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    • Mark300zx
    • By Mark300zx 9th Mar 18, 12:25 PM
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    Being charged for my own suit, Usher at Wedding??
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    • 9th Mar 18, 12:25 PM
    Being charged for my own suit, Usher at Wedding?? 9th Mar 18 at 12:25 PM
    Please move if in the wrong forum?

    Scenario is as above, asked to be an Usher at a Wedding, told to go and measure up for a hire suit. Then receive a text from the groom with three weeks to go, can I have 120 for the suit hire please?

    Any other weddings I have been to and helped have included any joint suit hire at their expense, just to clarify the groom is a multi millionaire, if they were on the bones of their backside I wouldn't have a problem!
    Last edited by Mark300zx; 09-03-2018 at 12:42 PM.
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    • tommix
    • By tommix 10th Mar 18, 11:06 AM
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    When I got married I paid for everybody's clothes..It made for a very happy and emotional day..Even the cake was in tiers.
    • Trina90
    • By Trina90 10th Mar 18, 11:07 AM
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    We did ask our Ushers and Bridesmaids to pay for their own. I've paid for my own dress twice before as a Bridesmaid and never thought it was cheeky of the Bride and Groom. The way I see it is 100 contribution from each person, or the Bride and Groom having to pay a huge amount (600 if they have 3 groomsmen, 3 bridesmaids!). Alright, it is their wedding, but it seems to be forgotten that they are paying out 50-100 just to feed you, and possibly your other half, another 20+ on your thank you gift, probably paying for some of your drinks as well.
    So even with your small contribution, they will be shelling out on you more (rightfully so of course).

    Just the way I see it anyway!
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    • marcus ohreallius
    • By marcus ohreallius 10th Mar 18, 12:08 PM
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    And Marley's not likely to wear his suit "again and again", the next outing for the suit could well be his eventual funeral
    Originally posted by Tigsteroonie


    Gotta have a suit in the cupboard, IMO. Job interviews, other people's weddings.. funerals posh night out somewhere.. You never know when you might need to look smart, at quite short notice.
    • cjdavies
    • By cjdavies 10th Mar 18, 3:37 PM
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    We did ask our Ushers and Bridesmaids to pay for their own. I've paid for my own dress twice before as a Bridesmaid and never thought it was cheeky of the Bride and Groom. The way I see it is 100 contribution from each person, or the Bride and Groom having to pay a huge amount (600 if they have 3 groomsmen, 3 bridesmaids!). Alright, it is their wedding, but it seems to be forgotten that they are paying out 50-100 just to feed you, and possibly your other half, another 20+ on your thank you gift, probably paying for some of your drinks as well.
    So even with your small contribution, they will be shelling out on you more (rightfully so of course).

    Just the way I see it anyway!
    Originally posted by Trina90
    Even then it's your choice to have that type wedding. Registry office, 2 witnesses, job done.
    • Tigsteroonie
    • By Tigsteroonie 10th Mar 18, 3:43 PM
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    Cousin on Marley's side is getting married, I think they have planned half-a-dozen bridesmaids and as many male supporters/ushers. I haven't asked whose paying for what, I just shuddered at the thought of the cost - we've been on MSE too long!
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    • Dreamnine
    • By Dreamnine 10th Mar 18, 8:08 PM
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    • Norman Castle
    • By Norman Castle 10th Mar 18, 8:10 PM
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    Charge them 120 for being an usher.
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    • marcus ohreallius
    • By marcus ohreallius 10th Mar 18, 8:40 PM
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    I really don't get the matching bridesmaids thing. Why is it important? Do people usually buy them or rent them? Buying them seems like a huge waste of money.
    Originally posted by Penitent
    My sister-in-law bought her bridesmaid dresses from Monsoon, about 100 each! And got annoyed when they wanted to put a cardigan on over them The wedding was in November and it was bluddy brass monkeys outside.
    • ska lover
    • By ska lover 11th Mar 18, 11:49 AM
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    I would text back and him to shove it, to be honest.

    The blokes a millionaire so it makes it worse than usual....
    The opposite of what you know...is also true
    • MothballsWallet
    • By MothballsWallet 11th Mar 18, 12:37 PM
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    Charge them 120 for being an usher.
    Originally posted by Norman Castle
    I agree - I'd also charge them a fee for not reporting them to the tax man

    I would text back and him to shove it, to be honest.

    The blokes a millionaire so it makes it worse than usual....
    Originally posted by ska lover
    I'd be making an anonymous call to HMRC to report the groom on suspicions of tax evasion...
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    • Owain Moneysaver
    • By Owain Moneysaver 11th Mar 18, 1:17 PM
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    I'd be making an anonymous call to HMRC to report the groom on suspicions of tax evasion...
    Originally posted by MothballsWallet
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    • MothballsWallet
    • By MothballsWallet 11th Mar 18, 1:36 PM
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    The customs hotline is even more fun if they're coming back from an exotic honeymoon.
    Originally posted by Owain Moneysaver
    It'd be really funny if the bride's only marrying the groom because of his bank balance
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    • Sleazy
    • By Sleazy 11th Mar 18, 4:20 PM
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    It'd be really funny if the bride's only marrying the groom because of his bank balance
    Originally posted by MothballsWallet

    Maybe he's not too hot at maths and has added a couple of extra zero's by mistake ....
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    • MothballsWallet
    • By MothballsWallet 11th Mar 18, 4:28 PM
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    Maybe he's not too hot at maths and has added a couple of extra zero's by mistake ....
    Originally posted by Sleazy
    To his bank balance or something else?
    Always ask yourself one question: What would Gibbs do?

    I live in the UK City of Culture 2021

    I had to put mothballs in my wallet - the moths had learned the PINs to my cards...
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