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    • Uniscots97
    • By Uniscots97 29th Jan 18, 7:31 PM
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    Back, still in debt, probably depressed (Take 2)
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    • 29th Jan 18, 7:31 PM
    Back, still in debt, probably depressed (Take 2) 29th Jan 18 at 7:31 PM
    Hi, for those following my previous diary ď Back, still in debt, probably depressed and not a lot going right Ē, Iím not sure what happened to it. It just disappeared overnight. Iíve reported it but read a lot of threads are disappearing.

    So if youíre new to my diary.... hello!! If you read my previous diary welcome back and thank you for trying to find me.

    So today, I was telling my boss about my health. I thought he was going to cry and he asked me to send him an email confirming what I told him.
    CC2 = £8687.86 (£10000 )CC1 = £0 (£9983 ); Reusing shopping bags savings =£5.80 vs spent £1.05.Wine is like opera. You can enjoy it even if you don't understand it and too much can give you a headache the next day J
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    • Uniscots97
    • By Uniscots97 4th May 18, 5:47 PM
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    How is everyone? I need some advice. My parents want a face to face chat. My Mum is reasonable, my Dad could likely say told you so etc, or question me to death. I know they are looking to part me from OH but not sure what I want, I seriously just want to hide. OH asked me for more money and needed it the day he asked. Not told my parents. OH said if you can transfer the money you can use my credit card, tried to explain that dd's can't be paid by credit card. What do I do? I'm so confused, tired, upset and as I said I just want to hide.
    CC2 = £8687.86 (£10000 )CC1 = £0 (£9983 ); Reusing shopping bags savings =£5.80 vs spent £1.05.Wine is like opera. You can enjoy it even if you don't understand it and too much can give you a headache the next day J
    • Moneywhizz
    • By Moneywhizz 4th May 18, 6:57 PM
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    HI, I have been reading your diary for a while and like others who have commented it seems that your OH is causing you a lot of problems and only adding stress to your life, rather than support. It is easy for outsiders to say these things though, only you know if this is really the case. If it is then you really need to think if there is any way things are going to improve for you as a couple, or if you would be better off on your own. Apart from everything else he seems to be a constant drain on your finances, when you are working hard to get yourself into a better position. I hope you can work out what you really want and what would be better for you and your little one. At least you have the support of your parents if you do decide to separate.
    • runninglea
    • By runninglea 4th May 18, 7:22 PM
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    Nothing wrong to have a talk with your mum and dad. I'm sure your dad wont say I told you so. Not so easy to give up on your OH whatever they do or don't do.
    You cant go on giving/ spending money willy nilly though. If he cant understand that then it is a difficult situation as you will never ever get financially sorted.
    Year 2018 (6,800/£17000mortgage repayment)Overall mortgage (62,100/165568) (37
    .6%) (34/100) payments made. Total paid 2018 year £6,800

    Total paid 2017 year £15,300Total paid 2018 year £6,800
    • RhiBi
    • By RhiBi 4th May 18, 7:54 PM
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    I hope it all goes well and has a positive outcome. You can't keep going on as you are, it's totally unfair to you and you LO. Xxxx
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 4th May 18, 8:23 PM
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    Your parents will be worried about you & LO.
    JUst like you worry about LO.

    I suppose you need to think about what you get out of the relationship with your OH. Only you know & if it is worth it.

    Take care of you
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
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    • Uniscots97
    • By Uniscots97 4th May 18, 9:46 PM
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    Thank you all xx
    CC2 = £8687.86 (£10000 )CC1 = £0 (£9983 ); Reusing shopping bags savings =£5.80 vs spent £1.05.Wine is like opera. You can enjoy it even if you don't understand it and too much can give you a headache the next day J
    • CapricornLass
    • By CapricornLass 9th May 18, 10:15 PM
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    Hope today wasn't too bad for you. Love and hugs xxx
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 9th May 18, 10:16 PM
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    Hope that you are ok.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger.
    • CapricornLass
    • By CapricornLass 16th May 18, 9:12 PM
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    I'm getting a bit concerned that we haven't heard from you for a while. I hope you and LO are both ok.
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 16th May 18, 9:30 PM
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    Have to say I am also worried.
    I dident realise it had been so long.
    Hope you are ok.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 11 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger.
    • RhiBi
    • By RhiBi 16th May 18, 9:51 PM
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    I was hoping to see an update from Uniscot too. Hope you manage to get on here soon to let us know how you are xxxx
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