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    • xcxcsophiexcxc
    • By xcxcsophiexcxc 10th Jan 18, 10:01 PM
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    Someone slap me
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    • 10th Jan 18, 10:01 PM
    Someone slap me 10th Jan 18 at 10:01 PM
    I'm probably going to seem like a really rubbish friend.
    I have been comping lightly for a few years but I do it more than ever now as I fell pregnant and knew I'd be raising a child on my own from pretty early on so I do it to improve mine and my sons life.
    recently I introduced one of my best friends in to it, often she finds comps through my social feeds or I've sent them to her or she finds them herself.
    Unfortunately my happiness for her wins has turned into a quiet resentment. I'm very strapped for cash and I guess I'm jealous as she has been lucky to win 2 massive competitions in a few months which has been over 6000. Unfortunately I've never been anywhere close to that sort of prize let alone twice !
    One of the best things in this forum is being able to be happy for people who've won, it's really encouraging. But has anyone ever begun to feel sour ? Or am I just an awful comper?
    Last edited by xcxcsophiexcxc; 11-01-2018 at 6:45 PM.
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    • deb2112
    • By deb2112 11th Jan 18, 10:32 AM
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    • 11th Jan 18, 10:32 AM
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    • 11th Jan 18, 10:32 AM
    When someone announces a big win in IWIWIW it's encouraging because it means it can be done. However, if that win is closer to home (ie you know the winner in "real" life) you can see how the prize is being used/spent and how it improves the winner's life. So it is natural to be a bit envious and wish it was you instead, especially if you could really do with a bit of a boost, financially and emotionally. I'm guessing you don't wish your friend hadn't won, just that you had too and the fact that you are worrying about these feelings actually makes you a better friend than you realise, so go easy on yourself. Try to be encouraged by your friend's win, just like you are by the dozens of wins you see each month on this forum. Your next win could come today or tomorrow. It may be big or it may be small but it will improve things for you, even if only by a small amount and it will certainly make you smile. Another way to think of it is that there are many prizes out there that have been won by people who aren't you or your friend. Would you really rather your friend hadn't won and some stranger had? The prize would always have benefited someone so isn't it better that it is someone you care about?
    Good luck to you and to your friend with all your future comping xx
    • BlueBella
    • By BlueBella 11th Jan 18, 10:35 AM
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    • 11th Jan 18, 10:35 AM
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    • 11th Jan 18, 10:35 AM
    Here's a slap from me!
    A big thanks to all who post and sprinkling lucky dust to all who enter

    I never knew how strong i was until being strong was my only choice....Don't Judge My Path If You Haven't Walked My Journey....
    • emmaandbunni
    • By emmaandbunni 11th Jan 18, 4:15 PM
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    • 11th Jan 18, 4:15 PM
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    • 11th Jan 18, 4:15 PM
    I can totally understand where you are coming from a friend of mine started entering a few comps I posted and even commented a few time when I won saying "you always win" well her husband was randomly picked out of the audience for a game show and won car, holiday ect.. value around 30k and to be fair my initial reaction was that I could actually punch her in the throat lol, however that soon passed and now I am really pleased for her. I think my time will come and I am happy for my wins. I find a lot of my friends will start a bit of comping when they find out what I do but they become bored quite quickly.
    as someone else has said it is easier to feel pleased for people when you don't know them but there is not much you can do except keep going yourself.
    • hamsterfan1
    • By hamsterfan1 12th Jan 18, 5:48 AM
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    • 12th Jan 18, 5:48 AM
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    I introduced my husband to comps he enters less and wins more than me
    prood gran to 4 lovely boys
    • I-Owe-You
    • By I-Owe-You 31st Jan 18, 9:27 AM
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    • 31st Jan 18, 9:27 AM
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    • 31st Jan 18, 9:27 AM
    I'll join you in sounding a bit jealous/selfish etc...and please don't judge me for being honest, but this is exactly why I keep my comping hobby quite close to my chest.

    Aside my immediate family, I don't really tell anyone else. It's only natural if people see the possibility of what you can win they'd join in too.

    Its for this reason I cannot get my head around why anyone gloats to the media for a quick buck.

    I appreciate we all started somewhere though. Fingers crossed you get a big win soon x
    • BlueBella
    • By BlueBella 31st Jan 18, 9:59 AM
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    • 31st Jan 18, 9:59 AM
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    • 31st Jan 18, 9:59 AM
    I must admit I like to keep wins to myself and my family too - mainly because I don't want to make others feel dishearted or jealous of me or begrudge me of my prize, whether it is big or small.

    If I see winners on social media talking about their big wins, I just let them pass and don't bother reading.

    I go by:



    So in other words, you may find yourself having a dry spell for a while but then all of a sudden a win or two will come your way ... and vice versa.

    And the only way to win prizes is to continue to enter competiions to win them - so don't give up! Good luck xxx
    A big thanks to all who post and sprinkling lucky dust to all who enter

    I never knew how strong i was until being strong was my only choice....Don't Judge My Path If You Haven't Walked My Journey....
    • Esmeralda78
    • By Esmeralda78 31st Jan 18, 10:36 AM
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    • 31st Jan 18, 10:36 AM
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    I'm envious of you and your ability to be so open and honest.

    No you're not a horrible comper or friend, you're just human. The only thing I would say is that I find it so much nicer comping in company. I wouldn't be motivated enough if I didn't have the friends I've made through comping and the friends I've introduced.

    It's easy to get carried away with the grass is always greener. I look at a lot of situations and feel envy. But unless you're willing to swap everything good and bad, just keep plodding on and your time for a big win will come.
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