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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 30th Jan 18, 2:46 PM
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    Cutting Down Alcohol Thread (Part 15)
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    • 30th Jan 18, 2:46 PM
    Cutting Down Alcohol Thread (Part 15) 30th Jan 18 at 2:46 PM
    Hi Guys,

    Sadly we lost our thread and I don't personally keep a private record of others AFDs so all data on the old thread is gone.

    I've decided I'm going to bow out for a while as I'm actually pretty busy here in RL. And my life is about to get really hectic as I'm moving home....Also it will be hard to have challenges if data is getting lost. Sorry guys.

    ....It's been great...maybe I'll be back in a few months...

    Ta Ta For Now.

    Shaggyx


    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 13 is Here

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 24-07-2018 at 7:37 AM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 15th May 18, 9:28 AM
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    I am finding that I am not really missing drinking at home so far - so far, so good
    Went to the pub last night and had a Heineken 00
    Originally posted by StitchyWitchy
    I think a lot of our drinking is more habit than anything else, and if we can break the habit life becomes much simpler.

    15/31 please, Baileys.
    Keeping it AF
    • Baileysonice
    • By Baileysonice 15th May 18, 10:00 AM
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    Well done Lonelyy rat - always harder especially surrounded by family and in a situation you weren't sure of.

    7/15 please for yesterday and hoping to be at 8 for tomorrow. A smiley day too, hurray
    Originally posted by maggiem
    Have an excited dancing bear maggiem and congratulations
    Last edited by Baileysonice; 15-05-2018 at 10:11 AM.
    • Baileysonice
    • By Baileysonice 15th May 18, 10:02 AM
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    May 2018


    = Take Off

    = 7 Days

    =14 Days

    =21 Days

    =28 Days
    = May...SORTED

    = Target Achieved

    = Overachiever


    Arkers 9/12

    Barny1979 13/24

    Baileysonice 10/15

    cathybird 14/21

    CuppaTea 11/17

    doingitanyway 14/27

    ElusiveLucy 5/9

    fatrab 18/31

    Freysmum 11/25

    Glenda /25

    Honey Bear 17/31

    Itisme 4/11

    katep23 3/17

    lonelyrat 16/31

    maggiem 8/15

    maman 9/10

    Paspatur 4/20

    pollyanna24 1 /19

    StitchyWitchy 8 /20

    sukeyboo 10/14

    Wanna Bee Free 3/10

    wishus 6/18





    Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

    Please highlight your AFDs in Red

    Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake
    Last edited by Baileysonice; 18-05-2018 at 10:18 AM.
    • Baileysonice
    • By Baileysonice 15th May 18, 10:06 AM
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    Baileysonice
    Fatrab's



    Fatrab 47/90

    hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

    lllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll
    Last edited by Baileysonice; 18-05-2018 at 10:17 AM.
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 15th May 18, 12:27 PM
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    8/14 for today please Baileys
    • maman
    • By maman 15th May 18, 2:10 PM
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    7/10 for me today please Baileys and I claim my dancing bear.


    I'm sure Golden Oldies will think of this!






    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N8zI5xjwKYw
    • Baileysonice
    • By Baileysonice 15th May 18, 3:32 PM
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    7/10 for me today please Baileys and I claim my dancing bear.


    I'm sure Golden Oldies will think of this!






    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N8zI5xjwKYw
    Originally posted by maman

    can't say I do .far too young The bear is all yours
    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 15th May 18, 8:18 PM
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    Wanna Bee Free
    2/10 for today please Baileys
    Save 12K in 2018 #12 - 7,075/12,000 58.9%
    AFDs 2018 60/150 September 8/10 40%
    2018 No clutter to be seen - 26/630 4.2%
    • StitchyWitchy
    • By StitchyWitchy 15th May 18, 9:20 PM
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    7/20 for me tonight please Baileys

    Committee meeting at the local pub tonight saw me drinking tap water - alcohol free and frugal!!!
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 16th May 18, 7:14 AM
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    Morning all, 12/21 for me please.
    No. 15 in Save 12K in 2018. 5,482.91/12,000
    2017: 12,978.51/12K 2016: 20,880.11/15K 2015: 25,464.86/10K
    Sept AFDs: 18/21. 2018 AFDs: 224/260. 2017: 306/252
    Mortgage 1/6/18: 46,436.38. 42,575.00 Paid off: 3,861.38
    • maggiem
    • By maggiem 16th May 18, 7:27 AM
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    8/15 please
    Thanks Baileysonice - ridiculously excited by dancing bear - and it is possible I started to sing too Maman!
    • katep23
    • By katep23 16th May 18, 7:38 AM
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    Hi all, may I join you? OH and I discussed our drinking at the weekend and decided we want to stop for the foreseeable future. First day was yesterday and I am aiming to be AF for the remainder of the month so 17 days (I think!)

    It is such a difference when drinking is mindful and planned. Will have to try and remember this.
    Originally posted by doingitanyway
    This really resonated with me, thank you.
    Last edited by katep23; 16-05-2018 at 7:42 AM.

    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 16th May 18, 8:27 AM
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    Honey Bear
    I'm sure Golden Oldies will think of this!

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N8zI5xjwKYw
    Originally posted by maman
    I do! I used to find my mother doing secret dancing in the kitchen to this song, and she was a very staid lady so it was especially wonderful to be reminded of her. Thank you so much, Maman!

    Hi all, may I join you? OH and I discussed our drinking at the weekend and decided we want to stop for the foreseeable future. First day was yesterday and I am aiming to be AF for the remainder of the month so 17 days (I think!)
    Originally posted by katep23
    Welcome, Katep! Good luck with it.

    16/31 please, Baileys.
    Keeping it AF
    • doingitanyway
    • By doingitanyway 16th May 18, 8:36 AM
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    14/27 please Baileys
    Emergency fund 500/1000
    If not now then when?
    • katep23
    • By katep23 16th May 18, 8:37 AM
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    Welcome, Katep! Good luck with it.
    Originally posted by Honey Bear
    Thank you.

    I think a lot of our drinking is more habit than anything else, and if we can break the habit life becomes much simpler.
    Originally posted by Honey Bear
    This also struck a chord with me, will read through the thread over time.

    • lonelyrat
    • By lonelyrat 16th May 18, 9:20 AM
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    Aww thank you guys for the encouragement. It really does mean a lot... I did get some funny looks and people seemed shocked and aghast when I declined offers for drinks.

    Well done on resisting the best efforts of some who think that everyone should always have a drink - it's a form of bullying to insist that people drink but for some reason it's considered socially acceptable.
    Originally posted by Honey Bear
    I'd never noticed before Sunday how keen others were to get a drink in my hand. It was definitely eye opening...

    Fatrab non alcoholic beer sounds pretty gross! I read a book recently and it was talking about how we basically condition ourselves over time to become accustomed to the taste of alcohol but really if you were to strip back to your first drink you'd need to be forcing it down. I can kind of see where it's coming from... I do think a nice cold glass of white wine would go down well, but that's purely just for the perceived effect it has on me, not the taste! Will not be dabbling with any low/ no alcohol alcoholic drinks. Soda water and orange squash is my tipple now

    I think a lot of our drinking is more habit than anything else, and if we can break the habit life becomes much simpler.
    Originally posted by Honey Bear
    Definitely resonating with me as well... I was so used to a glass (but never really just a glass) of wine after work. Now I've stopped I don't find I miss it or need to replace it with anything. I'm just getting on with my day then sleeping earlier than before.

    Hello katep23 Nice that you and your OH are doing it together. I need to get my OH on board.. He's a heavy drinker at the moment and I'm quite worried about him/ his health. It's the same as with debt busting though, you can't make someone have a lightbulb moment. Just hope he sees sense sooner rather than later!

    16/31
    today for me Looking forward to those cute wee penguins!
    Total Debt : 1723.49 / 7266.93
    Weight Loss: 19.2 / 45kg
    • wishus
    • By wishus 16th May 18, 9:49 AM
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    Hello everyone. On 8/18.

    I'm in a pub today and tomorrow for meetings. Will aim to make one of those alcohol free. Probably tomorrow as they do better tea in that one.
    Gonna get debt free, and live in a house in the countreeee!
    • Baileysonice
    • By Baileysonice 16th May 18, 9:54 AM
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    Hi all, may I join you? OH and I discussed our drinking at the weekend and decided we want to stop for the foreseeable future. First day was yesterday and I am aiming to be AF for the remainder of the month so 17 days (I think!)
    Originally posted by katep23
    welcome katiep23 lovely to "meet" you. I have added you to the list so have a quick check its right

    14/27 please Baileys
    Originally posted by doingitanyway
    well done dia cute penguins have arrived just for you xx

    16/31[/COLOR][/B] today for me Looking forward to those cute wee penguins!
    Originally posted by lonelyrat
    They are all yours lonelyrat and congratulations
    • Arkers
    • By Arkers 16th May 18, 10:25 AM
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    Arkers
    Good morning everyone,
    8 please Baileys
    Arkers x
    • maman
    • By maman 16th May 18, 11:19 AM
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    Welcome, Katep! Good luck with it.
    Originally posted by Honey Bear

    And so say all of us!!


    I agree that it will help you a lot to have your DH on board. When I started cutting back my DH was drinking beer so I wasn't tempted at all. He's back on the wine/spirits now but it really doesn't bother me. He does drink most days but in moderation. Still probably a bit too much but I don't nag him about it. I think me being AF during the week makes him a little uncomfortable but that's his problem!


    8/10 AFDs please Baileys.
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