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    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 1st Apr 18, 3:23 PM
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    All change..... Determined to be solvent, single and successful
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    • 1st Apr 18, 3:23 PM
    All change..... Determined to be solvent, single and successful 1st Apr 18 at 3:23 PM
    Hello!
    I think this is my third diary - I posted regularly for a long time a year or two ago and then life just got in the way and my focus changed.
    So much has happened recently that I think a new start and a record of my successes and hiccups will help to keep me on track.

    So, what's changed...? Well, I'm on the senior leadership team at a large secondary school, live alone with an ancient fat little dog and am in the process of becoming single again after 5 years. My OH became my boss in September and its been downhill since then really, I won't bore you with the details but it's not been great and I finally broached it with him last week and he hasn't spoken to me since ...... Not the reaction I'd hoped for but perhaps expected.
    Earlier this year, I was passed over for a job that I've been doing informally for almost a year and that didn't help matters and have finally found the gumption to start applying for new jobs. That didn't go down well with OH either but he encouraged me to at the time of the original job issue, don't think he thought I would. I've found the work situation really difficult as nobody knows the real reason I didn't get the job and now it's at the point that I don't want to be there anymore.

    On top of that, I had some health news that stopped me in my tracks in February - I have the breast cancer gene and have a one in three chance of developing it in the next 8 years.... The hospital have been great and there's a prevention and monitoring plan in place including taking tamoxifen (not lovely side effects but better than cancer!) and lots of screening, but if I'm honest, it's made me reevaluate life a bit.
    Add to that lot that my dad has prostrate cancer that may have spread ( new biopsies soon to confirm ) and the worry that brings (my mum is useless and my sister has disabilities and with the best will in the world still needs care) and I've just had to say enough is enough - I'm 46 and things need to change, life is too short!!

    So to sum up.... Relationship going down the swanny, need a new job, health needs serious attention and family all need looking after.

    So a new start..... Here we go!! Xx
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    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 12th Aug 18, 6:22 PM
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    Dog walked, bath had and wooden floors cleaned - it's been so long since it's rained that I'd forgotten about mucky paw prints !

    Just spent some time going through the finances and providing there are no surprises I'm doing ok this month. I don't have any big plans for the coming week apart from a probable afternoon out with a friend mid week.
    The house is pretty much completely spring cleaned and sorted out - the only big job left that I can do myself is to paint the bathroom upstairs. It's mostly tiled at least to halfway apart from one wall and it's not a big room so it shouldn't take too long. I have the paint and brushes etc so there's no additional cost there.

    I'll get a couple of quotes for redecorating my bedroom - i have a local decorator that I've used loads of times before but he's not cheap so will look at an alternative to see if there's a big difference.

    On the decluttering front, I've continued to use up toiletries and cleaning products - this weekend has seen the departure of a shampoo and conditioner, soap, deodorant, hand soap, toilet cleaner, kitchen cleaner, air freshener, night cream and a couple of razors. Using up the dregs of something before starting the new one has never been a strong point .....
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    • joeyjimbles
    • By joeyjimbles 12th Aug 18, 8:44 PM
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    Have followed your lead and just done a major sort out of my bathroom shelves where I store toiletries and make-up etc.
    I now have a basket full of half-used shampoo and conditioners, those little ones you take on holiday and the conditioners that come with home hair dye. I've put it outside the shower and removed my big bottles so that I'll use them first. I need to intersperse the big brand ones with those with no parabens etc or my psoriasis will flare but there's enough of them to hopefully work out.
    I chucked a little pile of old razors - what was I keeping them for? - and the recycling now smells lovely as I rinsed out several almost empty plastic and glass bottles of various unguents. I feel quite saintly.
    My make up brushes are cleaned and drying. There is a bag full of make up that I never use ready to be donated to DS2's school drama dept, and I've found my favourite tweezers.

    So thank you very much as I've been thinking I should do this for ages but probably wouldn't have done it if it weren't for you.
    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 13th Aug 18, 7:22 AM
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    Joey! I forgot about make up! I too have a core set that i use every day and lots of other stuff that's never been touched or is on its last legs. You've prompted another little sort out..... I might even try washing the make up bags with the next load of washing to see if they can revive themselves.

    So, today is the official start of the second half of the summer holidays and, looking back over the past three weeks, I feel like I've achieved quite a bit. I feel quite organised at home and much fitter. But, there are still some things left on the list to work through.

    Slept really badly last night - went off ok but just kept waking up in pools of sweat then freezing again 2 mins later. Flipping menopause inducing tablets - grrr!!!!! Gave up at 5.45 and got up after what probably added up to 4 hours sleep at most.
    I'm ignoring it and getting on with things though - can't give in and if I need a little nap later it's not the end of the world.

    So, today's little list of things to do....
    1. Dog walks x2 or 3, weather dependent - done 2
    2. Run - done medium length run
    3. Phone vet to order tablets - done
    4. Look into PPI reclaim
    5. Phone mum - done
    6. Use up fajita leftovers from last night - done
    7. Work email - done
    8. Write results overview template doc - done
    9. Create new template for subject specific results - done
    10. Give wood work in downstairs loo another quick coat of paint - done

    Other than that I have no plans except to see OH after his golf game this evening. Might watch another episode of The Sinner, watched two last night and it's really getting good now. There's only 8 to get through and I'm on number 5 now so it's not a huge investment of time . Still feel a bit guilty about sitting down doing nothing but I'm getting better at it

    Right, time for dog walk number 1 .......
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    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 13th Aug 18, 8:10 PM
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    Had quite a productive day - did lots of work and feel like I'm back in the swing of it again. Will do some more tomorrow.
    Also have done a run and walked the dog twice and touched up the painting now it's all dry.
    Watched a couple of Grace and Frankie episodes - am on the last series now.
    Quite tired now but may go over to OHs once he's finished golfing.
    Will need to make myself presentable again first though - think bag lady .......
    • Honeysucklelou2
    • By Honeysucklelou2 14th Aug 18, 6:16 AM
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    Second half of the holidays already . I'm on a decorating mission, so trying to get it done this week before thinking about the new term ahead!
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    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 14th Aug 18, 9:50 AM
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    I know what you mean Honeysuckle - the days are starting to whizz by! Good luck with the decorating - I hate it but it's a necessary evil.....

    Just back from the big park with the dog who had a lovely time playing with all the other dogs. Was hoping to go straight out for a run afterwards but have woken up with an upset stomach and I'm not sure it's over yet so am giving it a little while before straying too far.... Feel ok otherwise as I slept a bit better last night (stayed in and had an earlyish night).

    My family are coming to stay on Sunday until Tuesday and they'll take the dog home with them and look after him while I'm in Ibiza. Saves me a trip to Wales and they like visiting, even if it drives me around the bend
    I'll be working next Wednesday doing the GCSE results download and analysis and again on Thursday giving results to students (it's come around too quickly and I'm a bit nervous about them with all of the changes). We're flying on Thursday evening so the mum arrangement helps out really as I'll be short on time.

    I have a few errands and jobs to do before the visitors arrive but should get them all done comfortably this week so I won't be rushing around next week when I'm really busy.
    Little listypops.....
    1. Collect dogs tablets from the vet - done
    2. Pick up dry cleaning - done
    3. Buy holiday toiletries - done
    4. Buy euros - done
    5. Buy dog holiday supplies
    6. Holiday ironing - done
    7. Paint the bathroom
    8. Sort out driving licence - done
    9. Get decorator quotes
    10. Mend knicker drawer in chest of drawers
    11. Give conservatory a deep clean - done

    Going to do a bit of work this morning, planning my first actions in my new job - bit scary but I'm sure I'll be fine once I'm into it.
    I'm going over to OHs for tea and to spend the evening so need to get a bit done during the day today.
    I'm meeting my friend tomorrow afternoon for drinks and food so the rest of the day can be written off after that

    Little victory - I washed my make up bag yesterday and it's come up almost like new - saves buying a new one. I would have chucked it in the past.
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    • Starmummy
    • By Starmummy 14th Aug 18, 9:52 AM
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    You managed to encourage me to get my running shoes on again last night. The hot weather has really put me off this summer so I admire your determination.

    Well done on keeping so busy in the summer break. I can imagine it's really easy to procrastinate when faced with a lack of routine for a prolonged period.
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    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 14th Aug 18, 12:03 PM
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    Cant believe the results are in next week! Where are my holidays going?
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    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 14th Aug 18, 1:32 PM
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    Well done StarMummy ! Getting started again is always the hardest part. No running for me today apart from to the loo and back I'm afraid.....

    Cat - it's definitely too soon! I'm not ready !

    Not feeling great - just an upset tummy but inconvenient. So, I have spent the morning sorting out my PPI reclaim (fingers crossed) and looking at autumn clothes online. I've been very good and only allowed myself to order one top that's in the sale. It's exactly the same one as I bought last week but in Ivory (rather than navy that I have). I love it and it's easy to wear and can be dressed up or down so I'll get plenty of wear out of it.

    I'm going to try to build an autumn/winter non-work wardrobe of classy clothes around what I already have, that are age appropriate (I'm 46) but don't make me look like my mother! Youngish but knowing my limits and strengths and weaknesses. Want to be slightly sexy and attractive but in a subtle way. I need to think more about accessories and finishing the outfit off - just being a bit more polished. I'm at that age that it could all go a bit wrong - especially with my menopausal tendencies - and I'm determined not to let myself go. It's not just about being slim or losing weight - it's about how I present myself, grooming, health and confidence.
    I have regular hair appointments (been grey since my early twenties and it's a constant battle) and am now exercising regularly but I could eat better and think more about skin care. I use moisturiser and do the occasional face mask but I need my eyebrows professionally sorting and I think I lack the little bit of "finishing off" if you know what I mean. I'm not the sort to spend hours preening but I do like to look nice and need to make a bit more of an effort to fight the ageing process. I'm a size 10/12 depending on the shop and the time of the month so not hugely overweight but would like to be more toned. I've noticed in the last year that my arms are starting to look wobbly (not quite bingo wings but on the way) and my previously always flat stomach is developing a "menopause belly" (when I put on weight it usually goes on my bum, hips and legs). Since being on my medication, my chest has changed size and shape (smaller and saggier) and I'm not a fan.
    So, I need to take action.
    • Starmummy
    • By Starmummy 14th Aug 18, 2:10 PM
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    It's interesting you talking about wanting to feel a bit more polished. It's something I'm conscious I need to work on too. People seem to think I am a lot younger than I am, not personality wise but in appearance and I could probably pin that on my lack of polish. while being thought of as youthful is a complement I do think it hinders me professionally when I'm mistaken for early twenties rather than a respectable 30 year old.

    I bought a gorgeous jacket recently in the sale and i've yet to take the lable off as I always get scared that looking polished will make me look like I'm wearing a costume rather than naturaly elegant.
    I think I need a stylist :rofl:
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    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 15th Aug 18, 10:54 AM
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    I too need a stylist!!
    I was talking to OH about it all last night and he was really lovely and very complimentary about me. He also told me that one of his friends had told him that he was lucky to have me and I was fabulous! Nice of him to say but I'm not sure why they were talking about me ......

    I'm definitely not fabulous today - the stomach trouble is continuing (not the most attractive of conditions!) and I'm a bit worried that it's a recurrence of the C diff infection I had last year. Could really do without that but the symptoms are the same, not pleasant. I have a telephone appointment with a nice doctor this afternoon - don't want to go into the surgery and spread it around if it is that again. The receptionist was unusually helpful when I explained! Fingers crossed it's just a run of the mill bug and will pass.
    Stayed at OHs last night but I'm home now after taking the dog to the park, the fresh air did me good.
    I've cancelled my afternoon out with my friend - I might feel better by then but don't want to take the chance being out and about whilst being iffy. She was very understanding and we'll rearrange.

    Not sure what the day will bring yet - just pottering about at home until I know how I feel I suppose. Have a bit of tidying I can do and I might do a bit of work. We'll see .......
    • joeyjimbles
    • By joeyjimbles 15th Aug 18, 3:59 PM
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    Poor you. That sounds debilitating. Do keep hydrated as an upset tummy can be very dehydrating, dioralyte or similar if you can stomach it or glucose tablets/lucozade and water if not - and a little bit of something salty even a cracker or a couple of crisps.
    Fingers crossed the GP can help put your mind at rest if not sort something out for you.
    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 15th Aug 18, 8:01 PM
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    Hope you feel better soon MT. Sounds unpleasant and I have everything crossed that it isn't C.diff.
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    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 15th Aug 18, 8:34 PM
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    Thank you Joey and Cat. I'm feeling much better now. Symptoms are subsiding and I've ventured out to the vet and park this afternoon.
    When I had C diff before it was absolutely horrible and I was off work for ages. Just couldn't leave the house.
    The doctor will send a prescription to the chemist for me if its not completely back to normal (ish) tomorrow. I just need to ring the receptionist and she'll sort it. I think it's probably just a bug but with my new job and a holiday in a week I need to be ok!! Fingers crossed the improvement continues.

    On a positive note, I've finished watching the entire set of Grace and Frankie - really enjoyed it. Hope they're making a new series.

    A bit more telly, an early night and lots of water will hopefully miraculously heal me by tomorrow
    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 16th Aug 18, 9:33 AM
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    Morning all!
    Thankfully, am almost back to normal now. Slept really badly though - up and down all night with the usual tablet related issues. Getting very fed up of that side of things now. Constantly boiling or freezing all night.....
    Never mind, it's a new day now.

    Have just taken the dog for a good walk (very slowly as he only has one speed these days) - no park today as it tipped down in the night and it will be too wet and mucky.
    Going to do some work this morning - haven't felt the urge over the last couple of days but need to crack on today. Will see how I get on and then maybe do a couple of errands if I get fed up with working. Not sure if I'm quite up to a run yet - will see how I feel later and maybe do a short test run of 3km or so just to see how I get on.
    Right, no more procrastination - get on with it woman!
    • crazy_cat_lady
    • By crazy_cat_lady 16th Aug 18, 9:41 AM
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    Pleased you're feeling better MT
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    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 16th Aug 18, 1:29 PM
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    Thanks Cat. Still improving ..... Fingers crossed xx

    Have spent the entire morning working, trying to get my head around the new school systems, what needs doing and working out my teaching groups and timetable etc.
    It's a bit of a scary prospect - the unknown - but once I start I'm sure I'll be fine.
    Have had enough of it for now though - need to do something else for a while.

    Might see OH later - he's having a golf lesson this morning - but if not I'll have to think of something to do to get me out of the house for a while. Starting to get a bit bored with my own company.
    Have a few errands to do so might get on with them......
    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 16th Aug 18, 4:12 PM
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    Been out and about, running some errands. Picked up the dry cleaning, bought some euros and holiday toiletries and have taken the dog to the park whilst it's dry.
    Came home and cleaned and tidied the kitchen, watered the plants and then decided to wipe down the paintwork throughout the hall and stairs. It looks better but will be on the list for redecoration in the next 6 months.

    Going out for an early drink with OH and the dog about 6 and then he's cooking dinner for us. Won't stay over tonight as he has a very early golf match tomorrow and needs a proper sleep and that's something I'm not very good at this week .....

    Feel more like myself now - physically much better but more on the ball and getting things done.
    Off into the bath to make myself look presentable and not like I've spent the best part of two days in the toilet
    • joeyjimbles
    • By joeyjimbles 16th Aug 18, 4:29 PM
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    Glad that you're feeling better, it can really take it out of you. And coupled with the disturbed sleeps (me too, I feel your pain) it must have been doubly bad as you don't even get to have a proper rest at night.
    Have spent today redecorating our utility room which has been a need for quite a while. It's going to look so much better but will take til the morning for some of the paint to be fully dry. Hoping that the animals won't invade before then.
    Still need to do the cupboard where the recycling and washing machine live but that needs plaster for the walls and a major sort out so I'm hoping OH doesn't decide to do it this weekend. I've got other projects that I'd like to do that don't involve quite as much dust. I have one large room of doom that needs sorting but it's going to take days of sorting and I just can't face it. I need to ambush myself into tackling it; I do that sometimes, just sidle up to a task and sort a bit which turns into sorting it all.
    Have a major haul for the charity shop and am about to venture onto Depop to sell some of DS1's funkier cast offs in the hope that they make more than eBay would.
    • mumblingtaff
    • By mumblingtaff 17th Aug 18, 8:10 AM
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    Well done on the decorating Joey! I always regret starting it when I'm half way through but am pleased and feel quite smug when it's done!

    Have woken up to a bit of a relapse - I have a phone appointment with the doctor around 10am to hopefully sort it out. Slept a little bit better last night so don't feel ill other than the stomach issues. I'm not going to let it get me down though - I'm thinking of it as a pre-holiday diet and hopefully it will subside quickly with antibiotics as it's not nearly as bad as it got last time (yet).

    Need to get a few jobs done today - cleaning the conservatory, possibly cutting the grass if it stays dry, sorting my driving licence, a bit of ironing and some form of gentle exercise. I'm rubbish at sitting around so will take it fairly easy but still be productive.

    Right, I think it's safe to venture out to the park for a dog walk (fingers crossed!) - better get going .......
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