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    • PositivelyPerturbed
    • By PositivelyPerturbed 10th Mar 18, 7:47 PM
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    Miserable first time buyer with buyers remorse
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    Miserable first time buyer with buyers remorse 10th Mar 18 at 7:47 PM
    Spent all afternoon making myself ill and crying which is totally counter productive so figured I'd come onto here for some guidance and proactive words instead.
    My husband and I scrimped and saved to buy our first house. We had no help from anyone and we have rented and lived in many hovels and dumps over the years. We moved to a much cheaper area and bought a fixed upper. We got it for a decent price and viewed it twice. It backs onto the A470 motorway in Wales. We have lived in busy city centres and by main roads before so we are not hypersensitive to noise. We have lived here for a week and had double glazing installed before we moved in. However, I am finding it insufferable and miserable living here as we failed to hear or notice the damn cattle grid that is about 30ft from the back of our house and making a heck of a racquet day and night :-( I feel ill just being here. I am already looking at secondary glazing as a matter of urgency and my husband is going to cement all around the new windows internally tomorrow instead of the expanding foam. I feel like we have made the most expensive mistake of our lives though.
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    • Mickygg
    • By Mickygg 10th Mar 18, 8:11 PM
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    Secondary or triple Glaxing may help.

    Unfortunately as I found out when you view a house you don't notice the noise level. It's a different ball game when you are laying in bed and then hear the noise.

    You do get used to the noise. I lived near a main road and I zone out to the noise when in the garden.

    Until you get used to the noise and stop you going mad put the radio on, turn tv up loud, invest in some noise cancelling headphones. This way you well get some rest from the noise.

    However backing on to an A road (a motorway is another level) you can't get away from the noise. Give it time, then if still terrible you'll have no option but to move.
    • HampshireH
    • By HampshireH 10th Mar 18, 8:12 PM
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    The cattle grid will be like any other noise. You will adjust to it.

    I lived right on a train line. 1st 2 weeks were hell. 3am every morning a freight train went past and then the other started.

    2 weeks in and I didn't even notice it anymore
    • pinkshoes
    • By pinkshoes 10th Mar 18, 8:18 PM
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    You are being over-sensitive and daft.

    Week 1 noises are annoying, but give it a couple of months and you won't even notice them.

    You are spending too much time an energy focusing on this, and should instead be making it feel like your home.

    I live under an RAF flight path. It drove me NUTS to begin with, but now I quite like all the random aircraft overhead.

    The most annoying noise is my husband's snoring if he has had too much beer...
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    • rach_k
    • By rach_k 10th Mar 18, 8:31 PM
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    As others have said, you'll get used to it, although it doesn't feel like it now.

    I'd always lived next to very busy roads with single glazed windows so thought I was pretty insensitive to noise... until we moved into our current house which is on a fairly quiet little street but has a guy with scrap metal trucks living opposite us. The trucks being started and warmed up every morning, then leaving and returning every few hours drove me up the wall for the first few months and I felt like we'd made a huge mistake. I felt awful but couldn't do anything about it. A few months later, I didn't hear it any more. Just give it some time.
    • ACG
    • By ACG 10th Mar 18, 8:36 PM
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    I moved to a place once on one of the main roads in to Manchester city centre. It was horrible for 2-3 weeks.

    After that I started to sleep through it.

    If the property is a fixer upper, get it fixed up and sell it on. Rather than look at it as a long term investment, just look at it as something for the next 6-12 months.
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    • Fosterdog
    • By Fosterdog 10th Mar 18, 8:36 PM
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    I'm very noise sensitive and my one house had a trainline on one side with just one other terraced house in between and a pub with a loud extractor fan two doors down in the other direction, the main road through the village running in front of the house, and they all drove me nuts for the first few months but you do eventually get used to it and in time you stop even noticing it.
    • Pa Ja
    • By Pa Ja 10th Mar 18, 8:51 PM
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    As others have said, your tolerance levels will adjust, the noise will become second nature. Give it time.
    And I strongly advise you don't throw anymore money at attempting to sound proof your house as you will no doubt still be able to hear the sound and you'll be feeling worse for it.
    • Bogof_Babe
    • By Bogof_Babe 10th Mar 18, 9:00 PM
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    When I worked in a hotel the live-in accommodation was about 50 metres from a church, whose bells chimed every 15 minutes day and night, and gonged the count of each hour, so if I was asleep at midnight I was immediately wide awake. But after a few weeks I never noticed it and slept right through.

    Give it a while, and try not to anguish yourself about it, it's not going to change anything if you have a breakdown.
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    • PositivelyPerturbed
    • By PositivelyPerturbed 10th Mar 18, 9:07 PM
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    I hope you're right about me adjusting to the noise - my earplugs aren't even helping and I feel tired and fed up. On top of that, our puppy is being the devil incarnate, bless him. Why is house buying so bloody horrendous in this country?!
    • DavidF
    • By DavidF 10th Mar 18, 9:14 PM
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    The main point here being don't fight it...give in to it, by all means install secondary glazing ect but after that then just leave it, Concentrate on your vision, get to know your neighbors...say hello, it all helps your state of mind.
    • Thrugelmir
    • By Thrugelmir 10th Mar 18, 9:18 PM
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    My husband and I scrimped and saved to buy our first house. We had no help from anyone and we have rented and lived in many hovels and dumps over the years. We moved to a much cheaper area and bought a fixed upper. We got it for a decent price
    Originally posted by PositivelyPerturbed
    Then look at the positives. You own this property. It's your home. You are now on the first rungs of the property ladder. Scrimp and save to pay down the mortgage as quickly as you able. Then you'll create an opportunity to move on.

    Is it possible to sleep at the front of the house? The difference in sound can be quite noticable between the back and front.
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    • shortcrust
    • By shortcrust 10th Mar 18, 9:34 PM
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    I agree with those saying youíll get used to it. Iím on a rat run so quiet except for a couple of hours each side of the day. The morning noise drove me mad at first. When the road was recently blocked for emergency work so zero traffic I didnít even notice!
    • PokerPlayer111
    • By PokerPlayer111 10th Mar 18, 9:45 PM
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    You could rent it out and go and rent somewhere else, you still own 1 property as a result. No financial error would be made this way. Or if you can do it up and sell it.

    I find neighbour noise the worst myself.
    • ProDave
    • By ProDave 10th Mar 18, 9:48 PM
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    Just a simple practical suggestion.

    Try a different bedroom (sorry if it's a 1 bedroom house)

    You may have chosen the bedroom you are using because it is the largest, or has the best view, or gets the morning sun. But if there is an alternative bedroom on the other side of the house not facing the road, you may find that a whole lot better.

    I lived the first 23 years of my life on a busy road with a front bedroom facing the road. When my older sister moved out to go to college, I was able to swap to the back bedroom away from the road and things were a whole lot better.
    • Baby Angel
    • By Baby Angel 10th Mar 18, 9:56 PM
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    My OH snores loudly even when he doesn't drink. No moving is going to help. I got used to it about 22 years ago. It always takes a few weeks to get used to it. Like others have said you will not notice it later.
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    • StumpyPumpy
    • By StumpyPumpy 10th Mar 18, 10:03 PM
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    There is certainly an aspect of being in a new house making lots of things sound strange or irritating and you often get used to them in time, but I don't think that you are in any way being "over-sensitive and daft".

    I would suggest that before deciding on anything potentially expensive like extra glazing give yourself some time to adjust. There is the possibility that with the sort of noise you are witnessing is not going to be resolved by those measures as it could be coming through the ground and walls. It might also be worth investigating whether the council have a policy on the cattle grids, they may be just noisy or they might need some servicing that may make them more quiet.

    Oh, and for everyone saying "you'll get used to the sound": I lived for over 25 years within earshot of a major motorway when the wind was in the right direction and I absolutely never got used to it.

    Come on people, it's not difficult: lose means to be unable to find, loose means not being fixed in place. So if you have a hole in your pocket you might lose your loose change.
    • NeilCr
    • By NeilCr 10th Mar 18, 10:23 PM
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    I was actually the other way round. I used to live on a very busy London main artery. Buses - emergency vehicles all night - drunks on their way home from the pub. And the gates to the car park were right next to my flat!

    I moved down by the sea to a gated estate where, literally, it's so quiet you can hear a pin drop. Well at leat until thef seagulls get up in the morning.

    Took me a week or two to get used to it. As others have said I am sure you will, too.
    • SuperMoose
    • By SuperMoose 10th Mar 18, 10:29 PM
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    My OH snores loudly even when he doesn't drink. No moving is going to help. I got used to it about 22 years ago. It always takes a few weeks to get used to it. Like others have said you will not notice it later.
    Originally posted by Baby Angel
    It will if only one of you moves
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    • JennyP
    • By JennyP 10th Mar 18, 10:51 PM
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    Until recently I lived very happily on a boat under the Heathrow flight path. The first night I was woken at 4.30 by the first morning flight. Thought the aliens were landing on the boat it was so loud. After a short period, I just slept through it. Like other people have said, you tune stuff out.
    And worst case scenario, if you don't, you could look at different glazing options for your bedroom. My closest friend works in acoustics - there are lots of options!
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