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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 30th Jan 18, 2:46 PM
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    Cutting Down Alcohol Thread (Part 15)
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    • 30th Jan 18, 2:46 PM
    Cutting Down Alcohol Thread (Part 15) 30th Jan 18 at 2:46 PM
    Hi Guys,

    Sadly we lost our thread and I don't personally keep a private record of others AFDs so all data on the old thread is gone.

    I've decided I'm going to bow out for a while as I'm actually pretty busy here in RL. And my life is about to get really hectic as I'm moving home....Also it will be hard to have challenges if data is getting lost. Sorry guys.

    ....It's been great...maybe I'll be back in a few months...

    Ta Ta For Now.

    Shaggyx


    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 13 is Here

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 24-07-2018 at 7:37 AM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • lonelyrat
    • By lonelyrat 12th May 18, 9:15 PM
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    lonelyrat
    "Worldwide travelling penguin dance and gymnastic group" Amazing! Feeling very privileged that they graced us with their presence!

    12/31 today. Walked past someone who was sitting on their front steps enjoying a glass of wine in the sun today... I could see the condensation on the glass and I felt really quite jealous. I just know that if I have any alcohol I can't stop so need to completely abstain, at least for the foreseeable.

    Tomorrow will be a test... Have a communion which will end up in a bar with all OH's extended family. Am steeling myself and reminding myself that I prefer being in control Wish me luck!
    Total Debt : 1600.00 / 7266.93
    Weight Loss: 20 kg / 45kg
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 13th May 18, 8:31 AM
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    Morning all, 9/21 for me today. It occurred to me this morning that I can't recall the last time I had two days in a row where I drank! I do feel a little woozy this morning from last night's meal out with friends but nothing terrible.
    No. 15 in Save 12K in 2018. 6,732.53/12,000
    Nov AFDs: 13/21. 2018 AFDs: 266/260. 2017: 306/252
    Mortgage 1/6/18: 46,436.38. 40,700.00 Paid off: 5,736.38
    • StitchyWitchy
    • By StitchyWitchy 13th May 18, 10:59 AM
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    Hi,

    Can I join this group again please? I know that I really need to cut down a lot and am trying to go completely AF for a while so that I can get things back into perspective.

    I!!!8217;m aiming for 20 days this month as I was on holiday at the beginning of the month.

    So far I have managed 4 AF days in May
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 13th May 18, 11:47 AM
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    Honey Bear
    Welcome back, Stitchy Witchy!

    13/31 please, Baileys.
    Keeping it AF
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 13th May 18, 11:53 AM
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    cathybird
    I felt that way for a couple of years about some nights out; not wanting to go out with certain friends because I always over-indulged. Not sure I realised I had a booze problem (not saying you do, obviously) but with hindsight I must have, because if I'd had half a brain cell I'd have known I didn't actually have to drink alcohol. Hey ho.
    Originally posted by Honey Bear
    Well I quite look forward to a night out with a drink, not saying I don't, but these days I also look forward to the nights where I don't drink, and back in the day it would never have occurred to me that a night without alcohol could be just as if not more enjoyable than a night with! So it's a good sign to me that now I've twigged this
    No. 15 in Save 12K in 2018. 6,732.53/12,000
    Nov AFDs: 13/21. 2018 AFDs: 266/260. 2017: 306/252
    Mortgage 1/6/18: 46,436.38. 40,700.00 Paid off: 5,736.38
    • lonelyrat
    • By lonelyrat 13th May 18, 8:19 PM
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    lonelyrat
    Made it through the function, despite some peoples best efforts. It was hard when everyone else was drinking and I felt quite awkward as I didn't know people that well... But I did it! And am proud to say 13/31 and today marks 21 days since I stopped drinking - baby steps
    Total Debt : 1600.00 / 7266.93
    Weight Loss: 20 kg / 45kg
    • doingitanyway
    • By doingitanyway 13th May 18, 8:31 PM
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    doingitanyway
    Made it through the function, despite some peoples best efforts. It was hard when everyone else was drinking and I felt quite awkward as I didn't know people that well... But I did it! And am proud to say 13/31 and today marks 21 days since I stopped drinking - baby steps
    Originally posted by lonelyrat
    Well done Lonelyrat. Proud of you
    Emergency fund 1060/1000
    NSD November 6/30
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 13th May 18, 9:55 PM
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    10/24 AFDs for today
    • Wanna Bee Free
    • By Wanna Bee Free 14th May 18, 7:13 AM
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    Wanna Bee Free
    Well done Lonelyrat!

    I am popping here early to commit to getting off the starting blocks today so 1/10 for me today.
    Save 12K in 2018 #12 - 8,725/12,000 72.7%
    Cutting Down Alcohol: November 1/10 October 5/10 September 15/10
    2018 74/150 49.3% (2017:106|2016:83)
    2018 No clutter to be seen - 167/630 26.5%
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 14th May 18, 7:18 AM
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    Morning all, 10/21 for today please.
    No. 15 in Save 12K in 2018. 6,732.53/12,000
    Nov AFDs: 13/21. 2018 AFDs: 266/260. 2017: 306/252
    Mortgage 1/6/18: 46,436.38. 40,700.00 Paid off: 5,736.38
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 14th May 18, 7:20 AM
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    cathybird
    Hey well done lonelyrat! Getting through the function without drinking shows huge strength of mind
    No. 15 in Save 12K in 2018. 6,732.53/12,000
    Nov AFDs: 13/21. 2018 AFDs: 266/260. 2017: 306/252
    Mortgage 1/6/18: 46,436.38. 40,700.00 Paid off: 5,736.38
    • sukeyboo
    • By sukeyboo 14th May 18, 8:41 AM
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    7/14 for today please Baileys
    • fatrab
    • By fatrab 14th May 18, 8:41 AM
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    Morning!

    Well done lonelyrat - it can be awfully hard to stay sober when everyone else around you is drinking (and trying to make you drink!).

    We went for a walk yesterday and ended up in the pub for a few. I tried Heineken 0.0 and have made the conscious decision that AF beers are not for me. They're all rotten! I'll stick to my soda and lime from now on.

    14/31 & 43/90 for today please Baileys
    You can have results or excuses, but not both.
    Challenge - be 14 Stone BY XMAS!

    • maman
    • By maman 14th May 18, 12:22 PM
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    It's seemed like a long weekend. Glad to get back on the wagon today. Hoping for a good week.


    6/10 AFDs please Baileys.
    • wishus
    • By wishus 14th May 18, 12:52 PM
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    After this weekend I can report I am on 6/18!
    Gonna get debt free, and live in a house in the countreeee!
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 14th May 18, 1:29 PM
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    Honey Bear
    Well I quite look forward to a night out with a drink, not saying I don't, but these days I also look forward to the nights where I don't drink, and back in the day it would never have occurred to me that a night without alcohol could be just as if not more enjoyable than a night with! So it's a good sign to me that now I've twigged this
    Originally posted by cathybird
    We're so conditioned to think that booze is an integral part of an evening out that some of us forgot it was a possibility!

    Made it through the function, despite some peoples best efforts. It was hard when everyone else was drinking and I felt quite awkward as I didn't know people that well... But I did it! And am proud to say 13/31 and today marks 21 days since I stopped drinking - baby steps
    Originally posted by lonelyrat
    Well done, Lonely Rat! It takes a bit of doing the first time, and then after that it starts to fall into place. For one thing, you know you can do it now!

    Well done on resisting the best efforts of some who think that everyone should always have a drink - it's a form of bullying to insist that people drink but for some reason it's considered socially acceptable. They don't stop doing it for quite some time, either.

    I tried Heineken 0.0 and have made the conscious decision that AF beers are not for me. They're all rotten! I'll stick to my soda and lime from now on.
    Originally posted by fatrab
    There are some I can't make myself drink, so I have more than a little sympathy! I know F0$ters is undrinkable but their AF version has the piquant taste of vomit.

    14/31 please, Baileys.
    Keeping it AF
    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 14th May 18, 8:14 PM
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    11/24 AFDs today
    • maggiem
    • By maggiem 15th May 18, 6:26 AM
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    Made it through the function, despite some peoples best efforts. It was hard when everyone else was drinking and I felt quite awkward as I didn't know people that well... But I did it! And am proud to say 13/31 and today marks 21 days since I stopped drinking - baby steps
    Originally posted by lonelyrat
    Well done Lonelyy rat - always harder especially surrounded by family and in a situation you weren't sure of.

    7/15 please for yesterday and hoping to be at 8 for tomorrow. A smiley day too, hurray
    • StitchyWitchy
    • By StitchyWitchy 15th May 18, 6:35 AM
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    6/20 so far this month. I am finding that I am not really missing drinking at home so far - so far, so good
    Went to the pub last night and had a Heineken 00
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 15th May 18, 7:04 AM
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    Morning all, 11/21 for me today please.
    No. 15 in Save 12K in 2018. 6,732.53/12,000
    Nov AFDs: 13/21. 2018 AFDs: 266/260. 2017: 306/252
    Mortgage 1/6/18: 46,436.38. 40,700.00 Paid off: 5,736.38
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