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    • shaggydoo
    • By shaggydoo 30th Jan 18, 2:46 PM
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    Cutting Down Alcohol Thread (Part 15)
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    • 30th Jan 18, 2:46 PM
    Cutting Down Alcohol Thread (Part 15) 30th Jan 18 at 2:46 PM
    Hi Guys,

    Sadly we lost our thread and I don't personally keep a private record of others AFDs so all data on the old thread is gone.

    I've decided I'm going to bow out for a while as I'm actually pretty busy here in RL. And my life is about to get really hectic as I'm moving home....Also it will be hard to have challenges if data is getting lost. Sorry guys.

    ....It's been great...maybe I'll be back in a few months...

    Ta Ta For Now.

    Shaggyx


    Welcome. Here we are again, time for a new thread, new starts and new challenges.

    Let's take a trip down memory lane and remind ourselves of In Search Of Me's (ISOM) original post in Part 1:

    24th February 2008

    Quote:
    In Search Of Me "There are a few of us who want to give up/cut down & I thought it would be good to widen the net to support each other along the way!
    For me alch & feeling good for the time I'm drinking & then rubbish after go hand in hand. A bit like drinking & smoking & drinking & getting the munchies! Last year I gave up alch & fags for 10 months & then "slipped" towards Christmas until by Jan I was doing both with alarming regularity. I dread to think how much both cost me financially and I know physically that I've felt rubbish. My lungs hurt, have put on weight & literally none of my clothes fit so I will have to buy more - which means a dent in my budget that I can ill afford. My skin is also yukky & much nicer when I dont drink/smoke!
    I had my last ciggies the night before last & last wine on Tues. I know I will feel 100% better when I crack it but also know it will be hard. One disadvantage here is that all too often DFW "parties" tend to involve alcohol so I'm also hoping that this can possibly be a safe haven for those of us who want, or need, to abstain, for now at least!
    Anway - I hope that this can be a place of real support for people who are sturggling. I do wonder whether there is a link between debt & drinking as from the Jan thread it was obvious that so many struggle to give up! Plus I know for me that I feel much hapier and in control when I dont drink (or drink in moderation) - which of course begs the question "why do I do it?"! Anyway, I do but will now try not t ad hope some of you wil join in. Some days I know I wil fail, just as I do with my debt free journey and I am more than happy to be given a swift (but nice!) kicking when I do! Hugs all and dare I say... but this time with water!!
    And here's what she started!!! :

    Part 13 is Here

    Part 12 is HERE

    Part 11 is HERE

    Part 10 is HERE

    Part 9 is HERE

    Part 8 is HERE

    Part 7 is HERE

    Part 6 is HERE

    Part 5 is HERE

    Part 4 is HERE

    Part 3 is HERE

    Part 2 is HERE

    and the original starting thread is HERE

    Here is a post from back on thread 1 or 2.

    Quote:
    Springwatch Girl Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life"


    Good Luck Everyone!

    Shaggyx
    Last edited by shaggydoo; 24-07-2018 at 7:37 AM.
    What do we do when we fall? We get up, dust ourselves off and start walking in the right direction again. Perhaps when we fall, it is easy to forget there are people along the way who help us stand and walk with us as we get back on track.
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    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 13th Apr 18, 6:52 AM
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    7/17 please.
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 13th Apr 18, 7:45 AM
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    Morning all, 11/21 for me today please.
    No. 15 in Save 12K in 2018. 5,482.91/12,000
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    • Baileysonice
    • By Baileysonice 13th Apr 18, 9:29 AM
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    7/17 please.
    Originally posted by CuppaTea
    Well done CuppaTea a dancing monkey is yours
    • Itisme
    • By Itisme 13th Apr 18, 10:12 AM
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    11/12 please.
    • ElusiveLucy
    • By ElusiveLucy 13th Apr 18, 10:22 AM
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    6/15 for me please. Really wanted a dancing monkey this week but blew it on weds night with 2 drinks.
    What goes around comes around.....I hope!
    • CuppaTea
    • By CuppaTea 13th Apr 18, 12:35 PM
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    Thanks Baileys
    I'm dealing with stuff.
    • Arkers
    • By Arkers 13th Apr 18, 4:34 PM
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    Good afternoon,
    8 please Baileys
    Arkers x
    • doingitanyway
    • By doingitanyway 13th Apr 18, 5:03 PM
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    13/30 for me. Friday feeling again, not quite a craving, more like an ingrained habit. Nearly halfway through my target. Exciting
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    • Baileysonice
    • By Baileysonice 13th Apr 18, 5:31 PM
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    13/30 for me. Friday feeling again, not quite a craving, more like an ingrained habit. Nearly halfway through my target. Exciting
    Originally posted by doingitanyway
    Yeah I get that too particularly when its Pizza for dinner. Pizza requires beer or wine

    You are doing so well it will all be worth it
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 13th Apr 18, 8:01 PM
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    (((Hugs))) Arkers. We all splurge one way or another when we're having a tough time, so I hope you're feeling a bit better now. Well done for keeping the weight off.

    Hi Steveh68! I love it when Lurkers surface. Huge congratulations on getting to 100 Days - it's a massive achievement and something you can rightly be very proud of. I didn't want to stop drinking totally, but I had to because I just loved red wine and g&t and that was never going to change. I knew with 100% certainty that the central, most important relationship of my life wouldn't survive many more of my spectacularly unpleasant, aggresive, vicious drunken episodes. Unlike Arkers I don't get maudlin, I get angry, although I stopped short of being violent.

    You know yourself best. If you think you'll be able to control your drinking, then I can understand why you would want to allow yourself to drink sometimes. I can't, and staying stopped is a lot easier for me than trying to stop myself after I've had one, tried that for years, it didn't work and I'm not going to risk it after four years since I finally knocked it on the head.

    However, I'm not going to pretend that I never have a liquour chocolate or three, have taken a swig from OH's g&t and it didn't kill me or make me need a second swig and even had low alcohol beer by mistake when I meant to drink an AF one. The longer I'm AF the more I enjoy it, although just like you I didn't feel physically much better after 100 days, which I thought I would. (A drinking buddy came round this evening to do me a big favour, and he mentioned in passing that he's dreading tomorrow because they're starting at 10.00 am and then eventually ending up at a football match later in the day. I can remember dreading drinking, but still carried on doing it for years - I don't miss that one bit!)

    I also didn't have much truck with that rubbish about needing to sort myself out emotionally and mentally to deal with whatever it was that made me drink too much - I drank too much because I liked the taste and I quite enjoyed being tipsy / drunk - until I didn't any more. Nothing drove me to drink, I'm not an emotional basket case, and I suspect most people with drinking issues aren't, either. That kind of rubbish is peddled by people who stand to profit by making people believe it, and it's just not true of most of us.

    I stopped drinking when I was in my late 50s, and it took at least three years before I genuinely started firing on all cylinders again. I'm now flat out most days and fall into bed exhausted by about 10.30 and then sleep like a log before waking up early and starting the whole thing all over again. I had 10 years of staggering from hangover to hangover, with hindsight, and I wouldn't swap what I've got now for that for anything. Staying stopped is easier for me than going back to that life, so it's become really easy for me not to drink. The transition's the tricky bit!

    You'll have to make your own mind up about what you can enjoy without going back to living the way you used to. Maman and FatRab have found a way of balancing their drinking, as have most of the people who post on this thread so it's perfectly possible.

    When you're ready to tackle the weight thing, I strongly suggest you talk to your doctor because the practice is quite likely to be able to suggest various weightloss regimes and you may be able to get the fees paid if you go down the S1!mming W0rld route.

    Hugely well done on what you've achieved so far and good luck with whatever you decide to do. It would be lovely if you stick around, contribute your thoughts and let us know how you're getting on.

    13/30 please, Baileys.
    Keeping it AF
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 14th Apr 18, 7:43 AM
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    Morning all, 12/21 for me please.
    No. 15 in Save 12K in 2018. 5,482.91/12,000
    2017: 12,978.51/12K 2016: 20,880.11/15K 2015: 25,464.86/10K
    Aug AFDs: 16/21. 2018 AFDs: 195/260. 2017: 306/252
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    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 14th Apr 18, 9:28 AM
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    14/30 please, Baileys.
    Keeping it AF
    • Itisme
    • By Itisme 14th Apr 18, 7:42 PM
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    12/12 please.
    • doingitanyway
    • By doingitanyway 14th Apr 18, 7:43 PM
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    14/30 for me too (same as you honey bear) I did not go to the pub after work and was the only one from my little team who did not go. Not sure how I feel about it really...Total FOMO (fear of missing out) I guess...
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    • Barny1979
    • By Barny1979 14th Apr 18, 7:47 PM
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    Been away for a while 4/22 AFDs today
    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 15th Apr 18, 8:55 AM
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    cathybird
    Morning all, 13/21 for me today please.
    No. 15 in Save 12K in 2018. 5,482.91/12,000
    2017: 12,978.51/12K 2016: 20,880.11/15K 2015: 25,464.86/10K
    Aug AFDs: 16/21. 2018 AFDs: 195/260. 2017: 306/252
    Mortgage 1/6/18: 46,436.38. 43,875.00 Paid off: 2,561.38
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 15th Apr 18, 9:33 AM
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    14/30 for me too (same as you honey bear) I did not go to the pub after work and was the only one from my little team who did not go. Not sure how I feel about it really...Total FOMO (fear of missing out) I guess...
    Originally posted by doingitanyway
    How much do you usually enjoy it, Doing It, my Posting Twin? I think that has to be the acid test. We're all afraid of FOMO but the good news is that if we stop doing something we know we shouldn't, really, it frees up both time and mental energy to do things we really do enjoy. It's a habit, and the sooner we recognise the destructive ones and move on with our lives, the better off we are.

    15/30 please, Baileys.
    Keeping it AF
    • doingitanyway
    • By doingitanyway 15th Apr 18, 11:23 AM
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    How much do you usually enjoy it, Doing It, my Posting Twin? I think that has to be the acid test. We're all afraid of FOMO but the good news is that if we stop doing something we know we shouldn't, really, it frees up both time and mental energy to do things we really do enjoy. It's a habit, and the sooner we recognise the destructive ones and move on with our lives, the better off we are.

    15/30 please, Baileys.
    Originally posted by Honey Bear
    It's difficult honeybear because it's a habit that has good pay-offs too. I do enjoy it to be honest but right now when I want to hit a whole month AF as a target I know it isn't for me. Also now I am doing this when I do drink I want it to be a delightful experience and the pub we go to has rubbish glassware and manky lemon. I am thinking of switching to bubbles when I get this under control

    So, halfway though. Go us

    15/30 today thanks Baileys
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    • cathybird
    • By cathybird 16th Apr 18, 8:37 AM
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    Morning all, 14/21 for me please.
    No. 15 in Save 12K in 2018. 5,482.91/12,000
    2017: 12,978.51/12K 2016: 20,880.11/15K 2015: 25,464.86/10K
    Aug AFDs: 16/21. 2018 AFDs: 195/260. 2017: 306/252
    Mortgage 1/6/18: 46,436.38. 43,875.00 Paid off: 2,561.38
    • Honey Bear
    • By Honey Bear 16th Apr 18, 8:51 AM
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    Goodness it's quiet on here!

    16/30 please, Shaggy.
    Keeping it AF
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