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    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 1st Apr 18, 3:23 PM
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    All change..... Determined to be solvent, single and successful
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    • 1st Apr 18, 3:23 PM
    All change..... Determined to be solvent, single and successful 1st Apr 18 at 3:23 PM
    Hello!
    I think this is my third diary - I posted regularly for a long time a year or two ago and then life just got in the way and my focus changed.
    So much has happened recently that I think a new start and a record of my successes and hiccups will help to keep me on track.

    So, what's changed...? Well, I'm on the senior leadership team at a large secondary school, live alone with an ancient fat little dog and am in the process of becoming single again after 5 years. My OH became my boss in September and its been downhill since then really, I won't bore you with the details but it's not been great and I finally broached it with him last week and he hasn't spoken to me since ...... Not the reaction I'd hoped for but perhaps expected.
    Earlier this year, I was passed over for a job that I've been doing informally for almost a year and that didn't help matters and have finally found the gumption to start applying for new jobs. That didn't go down well with OH either but he encouraged me to at the time of the original job issue, don't think he thought I would. I've found the work situation really difficult as nobody knows the real reason I didn't get the job and now it's at the point that I don't want to be there anymore.

    On top of that, I had some health news that stopped me in my tracks in February - I have the breast cancer gene and have a one in three chance of developing it in the next 8 years.... The hospital have been great and there's a prevention and monitoring plan in place including taking tamoxifen (not lovely side effects but better than cancer!) and lots of screening, but if I'm honest, it's made me reevaluate life a bit.
    Add to that lot that my dad has prostrate cancer that may have spread ( new biopsies soon to confirm ) and the worry that brings (my mum is useless and my sister has disabilities and with the best will in the world still needs care) and I've just had to say enough is enough - I'm 46 and things need to change, life is too short!!

    So to sum up.... Relationship going down the swanny, need a new job, health needs serious attention and family all need looking after.

    So a new start..... Here we go!! Xx
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    • Cumbria lass
    • By Cumbria lass 1st Sep 18, 11:53 AM
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    De lurking MT enjoy reading your diary . Glad you had a good holiday and good luck with new job . Enjoy your music tomorrow , I will be walking past that way tomorrow on the bee hunt again .
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    • Cumbria lass
    • By Cumbria lass 1st Sep 18, 12:20 PM
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    Have just realised its next weekend when Indiana Jones is on in my city ! Bet you wondered what I was talking about with mentioning bees !
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    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 1st Sep 18, 1:10 PM
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    Thanks Cumbria Lass! I'm also in your neck of the woods and its next Sunday
    Haven't done the bee walk yet but would like to. Maybe next weekend as a break from work?

    Have danced and sung my way through all of the cleaning, mowing and tidying - with headphones on so the neighbours must think I'm losing the plot making up my own lyrics to 90s dance music
    Even felt the urge to clean the inside of the car - everything is now spotless and order has been restored... Only me that's not clean now - the dog is fresher than me! Will have a bit of lunch and go for a run then have a shower.

    No more putting off work then.....
    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 2nd Sep 18, 4:06 PM
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    Have spent all day working but finally feel like I know vaguely what I'm talking about with regards to the new schools position. Bit brain dead now....
    I've just taken the dog for a stroll for some fresh air and exercise and am waiting for the water to warm up for a bath. In the meantime I'm watching an episode of Designated Survivor on Netflix - my newest fad love the overacting and drama of it all.....

    Then it's time to get things ready for tomorrow (clothes and work stuff) and try to not panic....
    • Cumbria lass
    • By Cumbria lass 2nd Sep 18, 4:34 PM
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    Thank you MT for working my ramblings out. Good to know you are in this neck of the woods. The bees have caused a couple of good days out recently. Sadly I missed today's as a bit under the weather.

    Hope all goes well on your first day in new job.
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 2nd Sep 18, 7:55 PM
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    I loved Designated Survivor - really good show
    Good luck tomorrow - I know the first day back is always tough but I think even more so with a new job. I'm sure that you'll be amazing.
    November in NY #20 NSD = 8 1 debt vs 100 days 328.51/1685
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    • joeyjimbles
    • By joeyjimbles 3rd Sep 18, 3:48 PM
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    Lots of luck for your next adventure. I'm sure that you'll be brilliant.
    The film and orchestra sounds great. Years ago, OH and I went to see Looney Tunes (the cartoons) with the London Philharmonic playing along - it was absolutely brilliant and we still talk about it. DS1 kicked along with it all - I was 8 months pregnant at the time

    And another thing to consider, we've been making a huge effort to use the ECO setting on the car and keep the speed limit down and it's resulted in much better usage of diesel for only a little extra time in the car. Definitely opened our eyes since Diesel hit such a high price. You may already be good at this and you're a bit more urban than we are so the temptation to put your foot down might not be so great.
    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 6th Sep 18, 8:34 PM
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    Hello all! I'm still alive....just!!
    Thank you all for your good wishes. Really appreciated.

    The week has been bonkers so far and I'm knackered. INSET on Monday then straight into it with the kids and a million meetings for the rest of the week. It all feels a bit strange and like I'm on holiday there and I'm going back to my old job at some point but I'm sure it will pass. The kids are great and the staff have been really nice so far but it's early days

    I've had loads to do in the evenings too, just to get on top of things but I did make time to see OH for a couple of hours last night. He's up to his eyeballs in work too.
    Done a couple of hours tonight but have deliberately put everything away, even though there's still more I could do, so I can try to switch off and have a bit of down time and an early night. My feet are killing me and I'm shattered. Friday tomorrow though thankfully......
    • Cumbria lass
    • By Cumbria lass 6th Sep 18, 9:48 PM
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    Have a good weekend when it arrives and enjoy Sunday.
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    • joeyjimbles
    • By joeyjimbles 7th Sep 18, 11:59 AM
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    Enjoy your weekend, once you've got things straight for next week (or so) then put it all away and focus on recharging yourself. Pace yourself especially whilst everything is so new.
    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 7th Sep 18, 5:40 PM
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    I'm really pleased it's gone well for you - long may it continue.
    I hope that at this precise moment you are relaxing with the dog and some tv and switching off for the weekend.
    November in NY #20 NSD = 8 1 debt vs 100 days 328.51/1685
    DFD #1: 6 Nov 15 - paid 28,447
    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 8th Sep 18, 9:37 AM
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    Thank you Joey, Cat and Cumbria Lass. I made it to Friday afternoon in tact but was exhausted by the end of it. It's not just the physical tiredness it's the mental exhaustion from being nice to everyone all day, looking fascinated at everything and taking it all in.
    I'll get the hang of it I'm sure.....

    OH and I spent last night staring at the telly with a bottle of wine and a takeaway - it was quite comical really, both brain dead and shell shocked! An early night followed with a lie in until 8.30 has sorted me out though. Not sure about him, he's still fast asleep.
    I did the cleaning when I got home from work last night so the house is nice and clean and tidy and I don't have to worry about it this weekend. Need a bit of downtime so thought I'd get it out of the way before I collapsed in a heap
    I need to do a couple of loads of washing and some grocery shopping today but otherwise all chores are already done. I have a hair appointment at lunchtime and will pop to sainsburys afterwards - I don't need too much, there's still stuff in from last week and I've stocked up on toiletries and household things so it's just fresh food and things for the dog.
    I'm not doing any work today - have plenty of it to do but I'm trying to keep Saturdays for myself and have a complete day off. It can wait until tomorrow.

    Need to walk the dog soon and, if my legs feel ok, I'd like to go a for a short run - I haven't been all week and I don't want to get out of the habit. We even ran on holidays (was that only last week?!) so work isn't an excuse......

    Some financial news, apparently I get paid in the middle of the month now (it used to be in the last day) and payday is this Friday. I've only just been paid from the last job and I'm not sure whether I'll get a full month's pay or half of one so there may be a bit of juggling needed next weekend to get me through to the next pay day or it may be a bonus half month's extra pay if I get paid for the full month. Hope it's the latter but not holding my breath.

    Right, better put the first load of washing in and get the dog out, it's raining though so he won't be keen......
    Last edited by mumblingtaff; 08-09-2018 at 9:43 AM.
    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 9th Sep 18, 9:04 AM
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    Morning all! Just back from a dog walk before it rains again. Ended up going to IKEA with OH after the hairdressers yesterday afternoon. Actually really enjoyed it! Bought some towels, a door mat, a wok and colander - 45 spent but all needed. I ruined some of my towels recently by washing them with a rogue item and they're very dingy and only really fit for the dog now. The wok was more than 20 years old and manky and the door mat had also seen better days.

    OH then made tea while I walked the dog and we watched a bit of telly and were in bed by 10pm and both fast asleep by 10.15. Slept right through until 7 - unheard of for me so I must have been tired.
    I did manage a run yesterday but it was really hard work - my legs felt like lumps of solid iron but at least I did it. I'm just waiting for my phone to charge a bit and then I'll do another run - hopefully it will be a bit easier today.
    I have tons of work to do today - probably about 5 hours or so - so will get cracking as soon as I've run. We're going to the Indiana Jones orchestral thing this evening so I need to get everything sorted today ASAP. I didn't manage to get to the supermarket yesterday so I need to pop out for bits today too. Will go for a break from work at some point.

    I also need to move some money around to pay for the hair appointment yesterday (it was already budgeted for and put in a "holding" account ) and the shopping. I have the new towels washing now but also need to change the spare room bed, otherwise there's no housework to do.

    So a busy day ahead.....

    1. Walk dog - done
    2. Run - done
    3. Loads of school work - done
    4. Put dry washing away - done
    5. Wash spare bed - done
    6. Banking - done
    7. Food shopping - done
    8. Get clothes ready for tomorrow - done
    9. Make packed lunch for tomorrow - done
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    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 10th Sep 18, 8:34 PM
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    Evening all....
    A long full day at work packed with teaching and meetings but all went well.
    Done a bit more work this evening and am just about up to date now.
    A bit of telly and an early night is in order....

    We went to the Indiana Jones orchestral thing last night and didnt get back until around 11pm so getting up at 5.15 was hard work today
    But, it was really good - the musicians are so clever and performed really well - a real change to watch something like that. Would definitely do it again.

    Did the grocery shopping at the local little tesco yesterday and spent 35 - probably more than if I'd gone to the supermarket but I just didn't have time.
    I still have 85 left in the grocery budget for the month so I should be ok.

    No big plans for the week other than work and seeing OH on Wednesday evening - to be honest, I can't think more than one day ahead at the moment it's so busy.
    It's pay day on Friday so we'll see what that brings - strange being paid in the middle of the month.

    Right, telly and bed - am shattered.
    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 11th Sep 18, 6:12 PM
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    A long day at work with not much sleep rounded off with delivering my first whole school training/presentation. I think it went ok but I'm knackered now.
    Have taken the dog to the park and am just waiting for tea to cook, just a jacket spud and beans and cheese tonight, I have no energy for anything more adventurous.

    Some good news though.... I'll get paid a full months pay on Friday so effectively get an extra half months pay as I've not long been paid. Will have to think about how I distribute the extra money - I might move everything that's left from last month into savings or pay off the credit card and start afresh but I'll need to look at when direct debits etc go out to make sure I don't leave myself short. But, it's extra money not budgeted for so a nice problem to have

    This evening will consist of another short dog walk, a quick tidy round, a bath and a tiny bit of work, followed by some telly and an early night. Hopefully I'll sleep better tonight now the big meeting is out of the way and I'm fairly up to date with work.
    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 11th Sep 18, 10:10 PM
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    Happy days - at least you don't have to worry about making 2 weeks pay last a month. Pleased that it's all going well.
    November in NY #20 NSD = 8 1 debt vs 100 days 328.51/1685
    DFD #1: 6 Nov 15 - paid 28,447
    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 15th Sep 18, 10:31 AM
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    Thanks Cat - hope your start to the school year is going to ok too?

    Friday came and went uneventfully apart from a fire alarm, no big dramas.
    OH cooked a lovely two course dinner from scratch which we scoffed with some wine and, after a bit of telly, we were in bed by 10.30.
    Got up about 8.15 and came home to feed and walk the pooch (he tells me when it's time for going home for his breakfast!).
    Have done a 30 min walk, changed the bed, put a load of washing on, cleaned the wooden floors (did the hoovering and dusting last night), cleaned the kitchen, sorted the bins and had a shower. Getting organised because I'm going for a massage this morning - my neck and shoulders are killing me. Think it's just tense muscles from the lack of sleep, stress and standing up a lot again.
    Have a little list of things today so will pop back later when I'm all relaxed and floppy
    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 15th Sep 18, 7:53 PM
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    Had a lovely massage - really helped my back, worth every penny
    Went to a vegan supermarket on the way home for a change - bought some nice fresh stuff that will be a refreshing change. All organic and preservative free - some ready made meals that will take a few mins to heat up after work - I'm attempting to eat better this week - and some bits and bobs and fruit for lunches. Need to pick up some chicken and treats for the dog and some diet coke tomorrow but otherwise have everything I need for the week.

    Went out for a walk and coffee with OH this afternoon - had a nice couple of hours out and about. He's out with friends tonight so I'm having a nice quiet night in with the dog - I did toy with arranging a night out with my friends but after the last two weeks I need a quiet weekend.
    I'm looking forward to doing nothing and watching some telly for the rest of the evening.

    Have also spent an hour sorting out the finances. I got paid yesterday but with an emergency tax code so it was 500 short - luckily I'd only just been paid two weeks earlier so it's not a problem and it will sort itself out next month hopefully. I've given them my tax code so there's no excuses.....
    I moved all of the money in the account left over from the last month's pay to a savings account (800) and budgeted for the coming month on what I've actually been paid, including spending money, groceries, bills, petrol, direct debits, hair appointment and vet. I've also moved money into savings accounts for Xmas, holidays, house and garden and contingency money.
    Next month should be a good payday with my extra 500 tax back and a normal pay month. Fingers crossed.... That extra money can be saved or put towards a holiday .... OH is talking about going somewhere for some of the half term holiday - I'd love to go away - need to make sure he keeps feeling that feeling!!

    I have a few hours work to do tomorrow and want to go for a run but otherwise don't have anything big to do - will see OH at some point I'm sure but I'm determined to have at least some of my Sunday not thinking about work.

    Right, Netflix and a glass of wine awaits.....
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    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 16th Sep 18, 8:05 AM
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    Morning all!
    Had an intermittent sleep last night but today is a new day.
    Got quite a bit to do this morning, mostly work related, so want to get on with it so I can have the rest of the day to myself.
    So, a little list.....

    1. Walk the dog - done
    2. Go for a run
    3. Write the week's lessons - done
    4. Mark top set year 11 books
    5. Mark bottom set year 11 books
    6. Write action plan - done
    7. Do data check - done
    8. Buy chicken for the dog - done
    9. Put dry washing away - done
    10. Phone mum - done
    11. Get clothes ready for work - done
    12. One load of washing - done

    That's everything I can think of for now - I'm sure other things will pop up.
    Right, better get on with the dog walking.....in the rain ....
    Last edited by mumblingtaff; 16-09-2018 at 9:01 PM.
    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 16th Sep 18, 9:21 AM
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    Have a good day MT - enjoy making your plans for half term. I am already planning a very quiet indeed half term, although I would love a holiday.
    November in NY #20 NSD = 8 1 debt vs 100 days 328.51/1685
    DFD #1: 6 Nov 15 - paid 28,447
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