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    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 22nd Feb 18, 5:58 PM
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    Poor_Single_lady
    Poor Single Lady Debt Diary - Trying again
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    • 22nd Feb 18, 5:58 PM
    Poor Single Lady Debt Diary - Trying again 22nd Feb 18 at 5:58 PM
    Hello All.
    Things are changing and moving forward and so I feel it's time for a new debt diary.

    I've recently made a lot of changes and hoping to maintain these but there are also some things that need some serious work.

    Unavoidable's
    490 mortgage
    100 council
    140 management fee
    12 TV licence
    40 electric
    20 water
    25 Charity Donation (yes I know)
    13 Lovefilm
    20 eyebrows
    47 phone and home internet
    48 entertainment direct debit
    Tbc overdraft charge if applicable
    IRO 960

    There are a few credit cards on top of these.
    Working on these. I have the totals written down.

    Everything has been reduced and restricted.
    I have changed my diet and drinking less.

    Less clothes and make up and restricting impulse purchasing.

    Less social but still some.
    Ditching toxic problematic friendships. And possibly being a bit more selfish.

    Going on holiday with my parents in June. The are paying for me initially and I will pay them back but haven't been away for years and really looking forward to it.

    This will be boring but having a diary helps me manage things.
    Trying to keep it positive where possible. xxx
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
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    • Dolly Rocker
    • By Dolly Rocker 9th Sep 18, 12:01 PM
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    Dolly Rocker
    It's hard isn't it.

    Turning into a bit of a recluse myself between the debt free and the being newly single.

    We will get there in the end, just keep the focus.

    Dxxx
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    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 13th Sep 18, 6:25 AM
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    Poor_Single_lady
    It is hard Dolly. Yesterday had a very depressing conversation with Sainsbury. They told me I should ring Stepchange for help with budgeting and they don't want to deal with me directly.
    My account is on hold because something could change in the next 2 months. Er it bloody won't!
    They were definately the worse to deal with - the lady said to me that i can make our minimum payment and I just felt like hanging up the call. I don't think she understood. They are not getting more than the 25 anyway.
    A bit annoyed with them to be honest.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • efes shareholder
    • By efes shareholder 13th Sep 18, 10:14 AM
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    efes shareholder
    Hi PSL

    As a poor single lady I feel your pain

    I feel fortunate to have a large circle of friends and social options open to me but I have had to learn to be more selective on which events I attend

    They all know I am trying to improve my financial situation , some are in similar circumstances yet seem to have a different attitude to their debts
    • doingitanyway
    • By doingitanyway 13th Sep 18, 10:15 AM
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    doingitanyway
    Keep fighting on you will get there
    Emergency fund 500/1000
    If not now then when?
    • Cumbria lass
    • By Cumbria lass 14th Sep 18, 8:18 AM
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    Cumbria lass
    PSL have you sorted all the CC's now or are you still working through them ? Not nice of Sainsbury's if they gave you a hard time.

    Down in London myself in 2 weeks , hope you are ok otherwise .
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    • StokieBecks
    • By StokieBecks 14th Sep 18, 9:55 AM
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    StokieBecks
    PSL to be fair to Sainsburys call centre staff they aren't trained debt advisors and they are only recommending what they are told to. A lot of folks on the forum always say to keep any dealings with anyone in writing. Would say having collections on hold for two months is generous. Most will offer 30days and expect you to contact a debt charity in that time for advice.

    Have you spoke to stepchange or national debtline at all? Have you arranged a formal debt management plan (i think I remember you saying you were thinking DMP was the way forward now) or are you doing it on your own?

    Make sure your priority bills are dealt with first. Anything that is on a credit card is a non priority debt. If you can only afford to send them 1 per month each for the time being whilst you build up an emergency fund then do it.

    Good luck. If you really want to get this dealt with you can do it! Speak to the free charities - they will help you explore all your options
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 14th Sep 18, 6:23 PM
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    StokeBecks I always feel like my debt diary irritates you. I need an outlet so I can work through this without going truly mad.

    contacting a debt charity is not going to help or fix the situation. And to he honest I just don't want to and that is up to me.

    you always say that you wish me the best but then you tell me off and to be honest i don't really understand that.

    I'm trying to work through as best I can and yes you might be right and Sainsbury but it doesn't really help me that the people in their call centre are tough to deal with.
    And yes I did request not to be phoned but they did anyway.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • LexieLou
    • By LexieLou 15th Sep 18, 12:06 AM
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    LexieLou
    StokeBecks I always feel like my debt diary irritates you. I need an outlet so I can work through this without going truly mad.

    contacting a debt charity is not going to help or fix the situation. And to he honest I just don't want to and that is up to me.

    you always say that you wish me the best but then you tell me off and to be honest i don't really understand that.

    I'm trying to work through as best I can and yes you might be right and Sainsbury but it doesn't really help me that the people in their call centre are tough to deal with.
    And yes I did request not to be phoned but they did anyway.
    Originally posted by Poor_Single_lady
    Hello PSL

    Rant away girl...I know you don't want to call SC, but even call them and put together a budget, then do your own thing. They get you to think of things that you might feel guilty about including in your budget

    I contacted all my creditors in May and I am still getting letters and calls. Block the numbers...let them go to voice mail, they are all automated. SC have told me today that the letters and calls are automated, and to ignore them.

    I find this forum amazing, and the DMP thread is superb, they have talked me off the edge so many times.

    You are doing ace, and we are all behind you

    Sending you lots of virtual hugs

    Mwah

    LL xx
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    • doingitanyway
    • By doingitanyway 15th Sep 18, 7:23 PM
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    doingitanyway

    You are doing ace, and we are all behind you

    Sending you lots of virtual hugs

    Mwah

    LL xx
    Originally posted by LexieLou
    I agree with LexieLou
    Emergency fund 500/1000
    If not now then when?
    • StokieBecks
    • By StokieBecks 17th Sep 18, 6:47 AM
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    StokieBecks
    StokeBecks I always feel like my debt diary irritates you. I need an outlet so I can work through this without going truly mad.

    contacting a debt charity is not going to help or fix the situation. And to he honest I just don't want to and that is up to me.

    you always say that you wish me the best but then you tell me off and to be honest i don't really understand that.

    I'm trying to work through as best I can and yes you might be right and Sainsbury but it doesn't really help me that the people in their call centre are tough to deal with.
    And yes I did request not to be phoned but they did anyway.
    Originally posted by Poor_Single_lady
    I don't understand why you feel it isn't going to fix the situation. They can offer you the advice you need to help you get this journey going the right way.

    All I do is offer my advice the same as anyone else.

    Don't take the phone calls, make all your instructions in writing. Write to them and ask them to remove your phone number. They have to comply, if they don't you can make a formal complaint.


    I do wish you well but as you feel I tell you off I won't post here again as it is not my intention to frustrate you further.
    • ramhainn
    • By ramhainn 17th Sep 18, 8:42 AM
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    ramhainn
    Hello and welcome

    Good luck with your journey!
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 17th Sep 18, 3:34 PM
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    It's not the knowing what I should do that I struggle with it's the actual practicalities of living on very little money.

    It's like a diet, obviously you shouldn't have chocolate for breakfast but if you're used to doing that then you will find it hard not to.

    If it was as easy as it looks on paper then none of us would be here. But it is massively hard.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • KxMx
    • By KxMx 18th Sep 18, 10:15 AM
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    KxMx
    A Debt charity can help with budgeting advice and the balance between spending and repaying debts.

    You could end up with more money available for lifestyle.

    You never know unless you try.
    • DMP_Tiger
    • By DMP_Tiger 18th Sep 18, 10:49 AM
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    DMP_Tiger
    It's not the knowing what I should do that I struggle with it's the actual practicalities of living on very little money.

    If it was as easy as it looks on paper then none of us would be here. But it is massively hard.
    Originally posted by Poor_Single_lady
    Yes it is hard. But with a Debt Management Plan, you don't have to live on very little money. You take your income, deduct your expenses and what you have left goes to your creditors.

    But your expenses don't have to be the bare minimum, you include an allowance for fun stuff plus you can exaggerate your necessities to give you more fun money. For example if you spend 100 per month on petrol, you put down 150 per month. Your creditors know where you live but they don't know where you work.

    You can also add vet fees even if you don't have a pet, tobacco even if you don't smoke and anything else you can think of. The Stepchange calculator has all sorts of categories that you can fill in creatively.....

    It will take longer to pay off your debts by doing that, but you will be able to have more of a life.
    August 2018: Secured Debt 70,003 Unsecured Debt (DMP) 34,614 Total 104,617 DFD: March 2031
    September 2018: Secured Debt 69,660 Unsecured Debt (DMP) 34,763 Total 104,423 DFD: March 2031
    • Poor_Single_lady
    • By Poor_Single_lady 18th Sep 18, 12:42 PM
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    Poor_Single_lady
    I don't think this is helping me. I am exhausted and I'm out.
    2017- 5 credit cards plus loan
    Overdraft And 1 credit card paid off.

    2018 plans - reduce debt
    • Dolly Rocker
    • By Dolly Rocker 18th Sep 18, 1:11 PM
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    Dolly Rocker
    Sent you a wee PM.

    Dxxx
    CWP Goal Weight 15lbs/91lbs
    Debt Free Wannabe 3,685.97/6,649.97
    3-6 Month EF, 140/7,000
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