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    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 2nd Mar 18, 11:40 PM
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    2019 Wedding
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    • 2nd Mar 18, 11:40 PM
    2019 Wedding 2nd Mar 18 at 11:40 PM
    I was looking for a post for any 2019 weddings but couldn't find one!

    We've been together since May 2009 and engaged since January 2010. H2B got a nice bonus at Christmas so now is able to pay for his divorce and have a nice amount to go towards the wedding. I'm saving my half.

    I think we are aiming for a budget of 3000 but going to save around 4000. We're hoping to have all the money saved by December.

    We've been looking at venue's and other things we're being realistic and not booking anything until the divorce comes through, but hoping we'll know exactly what we want so that we can get on and book things when it does.

    Hoping to catch up with any other 2019 brides/grooms

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    • apricity
    • By apricity 2nd Oct 18, 9:39 PM
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    apricity
    Aw I bet that was a nice day out !
    That would be good, plan it how you want that way.

    Flowers is a biggie for me too, I was gonna buy a bunch of sunflowers & Roses from the supermarket on the day or the night before and dressing them up with ribbon etc. BUT my dad's cousin could do my flowers... i'm unsure how much she'd cost.

    I use a similar way to track plus we're only paying the deposits now and paying the rest when we have everything all saved up.

    My dress
    Was an actual blessing in disguise that the other dress got lost as the new dress is big on top and my belly sticks out a little but I wasn't looking or feeling my best self when I tried the dress on so maybe when I try it on maybe with my sister and M.O.H there . The bottom is a little long on me, I think i'm slightly short for the dress. I do love it - it's just me and my 'mental' side - I'm having personal body issues ....

    my future hubby knows that I purchased a new dress but he won't look when i said it was okay to look. But he won't he doesn't want to , bless him (I didn't want him to see anyway)
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    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 3rd Oct 18, 10:10 PM
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    OMG!

    Do any of you have an idea of timings for your day?

    We have ordered our invitations for the wedding, and I was messing with the template for the evening invites and I put in 'from 7.30pm' and asked H2B what he thought, initially I was just asking about the design and layout but he said have you thought about the run of the day?

    We've had a chat about timings, but we aren't sure about it all, help!

    So far we have -
    2pm wedding
    3pm arrival drinks at the rugby club
    4pm food
    5pm speeches

    H2B doesn't think food will be an hour so between 4-5 could be food and speeches, but then what do we do with everyone from 5 until 7/7.30?

    Also, when do we do cake and first dance?

    This the first time we've just looked at each other and are a bit overwhelmed!

    Thanks in advance for any help and advice x
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    • joyknights
    • By joyknights 4th Oct 18, 2:30 AM
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    Congratulations in advance. 10 years is indeed worth the wait. Best wishes in advance!
    • apricity
    • By apricity 6th Oct 18, 9:18 PM
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    kdalwayskint i'm really sorry i'm not sure about timings,
    we've still got to do our marriage notice to get the basics of the day sorted.

    All i know is, i say "I do" and become his wife at 2:45pm lmao

    I designed our invites and RSVP cards , was massively impressed.

    I also emailed a few DJ's to ask for prices . I was going to do it ourselves but there would be too much to man by ourselves and i want my friends to enjoy the day and not worry about helping.

    I will need arrange a day to view our local hall before we book it as they want us to,
    they won't allow us to book it without seeing it.

    its been hard at the moment because he's had severe depression for the past week and i've held off from wedding planning with him for a while. I just want him to focus on getting better.

    i'm feeling i'm getting some tasks sorted finally.
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    • Roo89
    • By Roo89 8th Oct 18, 2:17 PM
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    Can finally join in this thread, as we've booked our wedding date, 12th October 2019.

    I'm very excited although does feel a bit odd as I still don't have an engagement ring, but H2B picked the date and the deposit has been paid so we're definitely getting married, guess we're just doing things a little out of the normal order lol

    We've been together 6 years, just bought our first house, and the wedding is the next step, we're having a twilight wedding in Kent, and I'm so excited!

    Booked our photographer too, which was a big deal for me as I'm very fussy with photography - I used to be a wedding photographer - next big thing is my dress
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 8th Oct 18, 9:58 PM
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    Congratulations Roo89 and welcome I've added you to the first post x
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    • apricity
    • By apricity 10th Oct 18, 11:59 AM
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    Hey Roo89 ! congrats
    eh, why be normal!

    Today I purchased 5 packs of 20 favor boxes for our guests to fill with the sweets from our candy bar , they were 1 for 20. I was originally looking for save the dates but paperchase only had evening invites and only 3 packets of 10 - i need between 80 and 100!

    I've hit another family crisis. my auntie & cousin stirred a few of my facebook posts and has now turned my whole entire family against me, my parents are not talking to me and don't believe me when i've sent them what i actually meant by the posts and how they've stirred it up to make me look bad.

    I guess it'll just be my future hubbys family & a few of my friends at our wedding now.
    Luckily, i view his side like my very own family. his mums been more like a mum to me than my own have. Nothing i can do will fix this situation so i'm letting myself part from my family. i'm here if they want me but i'm not going to go out of my way. damage is done and don't want anything to do with them. not even the nan i get on with because she too thought it was okay for what my dad did and called me unpleasant as she just read what my auntie and cousins posted about me and not what i sent my mum. oh well.

    I also purchased a few things for my bridal proposal bags - i have 'team bride' purses that i'd like to do a little emergency kit with.

    Also had a few quotes from Djs,
    #1 is 310 that can provide dj'ing with our choice of songs, confetti camera and lights/lasers
    #2 is 295 that can provide Dj'ing, lights and a photobooth with all the gear for it
    Will need to talk to the f.h about these but as he's started his new job today & recently got over his stint of depression, i don't want to overwhelm him.


    Both more expensive that i wanted but have now thought to myself that
    music, food & photography are more important to me than decorations.

    i actually don't see the point in spending loads on items that i will only ever use once for decor.
    I will have some but not excessive amounts.
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    • BeckyAP
    • By BeckyAP 10th Oct 18, 3:54 PM
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    Apricity glad to hear your OH is feeling better.
    When it comes to the DJ haggle!! I got a DJ quote through and said I couldn't really afford that so they brought it down by a bit.
    I would have paid the original price if I had to but managed to save me some pennies!!
    You're doing the right thing by not stressing about the family drama. A wedding is your day to share with who you want rather than expectations of who should and shouldn't be there.
    At my current guestlist rate, it's all my family (about 25 of us) and just a few of his because that's who he wants and so be it!

    kdalwayskint I've got a bit of a plan for timings - ceramony is at 4pm for half an hour. 1.5hr drinks/canapes reception with evening guest arriving from 6pm onwards.
    Food from 7ish and maybe cake/speaches from about 8/8.30.
    Having a later wedding means I've had a chance to plan more because I've got less to plan in!
    But also you can do whatever you want - if you want to cut the cake after the speeches because everyone's already there and listening then go for it!

    My OH has put himself in charge of the honeymoon planning. I think he's aiming to spend whatever money we have left from the budget on the honeymoon. There are so many places I'd love to go to, I'm not too fussed where we go. I have told him that I want to travel first class, even if it's just one way to see what's it like. It's never going to happen otherwise!
    • SavingAFuture
    • By SavingAFuture 11th Oct 18, 3:08 PM
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    For my timings plan I had to work backwards.
    Our venue is an early finish so all music must be off by 10:45 and guests out by 11:00 p.m. This means we've invited evening guests from 6:30 so they get a good amount of time at the party, with cake & first dance around 7 p.m.
    Since it's quite early we're having our ceremony at 12:00 to make the most of the day (the church is really near our house, so very little travelling time needed). Then it's just a case of deciding how much time to allocate for the bits in between (travel, arrival drinks, photos, food, speeches) and arranging accordingly. I don't know if this might work for you?
    Best,
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    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 12th Oct 18, 9:53 PM
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    Hi guys

    apricity
    - Sorry to hear you're having a rubbish time at the moment apricity, I'm very lucky that although my parents divorced when I was very small I've never had any family arguments to deal with, so don't have any advice to offer with what to do, except that I echo what BeckyAP says, you don't need any additional stress x
    - I'm glad your other half is feeling better. My H2B also suffers with depression from time to time with varying amounts of how low he gets. He classes himself as a 'depressive', but he has not used medication for about 5 years, these days he recognises when he is feeling low and will talk to me about it. He says that he's at the best he has been mentally for a long time.
    - I think your DJ quote for 295 with photobooth is very good, DJs around us are quoting 200-250, with no added extras, and I've seen photobooths advertised for more than 200.

    BeckyAP and SaF
    - Thanks for sharing your timing plans with me, it gives us something to work on. My H2B would have preferred a later time slot so that we only have to feed people once, but the register office only had 2pm left on the date we wanted.

    We haven't really thought much about a honeymoon, except that we might sort passports out after we've had our appointment to give notice
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    • apricity
    • By apricity 13th Oct 18, 2:24 PM
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    BeckyAP -
    Thank you for those tips , i will try and haggle a little bit.

    SAF -
    Thanks for sharing your order of the day plans,
    this'll come in handy for a lot of us , i think.

    KD,
    Things with my parents are looking up but not talking to the rest of my family as I'm still hurt and shocked. Me + My dad had a huge heart to heart about what happened and he apologised for the stuff he's done to me as well as saying hes not talking to his mum (my nan) or my auntie (the one started this) as he finally realised that they stir things and my nan don't believe him.

    Thats really good for him! My fella doesn't find it easy at all to speak to me about it because when hes like that he just wants to be alone. I think as well he doesn't want me to be worried about what he's feeling or thinking.

    Yeah, I was shocked when i read that.
    They have their own photo props and backdrop
    and will upload online or do a usb stick.
    Saves me another 200 !
    I think i will go with them but will let the hubs to be pick.

    Updates
    We're all booked in to view our reception venue for next saturday at 3pm
    it'll be nice to see what we have to work with and gain some ideas. Hopefully it'll be sound and we can place the deposit for it.

    Then after we can book the DJ

    I haven't even thought about a honeymoon!
    just a weekend away would be nice. maybe to wales or devon.
    It'll be the very last thing we plan though
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    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 15th Oct 18, 9:22 PM
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    I think we're going to change from the rugby club to one of the hotels that we looked at earlier this year. We've got an appointment to go and see them on Wednesday.

    Adding up the price of table cloths and chair covers at the rugby club, we may as well go for the hotel that includes it in the initial cost, and it is more of a dressed room, the rugby club is starting to look a bit pricy

    Take into account the fact I've sent the guy at the rugby club 2 emails and no response to either of them

    We need to make a decision quite quickly though as I want to get the invitations out at the end of October / beginning of November

    How's everyone else getting on?
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    • Devonbiker
    • By Devonbiker 16th Oct 18, 2:32 PM
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    Well, we are now officially booked for 5th of October 2019!

    And the stress has already started My sister has just told me she wont be attending the engagement party (we aren't close and don't really get on) which has upset me but then went on to moan that I haven't involved her in anything so far! She lives over 200 miles away and has shown no interest and apart from booking a venue, we haven't actually done anything!

    On the upside MIL has offered to buy my dress!! So at least thats one cost I dont need to worry about!

    Only 354 days to go!!!
    • Roo89
    • By Roo89 17th Oct 18, 11:19 AM
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    Best Man has booked his own wedding exactly 5 weeks before ours, so the majority of H2B's guests will be at the BM's wedding right before ours. H2B even talked about moving our wedding but I said that's not really fair considering we booked first. BM has said we shouldn't move it too, but it's added a lot of stress, that wasn't needed.

    The recommended B&B for bridal preparations for our venue are fully booked, and I'm struggling to find rooms in another B&B, which makes me think there's another wedding the same day. Our venue can host 2 weddings on the same day, one being in a marquee and traditional all day affair, and the other (which we've booked) is a Twilight wedding in the main Barn. So the hunt for accommodation begins in earnest, as it's just a bit too far to travel from our house to the venue.

    Timings for our day are:
    4:30pm Groom and guests arrival
    5:00pm Guests settled in ceremony room
    5:30pm Ceremony
    6:00pm Canapes, Photos etc
    7:50pm Cake Cutting
    8:00pm Furst Dance
    8:30pm Food
    11:30pm Music to stop
    Midnight Site to be cleared

    Booked my dress appointment for 12th Jan, custom made dress by the talented Suzanne Harrington, I met her at a vintage wedding fair and the dresses are in my budget and will be made to measure so shouldn't need any alterations which will keep the cost down

    Planning to do Save the Dates for christmas and new year as we'll see almost everyone so can save on postage.
    • apricity
    • By apricity 18th Oct 18, 9:25 AM
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    Congrats, DevonBiker .
    I'm sorry to hear that about your sister.
    I hope things get better for you. You've got a lot of time though , I'd try not to worry too much.



    Roo89,
    Yeah i can see why it's not needed.
    I had to book mine a few weeks after as i think my dad's side of the family has 2 weddings to go to a few weeks before ours. But i don't see them and half my family will probably drop out so all is good.

    I hope you find some where to stay,Roo89.

    I haven't got around to timings.
    When do you start thinking about timings?
    We haven't done notice yet. Need to get passports and want to get them sorted soon...hubs to be may need one anyway with his new job.

    That's a good idea.
    I'm sending mine soon.
    Waiting for his list. He got a little heated when i asked him if i can have his list by saturday.
    But he said he'll try to get it done today in lunch.
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    • Roo89
    • By Roo89 18th Oct 18, 3:02 PM
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    I hope you find some where to stay,Roo89.

    I haven't got around to timings.
    When do you start thinking about timings?
    We haven't done notice yet. Need to get passports and want to get them sorted soon...hubs to be may need one anyway with his new job.

    That's a good idea.
    I'm sending mine soon.
    Waiting for his list. He got a little heated when i asked him if i can have his list by saturday.
    But he said he'll try to get it done today in lunch.
    Originally posted by apricity
    Because it's a Twilight wedding the venue sent timings over as soon as we booked, they haven't confirmed with the registrar though so I think it could all change.

    We've been talking about getting married for 2 years so our guest list has already been narrowed down, which has helped ease some of the stress, I'm just waiting on H2B to pick his groomsmen, I've already picked bridesmaids and let 3 out of the 4 know the wedding date, my 4th bridesmaid is my little cousin, so she's not going to be involved in planning anything really, but my family are coming round on Sunday for dinner and we're going to tell them all then

    I managed to strike gold with the accommodation hunt today, found a gorgeous little 2 bed cottage, just 15 minutes from our venue, so I've booked that, meaning I'll have enough space for everyone to get their hair and makeup done as well as having prep photos taken
    • kdalwayskint
    • By kdalwayskint 19th Oct 18, 9:30 PM
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    Devonbiker
    Well, we are now officially booked for 5th of October 2019
    Congratulations, I've added you to the top post
    Family can be strange! Remember, you can choose your friends but not your family!


    Roo89
    Because it's a Twilight wedding the venue sent timings over as soon as we booked, they haven't confirmed with the registrar though so I think it could all change.
    I thought individual couples had to contact Registration Offices to arrange for them to attend weddings that aren't being held in their offices?
    I managed to strike gold with the accommodation hunt today, found a gorgeous little 2 bed cottage, just 15 minutes from our venue, so I've booked that, meaning I'll have enough space for everyone to get their hair and makeup done as well as having prep photos taken
    That sounds like a great place you've found, are you staying there the night before too?


    apricity
    I haven't got around to timings.
    When do you start thinking about timings?
    We only started talking about timings when discussing the budget for food and whether to have one meal or if we could stretch to something in the evening too, which lead on to what time we should have the food!


    We went to look at the hotel and it is as lovely as we remember and they've had a little revamp is an ideal venue, but they've put their prices up since we went to view earlier in the year. We could add more to the budget but being realistic we didn't want to go beyond 3000, and if we went to the hotel we would go well over budget, with Christmas not far off and H2B thinks his car will need some with the next MOT we've decided to stick with the Rugby Club.

    I had a chat with our photographer today, he was telling me about places near the register office where photos can be taken, including a park, with swings etc that could be fun to do

    Any of you started practicing your new signature?

    Hope everyone is well x
    • apricity
    • By apricity 20th Oct 18, 6:40 PM
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    I'm finding my new surname difficult to turn into a signature. It always looks scruffy .

    Today we viewed a possible venue for our reception and decided to go for it.
    It was the first one we've looked at but it is a gorgeous building and has really big spaces, perfect for what we want.

    I sent the hubs-to-be an email of the 2 DJ's that I had quotes for so he can take a look and see which he prefers.

    we were looking at another registry office to get married in which would have been closer to our home,
    It was again a beautiful building but 2 things let us down on it .
    1) You could only have 45 guests including us and the 2 officiants
    2) You're not allowed to take photos of the ceremony...
    Shame , really.

    and... my parents aren't even interested in how today went. Lovely.
    but it's all good.

    i'm so excited now!
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    • Roo89
    • By Roo89 23rd Oct 18, 10:48 AM
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    Roo89
    Roo89
    I thought individual couples had to contact Registration Offices to arrange for them to attend weddings that aren't being held in their offices?
    Our venue books it with them and then they call us to arrange a meeting, and payment of their fee, that's what our coordinator has said is common practice there.

    That sounds like a great place you've found, are you staying there the night before too?
    Yes, I'm staying there the night before with 2 or 3 of my bridesmaids, depending on childcare arrangements for one, and then my Mum, Dad and cousin (who is also a bridesmaid but younger) will come down the morning of to get ready with us all.
    Last edited by Roo89; 23-10-2018 at 10:51 AM.
    • IvysMom
    • By IvysMom 26th Oct 18, 1:11 PM
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    Can I be added to this thread please?
    Hi all


    Please can I be added to this thread? Getting married on 7 September 2019 at 3.30 at beautiful registry office about 40 mins away. We are trying to do the whole thing for 2000. Our reception is in the park next to the registry office where they are holding a "proms in the park" that evening so the reception venue is free . We have booked 3 marquee spaces to put up our marquee, needed 3 as they are small spaces, where we can put the drinks and food. Fingers crossed it doesn't rain as we have no back up plan.
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