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    • Sun Addict
    • By Sun Addict 27th Jan 18, 9:50 PM
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    Things can only get better
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    • 27th Jan 18, 9:50 PM
    Things can only get better 27th Jan 18 at 9:50 PM
    Unbelievably my very long running diary of 5 years seems to have been deleted Not happy about this to say the least

    Not sure what to do about it. Need my diary to keep me sane and on track.

    Had to swiftly come up with a new title, had been meaning to start a new diary but not this way.

    Anyway, in brief for those who don't know, my life changed drastically 5 years ago when my OH got Lymphoma in his brain, nearly lost his life but miraculously survived, although he has permanent brain damage and is disabled. So we lost his wage and I'm now the sole breadwinner. At its highest debt was around £5k but paid off thankfully.

    I try to keep as normal a life as I can.

    Still really angry my old diary has gone
    Virtual Sealed Pot 2018 £404.08
    Debt £2180
    Weight loss 0/6LBS
    Emergency Fund £4000/£10,000
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    • BalanceBy50
    • By BalanceBy50 7th Nov 18, 9:35 AM
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    I really hope the Men in Sheds works out. I am sure people will be more tolerant of his speech than he thinks.

    Hope you are having a good week xx
    • enthusiasticsaver
    • By enthusiasticsaver 7th Nov 18, 9:57 AM
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    I hope Mr SA agrees to the Men in Sheds thing. I think you must feel very trapped at times and totally understand you just wanting a few hours to yourself at home. Not a lot to ask. Would your DD or SIL take him for lunch out ? He enjoys that doesn't he? Trouble is as weather getting less mild and rainy things like walks round a park are not really an option. Get a ticket for Benidorm. No one balks at people in the theatre on their own.
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    • brizzlegirl
    • By brizzlegirl 7th Nov 18, 8:31 PM
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    Sounds like a fab idea. Fingers crossed xx
    MFW..aiming to pay it off in 2022.. 2018 Savings Rate - Goal 40% [29%May 25%June 15%July 32% Sept & Oct] 2018 Income Goal £100/£750 November Goals: AFDs 13/25; Decluttering 07/60; LSDs 05/10; NSDs 01/10 Exercise 02/15 12k steps per day pls Aiming to be a true Frugalista!
    • Sun Addict
    • By Sun Addict 7th Nov 18, 8:49 PM
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    Thanks everyone

    I've not done anything about Men in Sheds or Benidorm tickets yet. Tuesday and Wednesday aren't good days for me doing wise as it's yoga Tuesday and Pilates Wednesday which means I get home later than usual and by the time I've had a bath, cooked and cleaned up it's pretty much time for bed. To be honest I could do with waiting a couple of weeks to book the theatre as have had a lot to pay out recently, plenty of tickets left at the moment and it's not on until March.

    All ok here at the moment just shattered - yawn.
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    • Seasidegal58
    • By Seasidegal58 8th Nov 18, 3:39 PM
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    Just caught up with your diary. What a rotten few weeks you have had - what with Mr SA's shower episode et al.

    Men in Sheds sounds an excellent idea if Mr SA is amenable. It's difficult because he's quite anti social isn't he. If you could just get him down there he may find a new lease of life and enjoy some male company. Also, as some have mentioned, do you think your SIL and OH would take him out for the odd day? She knows how stressful it can be for you so do you think she would help on the odd occasion and give you a break?

    I also think that keeping the carer's allowance for you is a good idea. Perhaps put it towards the Benidorm tickets. And if Mr SA is adamant he's not going, then get one ticket and go yourself!

    Loved the story of the dog and the garden slab!

    X
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    Finished Emergency Fund- £10,000 April 2017

    Next Scrimpy Goal - Ad Hoc Savings - 07/11/2018 - £1771.05
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    • UncannyScot
    • By UncannyScot 8th Nov 18, 3:51 PM
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    The "men in sheds" reminds of the old blokes in the late great Sir Terry Pratchett's Discworld books who were all veterans of various wars and got up to all sorts of inventive mischief in their sheds...
    Apparently he was working on a series of stories for them, unfortunately his illness and his passing put an end to it... would have loved to have read their continuing adventures as they reminded me so much of my Granda and his old pals
    BUGGRITMILLENIUMHANDANDSHRIMP I TOLD EM! - Foul Ole Ron
    It is important that we know where we come from, because if you do not know where you come from, then you do not know where you are, and if you don't know where you are, then you don't know where you are going. If you don't know where you're going, you're probably going wrong.
    R.I.P. T.P.
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 8th Nov 18, 3:54 PM
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    Our Mens Shed have been busy making large display type poppies and have been doing so well with them.
    They look fab.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • Sun Addict
    • By Sun Addict 9th Nov 18, 8:16 PM
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    Well I spoke too soon about everything being ok.

    Almost immediately after I last posted Mr SA had a bad toilet accident

    Then yesterday I made a veg lasagne for me and Mediterranean chicken for Mr SA, put them in the oven then went off to have a bath knowing that when I got out they would be ready to eat. Wrong!

    The oven had tripped the fuse and everything was still uncooked. Flicked the fuse switch on it went bang

    Anyway the upshot is they can't get out until Monday to fix it. To be honest it's partly my fault as the same thing happened earlier this year, the fan oven element had gone and apparently you're meant to turn on the grill from time to time to burn off the grease etc in the oven. I forgot

    Cooked the lasagne in my combi-microwave tonight - it was really nice. Mr SA's chicken was cooked in the slow cooker. We can manage for the weekend to be honest. Mental note - I must remember to turn the grill on occasionally.

    On the plus side got £20 in vouchers from work for helping out at a meeting last week
    Virtual Sealed Pot 2018 £404.08
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    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 9th Nov 18, 8:20 PM
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    I hope it's not too expensive to mend your cooker. Sorry about Mr SA's toilet accident . Have a good weekend.
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
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    NEW GOALS - Build Emergency Fund & Loss of Income Fund. Save for house repairs.
    EMERGENCY FUND = £17
    "Tough times never last, but tough people do" - Robert H Schuller
    • please-let-me-be-lucky
    • By please-let-me-be-lucky 9th Nov 18, 8:23 PM
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    please-let-me-be-lucky
    Sorry your bad run seems to be continuing. Hope it ends soon.

    Have a lovely weekend Xx
    Debts @ LBM £23,729.31. Debts @ 08/04/2016 £0

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    Best win so far - holiday to Florida
    • Sun Addict
    • By Sun Addict 9th Nov 18, 8:30 PM
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    Cooker fix will be free it's only just over a year old and has a 5 year guarantee. Thank goodness.
    Virtual Sealed Pot 2018 £404.08
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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 9th Nov 18, 9:09 PM
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    Sorry about Mr SA.
    Glad you managed without the cooker.
    Enjoy your weekend xx
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • Cherryfudge
    • By Cherryfudge 9th Nov 18, 9:39 PM
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    If you have the same problem after your cooker is out of guarantee, it's worth looking online for a video on how to replace the element. You need to borrow a spare pair of hands to hold everything in place but that's a lot cheaper than getting a specialist in. (If DH and I can do it, it can't be that difficult ).

    I didn't know about using the grill; must remember that.

    Hope it's fixed post haste and you have a good weekend!
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    • Buffythedebtslayer
    • By Buffythedebtslayer 9th Nov 18, 9:45 PM
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    Blimey.

    Tis all go at your end.

    Good that the cooker is going to be fixed. I hate those nights when you get in and all you can do is eat and clear up.

    Take care XXX
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    • WannabeFree
    • By WannabeFree 9th Nov 18, 10:17 PM
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    Take care x

    Hope you're weekend is a relaxed one with no more mishaps
    x
    “Once you hit rock bottom, that's where you perfectly stand; That's your chance of restarting, but restarting the right way.”
    • Sun Addict
    • By Sun Addict 10th Nov 18, 8:16 PM
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    Saturday

    Lost half a pound at WW Just 2.5lbs to go to back at goal.

    DS and the GKs came this afternoon - I had to go after a while as I had a hair appointment at 3pm. After the hairdressers went in the pub next door - I got the drinks in then phoned Mr SA to say there ws a pint on the table. I had a gorgeous Whitley Nell blood orange gin with orange tonic. Bloomin' lovely Not cheap in this pub however - £10.85 for the round but I think they want to keep the riff raff out - which they have. It's a lovely pub, very small but atmospheric - and they have a resident cat. Can't believe someone moaned on their FB page about the cat as their child is allergic to cats - hello pubs are for adults not kids so chuff off. Sorry for the rant but this sort of thing gets me angry.

    Mr SA is building up a pester list, he's been complaining he's got nothing to wear, no shoes and his winter coat doesn't zip up - sigh ££££££££
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    • please-let-me-be-lucky
    • By please-let-me-be-lucky 10th Nov 18, 8:28 PM
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    please-let-me-be-lucky
    Gin sounds lush.

    My winter coat also doesn’t do up. Apparently I’ve been eating all the pies .
    Debts @ LBM £23,729.31. Debts @ 08/04/2016 £0

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    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 10th Nov 18, 8:30 PM
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    Hair & a lovely drink sound just fab.( & a resident cat )
    Boo to yet more pestering.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • beanielou
    • By beanielou 10th Nov 18, 8:32 PM
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    Oh & I dont have a winter coat
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** **Weight loss 2 stone 12 lbs **

    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. MFW 2018. No 144
    • HairyHandofDartmoor
    • By HairyHandofDartmoor 10th Nov 18, 8:50 PM
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    Hair salon and orange gin sound like a good Saturday . Mr SA's pester list not so good .
    Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
    Debt in July 2017 = £58,766 DEBT FREE 31 OCTOBER 2017
    NEW GOALS - Build Emergency Fund & Loss of Income Fund. Save for house repairs.
    EMERGENCY FUND = £17
    "Tough times never last, but tough people do" - Robert H Schuller
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