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    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 2nd Mar 18, 11:40 PM
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    2019 Wedding
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    • 2nd Mar 18, 11:40 PM
    2019 Wedding 2nd Mar 18 at 11:40 PM
    I was looking for a post for any 2019 weddings but couldn't find one!

    We've been together since May 2009 and engaged since January 2010. H2B got a nice bonus at Christmas so now is able to pay for his divorce and have a nice amount to go towards the wedding. I'm saving my half.

    I think we are aiming for a budget of 3000 but going to save around 4000. We're hoping to have all the money saved by December.

    We've been looking at venue's and other things we're being realistic and not booking anything until the divorce comes through, but hoping we'll know exactly what we want so that we can get on and book things when it does.

    Hoping to catch up with any other 2019 brides/grooms

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    April
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    30th - FanDango
    Last edited by kdalwayskint; Yesterday at 5:54 PM. Reason: Added dates :)
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    • Financialwizard
    • By Financialwizard 6th Aug 18, 2:14 PM
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    Financialwizard
    kd I am tired but slowly getting there. Got a GP appointment tomorrow hopefully (phone). Everything else going alright.
    Mtg Balance 147,000 : Savings 7,000 / 10,000

    Getting married in October 2018
    • apricity
    • By apricity 7th Aug 18, 7:28 PM
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    Hey guys,
    24th may is my birthday!
    Nice date

    Quick update;
    I went on a wedding break as I lost my job
    but got a new job which i start next monday so things are all good.
    I put 100 away in savings to wedding, it's 52% completed now!

    My mum keeps asking me why i want to get married , why i'm in a hurry...
    Its the same thing when I talk about the wedding. It's almost been a year since we were engaged.

    I'm starting wedding planning again i think .
    SPC 2018 *updating*
    Emergency Fund - 100.00 bank account / 1,000 | 20 / 100 cash
    Wedding - 1,260 (47%) / 2,500
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 7th Aug 18, 10:11 PM
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    Hi

    Financialwizard - hope things are sorted for you soon.

    Apricity - glad you've managed to get another job sorted out and can get back to wedding savings. I would say it's up to you and your fiance when the time is right to get married.

    Our wedding date is special to us, it's our 10 year anniversary, we first met not on 24th May 2009 and will be getting married 24th May 2019

    Last weekend we went to The R@nge and bought some artificial flowers, peonies and pastel blue and pink gerbras, but the gerbras weren't quite the right colours so I took them back and placed an order online for some artificial cornflowers, which I'm hoping will be delivered in the next day or two.

    We picked up a couple of little bouquets from a charity shop today which will be for H2B's daughters, white roses and purple flowers, the purple ones look a bit naff so I'll take them out and add some of the cornflowers

    H2B has ordered his waistcoat today, I think he's going for waistcoat and trousers rather than jacket and trousers. He's not sure if he wants to have a bow tie or a tie, but he's seen a pocket hanky thing that he likes so may match it to that. He's going to wear his tan broghes which are very smart and he's only worn them a couple of times

    I think I've decided on white shoes. I haven't seen just the right blue ones!

    Not sure what to do next, someone give me a clue
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
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    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
    Credit Card 2200/2500
    • apricity
    • By apricity 8th Aug 18, 10:03 AM
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    I also hope things get better for you, FW!

    Aww that is so cute! Bless you!
    That makes perfect sense

    We won't be able to get married on our anniversary because it'll be way too hot for us to cope and I don't want to be a stroppy, moody bride aha

    Whoa - you've done a lot!
    I'm also wearing white sparkly shoes but may buy a pair of custom vans to swap into in the evening.

    Well i just said to my mum that it feels right for us,
    I explained also that my f.h wants to feel that he's "done things properly" as
    his parents are engaged but have been for 20+ years and no intention of getting married.
    I think he wants me to know its real and he does want to settle down & have children
    (he wants to be married first)

    It's just upsetting that She KEEPS asking "why" and trying to get me to come up with a reasonable answer. Just be happy for me. for once.

    What about ceremony music or decorations ?
    Invites?
    SPC 2018 *updating*
    Emergency Fund - 100.00 bank account / 1,000 | 20 / 100 cash
    Wedding - 1,260 (47%) / 2,500
    • Financialwizard
    • By Financialwizard 8th Aug 18, 1:12 PM
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    Financialwizard
    kdalwayskint - Thank you. They have come back with increased meds so in a couple of weeks I am hoping I am whizzing around like I used to ... poor f.h

    apricity - Tell your mother that you are getting married for both of your legal security. Whilst I agree that love is extremely important in marriage - it is a legal contract that ensures your entitlement to certain benefits if your spouse dies that unmarried partners do not get, and as you want to have children it is important to secure their future. Or tell her to butt out!

    Am feeling tired today, had another row with my Mum about the fact I want my daughter as a bridesmaid. Can't win, and Mum is exhausting me! Why do weddings bring the worst out in people? Not long now though, so it will soon be over and we will be husband and wife
    Mtg Balance 147,000 : Savings 7,000 / 10,000

    Getting married in October 2018
    • elleJay42
    • By elleJay42 8th Aug 18, 2:17 PM
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    elleJay42
    Hello, we had a really productive weekend! 2 of 3 bridesmaids have their dresses (1 is 6 months pregnant so we'll have to sort that closer to the time) and I got my dress on Monday!

    My family's save the dates have gone back home with my sister and his will be handed out next weekend when we see his family

    I've had a wee try of making a bouquet and I think I'm happy enough with it. I would post a picture but I don't know how... they're paper pinwheels and super cute I think

    I woke up yesterday having a panic attack that I'd ordered the bridesmaid dresses in the wrong colour but I checked the sample with one of the pinwheels and it was perfect, phew!!
    Total debt at LBM = 4861.03

    DFBXmas2018 #91 - 2677.14 / 3500 (76.5%)

    HTB ISA - 0 withdrawn for house purchase!
    Wedding Fund 1250 / 5000
    • apricity
    • By apricity 9th Aug 18, 11:33 AM
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    Yeah well I just told her it feels right for us. I didn't want to bring money into it as when we first got together, she and a friend accused him of stealing money from me when he was transferring money TO me as I paid for his lunch one time. didn't want to have a lecture or her to go off on one.

    FW - Bless you. try and take some time to relax and just tell her it's your wedding so you'll do it any way you please & will have anyone you want as bridesmaid. I personally think it's really sweet!



    My Update
    Last night i couldn't sleep so I was browsing ideas,
    I was thinking of having a pizza bar with a range of different pizzas
    (When I asked my F.H what 3 things he wanted at the wedding , one of them was Pizza)
    And thought Pizza would be a homage to how we first met (Left him a message on tinder saying "Howdy what pizza toppings? - it said he loved pizza) With a few sides such as onion rings etc. which is a little easier than a buffet . Will have to run this through with the F.H

    Then looked for cakes & some stuff for the candy bar;
    The idea was that instead of favors, guests can do a pick'n'mix bag to take home instead,
    as well as that, i'll be buying food containers so guests can take home any left over food - i hate waste !

    Our theme was Disney in general but now I feel like just doing it star wars themed... My F.H collects star wars stuff and I am loving all the photos i've seen of this theme, but I was gonna throw in some little princessy things if my F.H agrees on changing the theme. Colours will stay the same (Navy,red,gold & white)

    I started writing a playlist for the party & today will have to call a mobile bar hire service as the F.H said he'd prefer guests to pay for their drinks rather than to get them to bring their own. The price lists for the drinks are cheap , but it's the actual hire cost I am worried about. He did say to put a few bottles of cheap (but good) wine on the tables , was thinking of having a non-alcoholic version too.

    Stuck on what to do for a photo booth... part of me wants to hire one and let them deal with the stress.Part of me feels that because i purchased a lot of photo prop (the ones on sticks to hold up) that i should buy either a polaroid or a mini printer... the photobooth hire is winning as the other option is working out to be costly with the amount of refills and buying the equitment.

    Also, deciding who is bridesmaid is a headache for me.
    I have 3 adults decided and I want my 3 cousins but worried that family will kick off as my older cousin & her mum isn't invited which may lead to them not coming. Don't know how to approach this and say to my family that the cousin & auntie aren't invited. my nan said if they weren't she wouldn't come & I can imagine my other uncle&auntie (with the children) won't come - its the sister of my uncle.

    Wanting it to be October to book a date , finally to get things rolling.
    SPC 2018 *updating*
    Emergency Fund - 100.00 bank account / 1,000 | 20 / 100 cash
    Wedding - 1,260 (47%) / 2,500
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 9th Aug 18, 9:08 PM
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    kdalwayskint
    H2B's waistcoat has arrived, he loves it and he looks gorgeous in it, he's decided he wants to have trousers to match, he wasn't sure about it before as it is grey tweed check and he thought he might prefer plain colored ones. He's picked out the blue in the check to match his accessories, for tie and pocket hanky, I think I'll get him to get the tie and the bow tie to see which suits him best.

    Not sure what to get for my son and grandson to wear, don't know whether to go for plain grey tweed waistcoat with black trousers or the same as H2B's waistcoat with black trousers.

    The cornflowers have arrived and I'm very happy with them so I'll be playing with them and making up the table arrangements as well as adding some to the little bouquets and try making a bouquet for myself and possibly a few button holes, think I need to make 4 of those.

    I think I'll have another look at invitations, the samples I ordered a few months ago were great quality. Both H2B and me are going to do an open invitation to our work colleagues to come in the evening so I may look at doing a poster or FB invite, not sure about that though.

    It's nice to get things going and telling people we're getting married

    Hope everyone is doing well, catch you all soon x
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
    DFW Nerd #1155
    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
    Credit Card 2200/2500
    • apricity
    • By apricity 10th Aug 18, 1:14 PM
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    apricity
    I found a photographer for 475 but not booked yet , she's penciled us in though.
    Need to get the F.h to look at the photos. I'm not sure whether to go with her or not.
    There doesn't seem to be that spark but if we don't find anyone we like.

    The f.h is on board with everything now so we'll be having a pizza bar with a few sides &
    the theme is now star wars.

    kdalwayskint, you're doing so well!
    I would go with black trousers but the same wasitcoat - if you want everything 'matching'
    but have the groom stand out?
    SPC 2018 *updating*
    Emergency Fund - 100.00 bank account / 1,000 | 20 / 100 cash
    Wedding - 1,260 (47%) / 2,500
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 10th Aug 18, 10:06 PM
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    apricity - That's what I was thinking, with regards to the waistcoats and having H2B stand out a bit.

    H2B and I get stressed about different things, he's a little stressed about the wedding, where I am laid back about it. Today I was highly stressed about my phone! Been trying to get my number transferred to a new provider and it's proving to be a bit of a mare, we even went into town to get it sorted with not much success to the point I cried - how stupid is that!

    Anyway H2B used distraction tactics and took me into the nearest jewellers to look at sparkly things! Bit of a result there, I tried on a few rings, a couple that I'd seen online and wanted to look at. They have ordered one in for me to look at too, had to pay a deposit of 25 which can be refunded if I don't like it, it will be in store on Wednesday but it will be next Saturday before we'll be able to go back into town.

    Catch you soon x
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
    DFW Nerd #1155
    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
    Credit Card 2200/2500
    • apricity
    • By apricity 13th Aug 18, 7:12 AM
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    apricity
    Oh KD!
    I hope things regarding your phone is sorted now!
    What a total pain! Ah, it happens. I've probably cried over much more silly things than that before.

    My f.h isn't too bothered about the wedding and is totally relaxed about it.
    As long as there's me, cake and pizza at the wedding, He's good to go aha

    WE HAVE ENOUGH for the legal stuff.
    I asked my f.h if he wants to get married on the friday and have a party on th saturday or do both on the saturday (Our reception venue only allows full use of all rooms on a saturday) and he decided he wants it on friday & saturday.

    We'll be looking to book a date next month now as We do have enough but it'll be a year when we book nexxt month. Plus changing from saturday to friday saves us a lot of money...put it this way, I now have 83 to go towards something else now instead of having to save a further 33 to have enough for all legal fees, total of reception & deposit!!

    Ahhhh! It's starting to hit me now
    SPC 2018 *updating*
    Emergency Fund - 100.00 bank account / 1,000 | 20 / 100 cash
    Wedding - 1,260 (47%) / 2,500
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 13th Aug 18, 9:44 PM
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    Brilliant news apricity

    Where are you all up to with your planning?

    Our planning so far

    Outfits -
    H2B'S trousers arrived today, he had a trying on session this evening. He now just needs to buy a new shirt and matching tie, pocket corner and cufflinks. He wants his best man to have the same waistcoat as him and my son to have something different.
    I just need to find shoes and something for my hair.
    We both want new undies too

    Cake - Waiting for the school holidays to finish so that I can chat with the school cook about prices etc, we've already spoken to someone else so we have a price comparison and we have looked at M&S price of wedding cake too. I think cake is covered.

    Registry Office - Booked, nothing to worry about at the moment, need to give notice but there's plenty of time to do it.

    Reception Venue - The chap we need to speak with is currently on his honeymoon and not back at work until the beginning of September, which gives us a chance to get a list of questions together.

    Rings -
    Me - refundable deposit paid to order one in for a better look.
    H2B - having a coin ring made, paid for the coin so far.

    Photographer - Provisionally booked, need to pay a deposit and firm this up.

    Colour scheme & theme - sorted a while a go, white and blue with rustic look.

    Flowers - table arrangements and bridesmaids posies pretty much sorted, might need a little help with my bouquet.

    I think that's it at the moment, I expect things will start gaining pace soon. I'd like to get the invitations sorted sooner rather than later.

    Catch you all soon
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
    DFW Nerd #1155
    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
    Credit Card 2200/2500
    • Cookieie
    • By Cookieie 14th Aug 18, 4:38 PM
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    Cookieie
    Hello everyone,

    I'm a 2019 bride also!

    Super excited & love planning & re-searching for the big day.
    If anyone has any helpful tips & advise, please feel free to share with me!
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 14th Aug 18, 7:56 PM
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    Hey Cookieie, welcome

    Nothing to update today!
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
    DFW Nerd #1155
    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
    Credit Card 2200/2500
    • apricity
    • By apricity 14th Aug 18, 8:42 PM
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    Hey cookieie ! When's your big day?

    Where are you all up to with your planning?
    Theme : Star Wars
    Colours : Navy, White, Red
    Dress - This dress
    Shoes - These shoes
    * Ordered 10 plastic scoops for candy bar
    * Have 26 (?) plastic bowls for candy or table snacks etc
    * some small decorations & balloons


    nothing booked. I'm currently looking at wedding invitations or ideas to create them myself.

    Have loads to think about ;

    - He'd like the ceremony on the friday & Reception on the Saturday due to difference in price
    Not sure what day to book photographer on since reception is just jeans & t-shirt
    - can't afford to pay for everyone to share a meal with us in a resturant or for drinks on the friday.
    I'm sure our family would understand that we're on a small budget and wouldn't mind paying for themselves
    - We're going to hire a mobile bar however guests will need to pay for own drinks as we're on a tight budget too but may be able to see if we can put 300 behind the bar to limit the expense?
    - Loads of cool star wars stuff I've seen for the wedding , can't think of what to do for center pieces ?
    SPC 2018 *updating*
    Emergency Fund - 100.00 bank account / 1,000 | 20 / 100 cash
    Wedding - 1,260 (47%) / 2,500
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 15th Aug 18, 8:55 PM
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    Hi

    Your dress is pretty and those shoes look comfy apricity

    I've been looking for B&Bs near the Rugby Club this evening, I've found 7 within reasonable walking distance, the rugby club has said that they are happy for cars to be left overnight.

    Does anyone know what else I should add to an information sheet?

    We've had the message that the ring is in store, ready for me to go and try at the weekend I hope I like it just as much as I do on the internet.

    What wedding thing are you up to at the be moment?

    Catch you all soon x
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
    DFW Nerd #1155
    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
    Credit Card 2200/2500
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 15th Aug 18, 10:01 PM
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    Just wondering, would anyone like me to add a dates list to my beginning post, so we can see easily who is getting married when?
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
    DFW Nerd #1155
    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
    Credit Card 2200/2500
    • SavingAFuture
    • By SavingAFuture 16th Aug 18, 3:22 PM
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    SavingAFuture
    Hi All - another 2019 bride here! Our date is 29th June 2019.
    Feels a bit real now we've passed the "1 year to go" mark.

    I'm on MSE because I am trying to pay off my debts AND save for my wedding at the same time.
    It's a struggle but if I stay focused I can start my married life debt free. I have the most wonderful H2B and cannot wait to be his wife. If money was not object, we'd be married already!

    It'll be nice to share my journey with you all.
    Best wishes,
    SaF x
    Proudly on my debt free journey
    ~August NSD 4/12~
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    • Cookieie
    • By Cookieie 17th Aug 18, 12:46 PM
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    Cookieie
    Hi SavingAFuture!

    I agree with you 100% about money being no object. Its the only reason we've gone for Oct 2019, so we can save! Its a shame everything costs so much, but thats the real world sometimes!

    Good luck saving & paying off debits at the same time - if you have any advise for a future 2019 bride, please share!

    x
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 17th Aug 18, 9:47 PM
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    kdalwayskint
    H2B'S ring is here! It was much quicker than expected, and he's very pleased with it and under budget too!

    We're going to look at mine tomorrow, fingers crossed I like it

    I think we're going to send our invites in November (6 months before) but need to find out some info from the rugby club, I've got a list on the go and keep adding to it, I'll send an email to them at the end of August, the guy is on his honeymoon at the moment.

    Not much else going on at the moment. Hope everyone is doing ok x
    Saving for Christmas 2018 ~ 231.46/365
    Wedding Fund 1500/1500
    Car Fund 108.46/5000 ~ Bank of Mum 5000/5000 done
    DFW Nerd #1155
    LBM 25/2/09 Debt at highest 8,037.35 now 0
    Credit Card 2200/2500
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