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    • Hollyharvey
    • By Hollyharvey 10th Apr 18, 6:07 AM
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    Hollyharvey
    O/S Daily Tuesday 10th April 2018
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    • 10th Apr 18, 6:07 AM
    O/S Daily Tuesday 10th April 2018 10th Apr 18 at 6:07 AM
    This is an ďover the garden fenceĒ type thread where we chat about everything Old Style and maybe a little bit more. Itís a great, inspiring and motivating thread we start each day to discuss what Old Style things weíre going to do today or what weíve achieved already. Everyoneís welcome, please do come in, put your feet up (although check the fence hasnít just been painted first!) and join us for an Old Style natter. The more the merrier!

    As this is the Old Style Board, it would be appreciated if posts could include some Old Style content. Please be aware that many people may have small screens, or SLOW internet connections, so please donít post large pictures, or clip art Ė links are preferred. When you make a post, if you feel like giving it a title, that will help others that donít have the time to read everything skim through the thread quickly but if not it's not a problem. Please do not start a new daily thread before you go to bed at night because this often leaves things confusing with two daily threads live at the same time. The idea is that a member would start each new daily thread after they get up in the morning.
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    • Elona
    • By Elona 10th Apr 18, 11:12 AM
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    Elona
    Holly

    I am so pleased you met an old friend and got out and about.

    TA
    I am so glad things went well at the hospital and I know how it feels to be waiting around and big parking fees.

    Have just had some porridge for breakfast followed by some fresh pineapple which is supposed to be good for the joints and spent three minutes on a vibrating board. It is only the second time I have used it so hoping it helps as I am desperate to be more active and be able to help with first grandchild due in Summer.

    LameWolf

    I agree with your comments that even if the dog was not on a lead it should still have been under control. The way it came bounding into the house it could have knocked someone small or frail right over. The dog was just being enthusiastic and friendly but was quite big ( several years old and not a puppy). SIL said the man walking him looked "rough" and dds thought he meant it was a poor homeless person and felt sorry for the guy till they realised that was not what he meant.

    It has been pouring rain overnight and is still miserable looking so having a quiet morning and putting my feet up. Not sure if lady who helps with the garden will be able to do anything so will phone her later and check.

    A healthy mackerel salad is in the fridge for lunch and have stuff in freezer so unless I need to get money from the post office to pay for gardening I don't have to go out unless I want to.

    Hugs to all
    • Elona
    • By Elona 10th Apr 18, 11:17 AM
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    Elona
    Holly

    I just saw your last post and I am so sorry to hear what has happened. You really could not make it up.

    Could your brother contact PALS on your behalf?

    Sorry I can't be more help but fingers are crossed for you. Virtual hug and positive vibes.
    • csarina2
    • By csarina2 10th Apr 18, 11:20 AM
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    csarina2
    Morning ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) if you need one.

    I have just read your post Holly, I really do not know what to say, it is beyond words........I need to think things through a bit.

    Its a nasty damp morning, lady has just been with our prescriptions, so we are stocked up again.

    The dresser went yesterday so the sitting room needs to be rearranged, doubt it will suit OH, but it will me. Will see hoe we get on.

    Belly pork casserole for supper, there will be enough left to freeze for another supper, will have mash and calabrese with it, there is carrot and leek in.

    Cleaners have changed the day they will be here this afternoon. I will get them to clean the windows inside.

    We woke to a horrible smell in the house this morning, we have had it before, it smells like they have been muck spreading in the house, I am concerned incase the sewer pipe has fractured and sewage is leaking under the bungalow. We have phoned the council, but its not classed as an urgent repair.

    OH's eye is going on OK, he has mainly stopped moaning which is refreshing...........
    • dumpling
    • By dumpling 10th Apr 18, 11:59 AM
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    dumpling
    Good morning (just) everyone

    It's a rainy old day here which suits my mood unfortunately.

    Holly, I am so sorry to read your latest update, I hope you can find someone to talk to about all this, I echo Elona's thoughts about PALS. You are right though, you couldn't make it up if you tried .

    My meeting yesterday was very very difficult and I was unable to sleep yet again for rehashing the whole thing over and over again to see if I should have said or done anything different. My lovely cmht lady was a star and kept me calm and focussed but I am pretty sure it didn't go well for me. It's out of my hands now though and I just have to wait 4-6 weeks for the outcome, I just wish my stupid brain would calm down.

    I've just had a royal visit from my mum to bring me my birthday cards for tomorrow. It was nice to see her even if it was only a quick visit. My youngest sister popped in last night with a card and some beautiful lillies which are just opening today and smell lovely.
    I don't have anything planned for tomorrow except for going for a coffee and cake with my cmht lady so I'm hoping for a nice peaceful day.

    Hope you all have a great day whatever you are up to, take care xx

    • RosyRed
    • By RosyRed 10th Apr 18, 12:30 PM
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    RosyRed
    I have just read your latest post Holly and am sending a great big hug. I find it so hard to understand how a month ago you were sectioned,and then less than a week after you came home they are withdrawing support altogether,its unbelievable and I'm so sorry.

    If its any help,(and I dont know if it is ) try and focus on the nice things that have happened since you came home,reconnecting with your old friend and having a nice dinner to look forward to, and your DB surprising you with your tea out, and talking to your friends on here,pottering in your kitchen and cooking xxx

    Hugs also to Dumpling,really sorry you thought the meeting went badly,lets hope you're wrong xxx
    'A woman is like a teabag: You never know her strength until you drop her in hot water'. (Eleanor Roosevelt)
    • Floss
    • By Floss 10th Apr 18, 12:32 PM
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    Floss
    Holly ask the gp on Thursday to request a medication review and also for a change of consultant. Having worked for a MH medical director I know this is possible, so pls dont let the MH team fob you off. It does sound odd if the consultant "is scared of you" - maybe more likely a drugs cost issue or patient capacity within the team being stretched.

    Also email what you have written above to the Medical Director for your MH trust, their Chair of Governors AND your MP - they will all have quick timescales for responding.

    Floss xx
    • Judi
    • By Judi 10th Apr 18, 12:46 PM
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    Judi
    Holly i really don't know what to say...what a screwed up situation. Stay calm, you really don't want to be sectioned again.

    What a day I'm having. 5 games of snakes and ladders, me dog is coughing and I've had prodigal here off and on all morning.

    Seems like someone has cloned his debit card and used it to make unauthorised purchases....He's been using the shop that Youngest got scammed out of £800 to draw out money out the cash machine. They have been using his card on Google play...He's been to the bank. They've referred him to action fraud. Because he has Google account they won't refund him as he can't prove it wasn't him who made the purchases. He's gone storming off to the police station although I know and have told him they will turn him away. The procedure is he will be interviewed by phone and he hasn't got a phone cause he lost it.
    'Holy crap on a cracker!'
    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 10th Apr 18, 1:30 PM
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    LameWolf
    Ye gods and little fishes, Holly I am speechless! What's this with the consultant is "scared of you"? Surely he's paid to help people like you - or am I missing the point somewhere?

    TA I agree hospital car parking charges are scandalous - that's why I went along with Mr LW when he had to go for tests, and brought the car home! It cost less in petrol to do that and then pick him up after than it would've been for him to park! Anyways, let's hope the op achieves what it is supposed to, and that Mr TA feels better for it once he's had chance to recover from it.

    Buddy and Indi are due to be picked up in an hour, so I need to get all their things together. We are going to miss them; but the good news is they are coming back in July for a two and a half week stay.
    LameWolf
    If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.
    • Helebore
    • By Helebore 10th Apr 18, 1:36 PM
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    Helebore
    Holly I echo what Floss has said, I would also be inclined to contact 'Mind' for some form of assistance. That 'nurse' had no right to state about your consultant being 'scared' of you. What an absolutely awful thing to say to someone that 'they' deem to be a suicide risk. I am so sorry that they are treating you so appallingly.
    Best wishes. I am sooo appalled.
    I would also contact the Zito Trust, they may be able to help, they have an email address.
    Helena
    Last edited by Helebore; 10-04-2018 at 1:41 PM. Reason: Adding info
    • maddiemay
    • By maddiemay 10th Apr 18, 1:37 PM
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    maddiemay
    I have just speed read the morning's posts as I have another appointment to go out to, but didn't want to read and run.

    Huge amounts of hugs to Holly, Dumpling and Judi.

    Holly as Judi says try and stay calm, use all the tricks that you know might help you, you have one and a half days to get through until the GP you know is on duty, perhaps you could cross off each hour as you get through it. Take care
    The best thing about the future is that it comes one day at a time. (Abraham Lincoln)
    • TravellingAbuela
    • By TravellingAbuela 10th Apr 18, 2:17 PM
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    TravellingAbuela
    HOLLY I honestly don't know what to say that would help. I agree with everything that everyone else has said and urge you to take note of what FLOSS has added. These so called professionals are supposed to be responsible for your care.

    DUMPLING I am sure your assessment went better than you are thinking and you are worrying needlessly. Fingers crossed.

    ((HUGS)) all round in abundance today and blow the expense! So many problems. xx

    Mr TA is much improved after a fairly decent night's sleep. He was only up twice in the night for the loo and this last month or two it's been every two hours, leaving him (and me!) dog tired all the next day! Apparently his stent had travelled into the bladder, causing trabeculation (I had to look the meaning of that up!) and considerable aggravation. Let's hope his new stent stays put!

    Take care all xx
    "If you dream alone it will remain just a dream. But if we all dream together it will become reality"
    • Mrs Salad Dodger
    • By Mrs Salad Dodger 10th Apr 18, 3:03 PM
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    Mrs Salad Dodger
    Afternoon everyone,

    Has finally brightened up & the sun is shining

    Holly, I am so at your treatment - I could spit The treatment you have received is abhorrent

    I have no experience with this sort of thing but was the treatment plan that was agreed on put in writing? A copy of that should be put with your post & then as Floss suggested emailed onwards.

    When you see the GP perhaps you could give him a copy of your original post about what was agreed & a copy of todayís post. I know when I get scared about something my ability to speak coherently flies out the window & then I sob - I realise it is not conducive to good outcomes but I can never stop myself I am sending hugs.


    On a different topic, when I first joined up I was reading a thread (donít know which one) with someone called Roundtuit posting. Does anyone know if Roundtuit is still posting & where? I really enjoyed reading the posts & some of the back & forth was hilarious

    Thank you

    MrsSD
    • Helebore
    • By Helebore 10th Apr 18, 3:12 PM
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    Helebore
    Holly, I would also contact a solicitor dealing with mental health stuff, they are usually pretty good at helping, I don't know if the ward you were on gave you a list of them.
    • LameWolf
    • By LameWolf 10th Apr 18, 3:27 PM
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    LameWolf
    On a different topic, when I first joined up I was reading a thread (donít know which one) with someone called Roundtuit posting. Does anyone know if Roundtuit is still posting & where? I really enjoyed reading the posts & some of the back & forth was hilarious

    Thank you

    MrsSD
    Originally posted by Mrs Salad Dodger
    Yes, she's still around, posting on the weekly Flylady thread.
    Come and join the madness!
    LameWolf
    If your dog thinks you're the best, don't seek a second opinion.
    • CRANKY40
    • By CRANKY40 10th Apr 18, 4:09 PM
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    CRANKY40
    I don't know about anyone else but I think that the remark about the consultant "being scared" of Holly was actually extremely unprofessional and I think it warrants an official complaint. I also find it bizarre that someone who can be told to their face how high risk the are can then be refused help (the "help" that they were forced to accept not so very long ago). Obviously a section leads to a magical cure these days.

    We as a family are going through something equally bizarre. My dad was forced to have his leg amputated due to an infection. We refused the operation on his behalf - they did it anyway as it is the hospital's duty to save lives apparently. Dad has vascular dementia. He mostly has no idea that he doesn't have enough legs left to stand on his own and surprise....the infection is not only still present in what's left of him, it means he has to be in a room of his own. He needs one to one care as he keeps trying to stand up and so far there isn't a nursing home in the whole of London prepared to take him because of the infection risk. His quality of life currently - zero.

    You couldn't make this stuff up could you? The money that has been wasted on trying to prolong my dads life added to the money they wasted sectioning Holly would probably pay for Holly to have the treatment that is actually required for a good long time.

    Sorry for the rant but I am still quite sour that my friend whose cancer has spread to her bones has to pay to have all of her teeth removed and replaced by dentures because of her cancer treatment. You'd think that would come with the treatment wouldn't you? It probably could if the money needed wasn't being spent on other pointless stuff.
    • Mrs Salad Dodger
    • By Mrs Salad Dodger 10th Apr 18, 4:22 PM
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    Mrs Salad Dodger
    Thanks LameWolf
    • nannywindow
    • By nannywindow 10th Apr 18, 6:12 PM
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    nannywindow
    Oh Holly I'm so annoyed at the way you are being treated. I have no experience of MH issues but I wish I could be there in person to give you moral support and many hugs. Instead I shall send you lots of virtual ones.
    Dumpling I do exactly the same thing and go over and over what I could/should have said. Fingers crossed things will be fine.
    Cranky you have had more than your fair share of heartbreak. You rant away my lovely.

    The window man left at 4.30pm and so for tea I opened a tin of curry and we've had that with a packet rice. Sorry an OS fail today . I am a bit more organised for tomorrow and have already made a cottage pie.
    Not really looking forward to tomorrow as the wall has to be cut to accommodate the patio doors, so a lot of mess and noise expected. Fair play to the man, he has hoovered up any mess and the job looks really good. It's probably cleaner than when he started . He's only finished the upstairs windows (except for a small one) and there are still 7 windows left to do, plus the 2 doors. He's a bit of a perfectionist ( good for us ) so he will be here all week.
    We will be up even earlier tomorrow to cover the furniture in the lounge. I will admit that I am not at my best early in the mornings and I only come to about 10am .
    Righty ho I'm off to have a bubble bath, just to steel myself for the early rise tomorrow .
    Take care all.
    Apologies Judi I meant to say that I'm sorry that you and your family are going through the wringer too. Extra hugs winging your way today,
    Last edited by nannywindow; 10-04-2018 at 6:17 PM. Reason: forgot
    Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, but this time more intelligently
    • Gers
    • By Gers 10th Apr 18, 6:47 PM
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    Gers
    Evening from a rainy place!

    Holly -it's appalling and hardly believable. I hope you get some support back in place.

    Today I bought some puff and filo pastry as I want to make DM some savoury food as well as cake. She craves texture so I thought some little tarts with goats cheese, feta cheese, salmon, leeks, broccoli, asparagus and roasted tomatoes (not all in one tart!) with both types of pastry to see if that can tempt her to eat more.

    I've also taken some diced venison out of the freezer to make a casserole for her. As the digger bloke is coming tomorrow morning I want to keep busy whilst he's working. He's diabetic so won't be giving him biscuits or cakes, maybe he won't mind being a tarts tester!

    Somehow I've managed to do an online wine order too.
    • Judi
    • By Judi 10th Apr 18, 7:04 PM
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    Judi
    Well what a rotten day. SIL picked up the kids an hour ago. Diva decided she didnt want her afternoon nap although she needed it and bawled her head off all afternoon. She wanted to be cuddled, she was fine when she was being nursed but as soon as i put her down Wahhhhh! she was off again.

    Waved goodbye to the Grandchildren and took the hounds for a little walk. Met an old 'friend' on the way and she asked how i was.

    "Shattered" i said "ive had the Grandchildren all day"

    "Just be thankful youve got Grandchildren" she said.

    I didnt say anything but i was annoyed. When did i say i wasnt thankful? I love them dearly but today was a particularly tiresome day. Am i not allowed to be tired?

    I'm going to have to find a walk where i meet no people.
    'Holy crap on a cracker!'
    • LaineyT
    • By LaineyT 10th Apr 18, 7:39 PM
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    LaineyT
    Just popped back on for a catch up and have read Hollyís post, seriously donít know what to say and as for that consultant being scared of you, what a complete....bleep bleep bleep.
    Canít offer any practical advice but am thinking of you.
    Also of you Judi, am sorry that you were made to feel even worse
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