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    • domdondom
    • By domdondom 10th Apr 18, 9:58 PM
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    Do people envy people of similar age who look younger?
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    • 10th Apr 18, 9:58 PM
    Do people envy people of similar age who look younger? 10th Apr 18 at 9:58 PM
    Why is it people react with astonishment when someone looks younger than their age?

    I am 37 but everyone thinks I look in my twenties. It does actually annoy me when they do it. Yesterday was my birthday, and at work my team leader bought a happy 37th cake.

    I have no shame in telling my age, although I feel awkward when someone shows disbelief. Why would I lie to make myself older? It doesn't make sense.

    It does appear to me, it is socially unacceptable to look old these days. Are we obsessed with looking younger?
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    • z1a
    • By z1a 10th Apr 18, 10:17 PM
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    • 10th Apr 18, 10:17 PM
    No .
    • pinkshoes
    • By pinkshoes 10th Apr 18, 10:22 PM
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    • 10th Apr 18, 10:22 PM
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    • 10th Apr 18, 10:22 PM
    Take it as a compliment and stop overthinking things.

    Who cares???
    Should've = Should HAVE (not 'of')
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    • Pollycat
    • By Pollycat 10th Apr 18, 10:46 PM
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    • 10th Apr 18, 10:46 PM
    Why is it people react with astonishment when someone looks younger than their age?
    Originally posted by domdondom
    I can't answer your question because I don't react in that way.
    • BrassicWoman
    • By BrassicWoman 10th Apr 18, 10:49 PM
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    • 10th Apr 18, 10:49 PM
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    • 10th Apr 18, 10:49 PM
    I can't answer your question because I don't react in that way.
    Originally posted by Pollycat
    I agree. However humble-bragging provokes a very strong reaction in me.
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    • chesky
    • By chesky 10th Apr 18, 11:29 PM
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    • 10th Apr 18, 11:29 PM
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    • 10th Apr 18, 11:29 PM
    You obviously go round telling people your age, then stand there waiting for them to say you look younger. Which they probably do out of kindness.
    • Loz01
    • By Loz01 10th Apr 18, 11:30 PM
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    • 10th Apr 18, 11:30 PM
    I'm 31 and people generally think I'm anything from 19-26. I think 28 is the oldest Ive ever been guessed. Whether people are being polite or not, I have no idea!!

    But I do hate it when I say "oh Im 31" and people GASP and say WHAT?? No WAY! You look so young! REALLY?! as if I add years to my age for kicks I just think oh well, when Im 40 I'll be a fountain of youth. I think its partly genetics tho, my Mum is in her mid 60's and people think she's 50 odd. She even got asked for ID to get into a place for an over 60
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    • domdondom
    • By domdondom 11th Apr 18, 12:48 AM
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    • 11th Apr 18, 12:48 AM
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    • 11th Apr 18, 12:48 AM
    I'm 31 and people generally think I'm anything from 19-26. I think 28 is the oldest Ive ever been guessed. Whether people are being polite or not, I have no idea!!

    But I do hate it when I say "oh Im 31" and people GASP and say WHAT?? No WAY! You look so young! REALLY?! as if I add years to my age for kicks I just think oh well, when Im 40 I'll be a fountain of youth. I think its partly genetics tho, my Mum is in her mid 60's and people think she's 50 odd. She even got asked for ID to get into a place for an over 60
    Originally posted by Loz01
    That is the same disbelief I am talking about. It does make me wonder whether or not this is just a thirties thing? People see the final years of their thirties as the big 40 approaching and with 40 being seen as an important milestone. Perhaps 40 is considered old these days?
    • Red-Squirrel
    • By Red-Squirrel 11th Apr 18, 8:56 AM
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    • 11th Apr 18, 8:56 AM
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    • 11th Apr 18, 8:56 AM
    I agree. However humble-bragging provokes a very strong reaction in me.
    Originally posted by BrassicWoman
    This isn't a humblebrag, its just a plain old fashioned brag!
    • Ilona
    • By Ilona 11th Apr 18, 9:00 AM
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    When I was 58 I pulled a hunky guy of 30. I was well chuffed.

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    • moneyistooshorttomention
    • By moneyistooshorttomention 11th Apr 18, 9:15 AM
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    If people say someone looks young for their age - then these days I wonder who they are comparing with personally.

    I often used to get told I looked young for my age when I was younger. Cue for getting to my 60's and I reckon I look my age these days (no younger/no older).

    I think how old people look compared to their age depends on two things:
    - stuff under their control (eg smoking and sunbathing - both of which are "agers")
    - stuff that may or may not be under their control (ie how life treats them).

    Thinking of people that I'm aware of that look older than their age:

    - one is self-inflicted (working outdoors in all weathers and smoking wacky backy). Looks about 20 years older than age.

    - one is mental health problems of some description (never have figured out quite what it is - but it has included bouts of anorexia). Looks about 20 years older than age.

    - A "hard" person and poor money manager and I'm told they are or were an alcoholic. Looks about 10 years older than age - but it might be worse than that if it werent for the dyed blonde hair.

    Basically - come some point around 50 or so - I've come to the conclusion everyone will look their age - apart from those who've done smoking/drug-taking/had a hard life due to no fault of their own/done similar to 3rd person above (ie being "hard" and being stupid with money).


    Hence - one gets to 50 or so and looks one's age (no more/no less) if having not done anything self-destructive or had a particularly hard life due to no fault of one's own (eg major illness problems or being a carer to someone else that has major illness).

    So - yep...I look exactly my age - because I've had a fairly standard middle-class lifestyle (apart from not being able to buy a house until my 30s) and am not a self-destructive sort of person.

    That's how the cookie crumbles imo.
    Last edited by moneyistooshorttomention; 11-04-2018 at 9:26 AM.
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    • hazyjo
    • By hazyjo 11th Apr 18, 9:42 AM
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    Be flattered. I was 26 and got asked if I was old enough to buy cigarettes (had to be 16) once, and mid-20s when asked if I was child or adult for a swimming pool ticket. Haven't lived a particularly healthy life so I strongly believe it's far more down to genetics than people realise.


    We share the same birthday btw! I'm 48 and look younger. Love it. We should have a photo thread where everyone guesses ages LOL (although some of us have shared at some stage or another).
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    • ska lover
    • By ska lover 11th Apr 18, 10:05 AM
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    I don't get what there is to be annoyed about OP. Bit dramatic IMO
    Last edited by ska lover; 11-04-2018 at 10:14 AM.
    The opposite of what you know...is also true
    • Silvertabby
    • By Silvertabby 11th Apr 18, 10:30 AM
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    It was a nuisance when I was 20 and my sister was 16 - and she could get served in pubs but I couldn't.

    Haven't thought about it since !
    • Indout96
    • By Indout96 11th Apr 18, 10:35 AM
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    Nope - I look really young for my age whilst everyone I went to school with looks ancient.
    However someone seems to have replaced the mirrors in our house with pictures of my dad - really annoying :-(
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    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 11th Apr 18, 10:39 AM
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    I'm 38 and get asked for ID, colleagues thought I was early 20s to early 30s. I tke it as a good thing.
    • comeandgo
    • By comeandgo 11th Apr 18, 10:47 AM
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    I know I look younger than my age, it's a genetic thing, nothing to do with me, my cousin looks even younger than me and she is a year older. My friends and family know my age and it's not something I broadcast so don't get the Wow factor much.
    • Gavin83
    • By Gavin83 11th Apr 18, 11:29 AM
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    If people say someone looks young for their age - then these days I wonder who they are comparing with personally.

    I often used to get told I looked young for my age when I was younger. Cue for getting to my 60's and I reckon I look my age these days (no younger/no older).

    I think how old people look compared to their age depends on two things:
    - stuff under their control (eg smoking and sunbathing - both of which are "agers")
    - stuff that may or may not be under their control (ie how life treats them).

    Thinking of people that I'm aware of that look older than their age:

    - one is self-inflicted (working outdoors in all weathers and smoking wacky backy). Looks about 20 years older than age.

    - one is mental health problems of some description (never have figured out quite what it is - but it has included bouts of anorexia). Looks about 20 years older than age.

    - A "hard" person and poor money manager and I'm told they are or were an alcoholic. Looks about 10 years older than age - but it might be worse than that if it werent for the dyed blonde hair.

    Basically - come some point around 50 or so - I've come to the conclusion everyone will look their age - apart from those who've done smoking/drug-taking/had a hard life due to no fault of their own/done similar to 3rd person above (ie being "hard" and being stupid with money).


    Hence - one gets to 50 or so and looks one's age (no more/no less) if having not done anything self-destructive or had a particularly hard life due to no fault of one's own (eg major illness problems or being a carer to someone else that has major illness).

    So - yep...I look exactly my age - because I've had a fairly standard middle-class lifestyle (apart from not being able to buy a house until my 30s) and am not a self-destructive sort of person.

    That's how the cookie crumbles imo.
    Originally posted by moneyistooshorttomention
    Let's just say I partied hard in my late teens/early 20's and it didn't affect me. Most people assume I'm younger than I am. A lot of my peers are going bald and/or grey, currently I'm suffering neither.

    Ironically when I was young I looked older than I was. I had a full beard by 13/14 and my voice had broken before then. I certainly never struggled to get served in pubs while underage.

    I just assume I've got good genetics.
    • suki1964
    • By suki1964 11th Apr 18, 11:30 AM
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    Being asked what school I attended and then being given a child's fare on the bus one morning heading into work was pretty amusing, I was 35

    I'm 54 now, no idea what age I look cos every time I look in a mirror my mum looks back at me
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    • pollypenny
    • By pollypenny 11th Apr 18, 11:47 AM
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    When I was a 31 year old mature student many others thought I was straight from 6th form.


    When I was in my early 50s, one of my lovely pupils had confidently worked out my age. - 42!
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