt0ise 13th Apr 18, 6:58 AM
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    • 13th Apr 18, 6:58 AM
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    • 13th Apr 18, 6:58 AM
    I would find another job, wait until the reference has been given and then tell them why I'm leaving. They will probably be shocked and have words with the son and so prevent it from happening again.
    • Ja7188
    • By Ja7188 13th Apr 18, 6:49 PM
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    • 13th Apr 18, 6:49 PM
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    • 13th Apr 18, 6:49 PM
    I doubt that anyone will have words with anyone else, especially as there is zero evidence - the family will likely stick together. Probably better just to get out, not attempting to complain or taking it further, and leaving the whole experience behind.
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