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    • Oakdene
    • By Oakdene 3rd Apr 18, 4:34 PM
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    Worried about my childrens relationship with thier mum.
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    • 3rd Apr 18, 4:34 PM
    Worried about my childrens relationship with thier mum. 3rd Apr 18 at 4:34 PM
    Quick bit of background, my ex & I have a son (10) & a daughter (13). My son lives with my ex & my daughter with me, they (usually) spend every weekend together & all the school holiday. My ex has a 3 or 4 year with her new partner. We pay each other maintenance - I pay £55 more a month & I do not have a partner.

    There is becoming an continuing issue, in that I feel my children are being left out of trips, visits & events by their mum & her husband. My daughter had been invited to a sleepover on her mum's weekend in a nearby (22 miles) town. I mentioned to her mum that she'd been invited & when I said where she laughed & said "that's not happening". I asked why & she said that she has 2 other kids to worry about & she can't be bothered driving that far. This despite taking both of her sons all across the county for football & parties etc. I said it was ok & that I would take her so she didn't miss out.

    In another instance she plans trips to the cinema with her husband & son, on weekends when I have my pair - this I don't mind per say but when my children are with them, they do very little. When I raised this the reply was "well I can't afford to take all 3 of them out for lunch & to the cinema."

    The latest is now she has booked a holiday for her, her husband & son to Disneyland Paris in the summer holidays & isn't taking her other 2 children because I am taking them away earlier in the year.

    I am getting increasingly concerned that my children are going to feel that they are being left out by their mum & what is worse is she doesn't seem worried that she is doing this.

    Am I being unreasonable here in thinking or worrying?
    Dwy galon, un dyhead,
    Dwy dafod ond un iaith,
    Dwy raff yn cydio’n ddolen,
    Dau enaid ond un taith.

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    • Sncjw
    • By Sncjw 15th Apr 18, 10:18 AM
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    She says that it!!!8217;s expensive to go to cinema what about the £55 maintenfe you pay. Should that not go towards the cost of your children!!!8217;s tickets maybe
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